u/slut4yauncld

Ofc every feeling is valid. But it seems like, it's only been a few days and the girls are just really pulling the men up on every little thing. They aren't letting them organically fall in love, but microanalysing what they're doing and getting upset when it's not how they want it.

I feel like love is a process, and they are all single and it just takes time and they are expecting everything instant.

Getting down the boys throats so early is pushing them away. And I write this as a girl. They're giving the power over to the guys, when they are in control of themselves and what they can elicit from others due to positive energy. No one can make you feel bad apart from yourself.

Yall is this empathy.

When I listen to music I make facial expressions which align with the music and I feel something maybe minor, but I don't have proper deep feelings

Like the facial expressions are 100% authentic. But I can't tel why I can't feel. Is this narcissism or something else? Cuz the expressions make me think I am feeling something or am blocked off

I'm pretty sure I have comorbid bpd npd and it's so weird cuz when the narcissistic side takes over I feel empty, evil, and I don't like it. In that moment I think 1000% I'm a bad person

But when the borderline side takes over, I know and am pretty confident I do good things, and feel stuff a bit for people. Idk it's weird. I can never tell the motivations behind what I do. I will be convinced I'm a good person one time and then bad another and I will be so so convinced, but I flip flop between these states

So I feel overwhelmed with negative emotions. Shame, fear, anxiety, guilt, etc.

But the positive emotions I don't really feel much. It's weird because I will smile, cry, and emote, but I don't FEEL it in the same way as negative emotions.

It makes me feel fake, and I just don't know why I'm like this. I do care about people, and do acts of care, but I don't feel it deeply in the same way I feel negative emotions

Does anyone relate?

I feel like I tend to split the most on people who are abusive. I defend the abuse early cuz I'm hypervigilent and it leads me to seperate bad qualities and good qualities and I split more often.

It's true o do split on non-abusive people too, but I feel like a big sign someone's abusive is if I'm splitting badly. And I hate the abusers will use the bpd label to invalidate me clocking their abuse

Can anyone else relate?

Grandiosity in vulnerable narcissism

You vulnerable npd's, do you have grandiosity? Is. You think you're better than other?

That's the only trait I don't think I have.

If someone lets me cross boundaries and kind of positions themselves as inferior then I'll view them that way and devalue, but majority of ppl I acc think I'm worse than.