u/some_kind_of_onion

Okay, let’s say an ugly woman gets a boyfriend.

Then what? Society suddenly stops treating her like shit? People stop mocking her, avoiding her, humiliating her, or seeing her as lesser? One man finding her useable doesn’t erase a lifetime of systematic mistreatment.

These people talk about getting a boyfriend like it magically cancels out social discrimination.

Dicks are not a magic wand which unlocks respect or social acceptance. You’re reducing an entire social disadvantage down to male validation. That’s exactly the problem.

Dicks are not a special fix to our problems. A dicks existance won't fix shit. A man willing to fuck you changes zero.

"A relationship at any cost" is a mans goal, not an ugly womans goal. Our goal is basic human decency.

This sub is called true ugly women. Not "I dunno if I am ugly, I think my nose is kinda big 🥺" Oh boohoo.

You want to know how we know that we are ugly? We get physically aussaulted, we get actually punched and spat on, people take pictures of us, strangers on the street openly mock us, men literally never come up to us unless to insult us directly into our faces, men throw rocks at us, the list goes on.

And you come here to whine about your big nose?

If you're pretty, fuck off, this is not your space. We don't want you here, go fish for compliments elsewhere.

"But I want to spread positivity! No one is ugly! True beauty comes from within, and an ugly personality will never win!" Get that stupid disney shit out of here.

Edit: No idea why the flair says Question, I picked Venting. Welp. Edit2: Thanks Mod for changing the flair ❤️

"But you could get sex whenever you want!"
Translation: "A random man is willing to use your body for two minutes, avoid eye contact afterwards, and ghost you!"

How is this supposed to be ugly womens end goal?
How is that supposed to be some grand privilege?
How is that supposed to fix anything?

Some men out there fuck babies, corpses, warmed up food, and crusty socks. How is sex with them a magic cure?

Ugly women are constantly told we should be grateful for sexual attention from men who would never publicly claim us, defend us, date us, introduce us to friends, or even treat us like full human beings outside of sexual convenience.

People act like access to meaningless sex magically cancels out social rejection, humiliation, isolation, bullying, invisibility, and being treated like a joke your entire life.

It doesn’t.

We are not starving for sex. We are starving for normalcy, neutrality, and for basic human decency.

I've been spat on, punched, strangled, made fun of, received harsh results from strangers, shoved until I slammed onto the floor, and so much more violence from men. How is sex supposed to fix these things? Will having sex for a whole minute change their inhuman treatment to us?

And if sex alone is supposedly the ultimate validation, then by that logic lonely men should just download Grindr. A gay man somewhere will gladly sleep with them quickly and move on afterwards.

But suddenly they understand the difference. If they're still filled with some audacity, then they say "But I am not gay, I don't want sex with a man!", well, then ask a woman to peg you. Your hole will be used by a woman, that's still sex. Go have fun.

Being sexually usable is not the same thing as being desired.
And being wanted for a body part is not the same thing as being accepted as a person.

That’s the part people deliberately ignore when ugly women speak.

We are not demanding pretty privilege.
Not free drinks, not flowers, not worship, not constant praise.

Just basic dignity, basic inclusion, basic acknowledgment that we are human beings instead of defective women who should shut up and feel grateful someone would still masturbate into us.

They really think their dicks will make our life better. I genuinely don't understand how sex would be the cure-all. Emotional depths of croutons, I swear.

This was its answer:

The sketch has a very strong silhouette and reads immediately as a specific character rather than a generic face. A few things stand out:

• The profile is exaggerated in a deliberate way — prominent brow, long nose, recessed eye area, heavy jaw/chin. It gives the person an austere, severe, almost historical or aristocratic feel.
• The half-lidded eye and tight mouth make them look tired, detached, judgmental, or emotionally restrained.
• The slicked-back ponytail contrasts nicely with the harsh facial structure. It adds control and discipline to the design.
• The asymmetry around the hairline and temple gives the drawing more life; it avoids feeling too mannequin-like.

Right now the person reads as:

• exhausted,
• strict,
• intelligent,
• socially cold,
• possibly older than intended.

The sketch reads as somewhat androgynous, but I would lean slightly female because of:

• the hairstyle and ponytail presentation,
• the smoother skin treatment,
• the relatively small lips and narrow neck combined with stylized facial severity.

That said, the facial structure itself is strongly masculinized:

• heavy brow,
• pronounced nose,
• large jaw/chin,
• deep-set eye.

So the overall impression is “woman with unusually harsh/angular features” more than “man.”

As for attractiveness: the drawing does not aim for conventional beauty standards. It feels character-focused rather than idealized. Most people would probably read this face as unconventional or severe rather than classically attractive.

Welp. 🙃 I am strongly masculinized, socially cold, exhausted, and apparently exaggerated.

That's one of many, many reasons. Damn, I WISH they stared because I was attractive.

Children also stare at you when you're ugly.
They turn around multiple times, and keep staring.
I sat at a restaurant and on one of the tables across from ours sat a child, and they kept turning around just to stare at me. Just me, no one else.

Or another time, when I waited for the bus. The bus stopped in front of us, I was waiting for the door to open, and in front of me was a little boy.
He turned around, looked up to me, and genuinely looked afraid. Like I am there to eat him or something. He looked genuinely frightened.

I love the copes the normies tell us, they really make me laugh sometimes.