u/soeeluna

Servus ! Ich erhielt gestern die Zusage zum Hochschulwechsel, da ich in ein anderes Bundesland gezogen bin. Es ist also kein Fachrichtungswechsel, sondern wirklich nur die HS. Ich starte nahtlos ins nächste Semester, da es aber ein Pflicht-Praktikum gibt, würde sich mein Studium um wahrscheinlich 2 Semester verlängern.

Ding ist, dass ich vor meinem derzeitigen Studium bereits einen Fach.- + Hochschulwechsel unternommen habe und da man ja eigentlich nur 1x wechseln darf, bin ich nun etwas verunsichert.

Für das aktuelle SoSe nahm ich ein Urlaubssemester in Anspruch; erhalte derzeit also kein Bafög.

Nun möchte die neue HS bis zum 31.07 die Exmatrikulation meiner aktuellen HS und diese möchte zum 31.07 eine Rückmeldung/Zahlung für das WiSe, da ich sonst automatisch exmatrikuliert werde, obwohl das aktuelle Semester formell zum 30.09 endet.

Fragen sind:

Wertet das Bafög-Amt eine Exmatrikulation nicht automatisch als Abbruch?

Könnte das Probleme beim Folge- bzw. Neuantrag des neuen Studierendenwerks machen?

Verliere ich in der Zeit meinen Kindergeld-Anspruch?

Hi you guys, I’m looking to try kava for the first time as an alternative to ssris (tried it for 2 days and decided the side and possible long term effects weren’t worth it for me). My doctor tried putting me on to help calm my hyperaroused nervous system, irritabilty, social anxiety, adhd, and depression/lack of motivation.

Now, I’m not approaching this with hopes of finding a cure-all, I want to use this more as a crutch, so that I may better respond and process the things discussed in therapy.

With that being said, what strains would you recommend for a total newbie? Am based in Europe and have looked at Kava Europe for starters, but there’s little to no information on the differences between each strain which I suppose has to do with the EU’s strict regulations.

any advice is well appreciated

Hi all. I’m a woman in my early 20s. I was prescribed 50mg Zoloft and told to start with 25mg for 5 days before increasing. I'm only on day 2 and already wondering whether I should continue.

My psychiatrist thinks my biggest issue is my untreated PTSD and wants me to find a trauma-informed therapist. He described the Zoloft as more of a temporary tool to calm my nervous system so I can better engage in therapy, improve irritability, and function better overall.

I'm not anti-medication, but I'm struggling with the idea of taking an SSRI when I feel that many of my issues (anxiety, depression, ADHD-like symptoms, etc.) generally stem from PTSD/CPTSD. What worries me most are the sexual side effects and the risk of PSSD as I wouldn’t want to take the med for life or have to take another med to level things out if that makes sense. I've always had a high libido, I value intimacy in my relationship, and my partner and I want a large family in the future. The thought of losing that part of myself is honestly one of the main reasons I'm hesitant.

I'm also confused about the "temporary" aspect. Do people actually take Zoloft for 6-12 months and successfully come off it after doing therapy, or is that less common than doctors make it sound?

Part of me wonders whether, if I'm already this doubtful, I'd be better off focusing on therapy, exercise, sleep, and supplements like magnesium, zinc, L-theanine, and ashwagandha instead.

Has anyone else started Zoloft primarily because trauma was affecting their life? Was it worth it, and how did it affect your libido and ability to eventually come off the medication?

TL;DR: Day 2 of Zoloft, prescribed mainly as a temporary support while I find a trauma-informed therapist. Worried about sexual side effects, long-term dependence, and whether treating symptoms is the right approach when trauma seems to be the root issue. Looking for experiences from people who were similarly hesitant.

Hi, sorry in advance if this comes across as a rant.

So, boyfriend and I have been talking for a good 5 months now. Met over on CM and have been dating long-distance since. Hard-working, compassionate, loving man. 2 months into talking, he disclosed to me that he was struggling to quit 🌽.

Freaked me out because if there's one thing I can't do, it's marrying a man with a 🌽 addiction. Told him this much; he was very understanding and offered we take a short break in which I am to decide whether I want to continue pursuing this relationship. Told him I did because I do like him and thought the positives outweighed the negatives, and he promised he'd quit out of "love for me" – told him to quit out of love for God first.

Anyway, fast forward to today. We were on ft 2 days ago; I asked him how things were going, he did admit to falling ca. a month ago and apologised, as he thinks this issue is prolonging our betrothal because he doesn't want to ask for my hand unless he can promise to love me fully with his body, mind and soul. Emphasis on the body. I thought that was such a noble thing of him to say and I was being reassuring and optimistic during the call because objectively it is quite the improvement to go from "every other day" to "every other month", no?

So then whyyyy did I grow sick to my stomach today when the thought of him falling randomly popped up in my mind??? Am I being too harsh in my judgement? I fear it's because I'm pushing beyond my boundaries (I have a tendency to). I know I can't "fix" this for him, nor is it my responsibility, but has anyone been in a similar situation, and how did you navigate? A piece of advice for a chronic overthinker lol? Thanks..

Hey all :) My boyfriend and I are both Gen Z and have been having a lot of conversations about what a realistic Catholic future could actually look like.

We’d really appreciate advice from married couples (or those preparing for marriage) who’ve actually navigated this.

Ideally, we’d both love for me to stay home once children arrive, God willing. During seasons where I’m not pregnant or actively raising very small children, I’d absolutely be open to working, and I’d even be open to remote work once children arrive if that’s realistic. I‘m studying an education/social science, so I’m unsure whether that’s realistic at all.

One major thing for us is that I really don’t want to outsource the early years of our future children if we can avoid it. We also hope to minimise daycare if possible, both because of cost and because we strongly value being present during our children’s early formative years. Beyond that, I personally just deeply desire to be the primary caretaker during those years a) Because I’m literally studying for it and b) Would honestly feel heartbroken missing so much of that time.

So I guess my question is:

How realistic is this vision in today’s world? What did you have to sacrifice, adjust, or rethink? Did things work out differently than expected? What advice would you give young Catholic couples trying to prepare prudently for marriage and family life without becoming discouraged or idealistic?

I’d rather adjust expectations now than live in delusions lol