u/soda_pop_dips

So my partner and i are both technically switches but I naturally play a more dominant role and my partner naturally plays more if a submissive roll with me. Lately they have been struggling with a really toxic work environment and it seeps into alomost everything they think about. Its also hard because they are neurodivergent so they get overstimulated by convorsations easily and any time i try to bring up ways we could go about exploring or trying to use kink as a way to wind down possibly its like the convo just never happens on taking the next steps or setting a definite plan on doing anything. But on MULTIPLE occasions they have expressed in earnest that they do want the same things and want to explore more and try new things but they just seem to get stuck in stress mode so often it never goes anywhere. Any advise on how to help them get out of this?

Ive been really curious lately about if anyone has actually managed to out a narc without getting the painful backlash of them either retaliating in some way or the information just falling on deaf ears when it comes to the people around them. How'd you avoid the backlash? Did you ever finally get through to anyone? Or is this one of those impossible things due to all the factors of a Narc weaving themselves into everything they have their hands on? Did you try thinking it would work and then it blow up in your face?

Been curious about if anyone has managed to out a narc and actually was able to not have a "bad ending" because of it. Like did you manage to avoid them giving any type of backlash? Or is this one of those things where it just can't be done without some sort of self destructing aspect due to their rage to get you back?