u/Positive-Face1705

>A few months ago one of my coworkers got really close with me after his wife “stopped appreciating him.” Every single day it was another sob story about how cold she was, how she never touched him anymore, how she was “emotionally abusive,” blah blah blah. I honestly felt bad for him at first because he acted SO convincing and everyone at work treated him like this poor neglected husband.

He started buying me lunch almost every day and would stay late just to talk to me in the parking lot. Nothing physical ever happened, but the flirting definitely started getting weird. One night he got drunk at a work event and admitted he’d been deleting messages between us because his wife was “crazy” and checked his phone. That immediately made my stomach drop because why are you hiding innocent conversations if they’re innocent?

Then things somehow got even weirder.

His wife actually messaged me herself one night. At first I thought she was going to accuse me of something, but instead she was being SUPER friendly and weirdly flirty. She started joking that her husband “obviously had a type” and then casually asked if I’d ever “be interested in joining them sometime.” Like fully trying to test the waters for a threesome while I’m sitting there realizing this marriage is way messier than I thought.

I awkwardly laughed it off because honestly I didn’t even know how to respond to that conversation. But after that I started paying closer attention and realized none of their stories matched up. He said she was controlling, she said he disappeared for hours at a time, and BOTH of them acted way too comfortable involving random women in their relationship drama.

Fast forward to last week and she messages me again asking if I knew anything because he suddenly changed his password, stopped coming home certain nights, and kept talking about a “female coworker.” At that point I felt guilty enough that I sent screenshots of our conversations because I realized I’d probably been manipulated into some weird situation without even understanding itt.

Apparently I wasn’t the only woman he’d been talking to. She found out about multiple girls, hidden charges on a secret credit card, and the fact he’d been lying about where their money was going. She’s currently talking about filling for divorce

Anyway the kimchi, cucumber, rice, and seaweed wraps were amazing.

Several of OOP comments, all on being asked why she didn't think anything of a man buying her lunch​​:

-Genuinely thought we were being friendly to eachother, I know I knowwww

-Not gonna sit here and lie the guy is drop dead gorgeous but I’m not interested in him anything further. I thought I was being sweet because I’ve always been good at giving advice to people. Totally forgot men take the listening ear thing completely different..

-I’ve been told my whole life I’m pretty naive.

Pretty naive is underselling it, girl, you're the whole empty toolshed.

I just think she knew all along, or at least suspected, but is now playing dumb when it came out.​

I have never watched a crime documentary in my life. I don't watch the news.

Yet, every single day I come on the internet and there's something about a sex-related violent crime against a girl or women. Women in their sixties, nineties, it doesn't stop, man, and it seems the perpetrators get younger.

Am I crazy, or is everybody just so desensitised to it?

It's insane how victim-blaming is so normalised, because a majority of these are done by dads, uncles, boyfriends, husbands, et.c, in these girls/women's own home or neighborhood! Old ladies getting raped/murdered in their own beds by teenage boys!​

Is there anywhere that is safe? Does the danger ever go away?​

Fuvk this world.​

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I am dejected. Is this all I am seen as?

And before asking if I'm imagining things, TWO OF THEM SAID THIS TO MY FACE!!

One was dating my friend and made this comment when he came to our room and I told him she wasn't here. Chat, this mf said it as if I should take it like a compliment.

Another said it through text after I told him I wasn't interested in hooking up without a proper relationship.

What's even ironic? They were both ugly. One objectively far more chopped than me, but my oh my, what nerve he had. He looked like a alien cockroach.

Remember that meme circulating a few days ago? The ugly boys were upset and emotional, but that's because the meme spoke the truth.

"Oh, I wish I have the confidence of an ugly man."

Don't ever, ever let any ugly man tell you he would date a woman on his level of physical appearance. They only want to use you, but save actual relationships for the good-looking women.

Anyone seen the first two episodes? Tell me what you think.

I am thinking of adding this one to my weekend watch but would like to hear some feedback. The first two episodes are 7.0 and 6.2 on IMDb which isn't looking up when you take into consideration how the other seasons episodes rate. ​​(6.5 to 8.5).

Anyhow, a little bit about the new season, it seems to be about a man stuck in a supernatural mental asylum, where he will confront his inner demons.​​ Welp.

1. This is just a thought; there is no guy being held at bay over this, so don't worry.
2. I know everyone's entitled to their choices and standards and whatnot, that's not really what I'm here for. I'm more trying to get a feel of what a guy might say if I tell him I'm okay with him watching regular schmegular porn but would draw the line at Onlyfans.

​​There's usually an emotional connection. You could have seen every skin cell on a regular pornstar's snatch, and wouldn't know what her favourite color is, wouldn't even know if her eyes are hazel or green. You don't follow her on Twitter. You don't even know her real first name.

But the gamer girl whose OF you're subscribed to? That's different. You know what her laugh sounds like. You think she's cool for reading the entire X-Men comics. You know she likes some random East Asian candy no one's ever heard of. You think she's cultured for knowing Spanish. You randomly think of something she said during a livestream and you smile to yourself. You like her. There's some emotional connection there. You follow her across all socials, fantasise about doing cute girlfriend things with her. It's different.

I think it's cheating, emotionally, like.

If I was thinking of getting together with a guy and I find out he watches someone(s, man or woman) on OF, that's a no for me. I'll pass. If we are dating already, I genuinely would consider that grounds for a breakup, and yes, even a divorce if we're married​​. I'm outta here. Is this too much?

Edited to add​: Yes, this goes for me, too. I don't watch OF.

As a woman, especially.

My mother talks down to me, ignores me, doesn't take any question I ask with any amount of seriousness, makes me feel unheard and worthless.

She also unironically believes The Wall thing. (Women lose "value" as human beings past a certain age.)​ We're from a very patriarchial society (males are valued more than females)​, so it's strange my mother is more in this regard.

Meanwhile my father actually listens to my questions and gives answers, actually conversates with me and doesn't talk at me.

It's ruined my opinion of men and women and I often catch myself thinking cruelly of women but not holding men up to the same expectations and standards.​​ I'm always trying not to​. Even the smallest things, like using using a "female" slur or insult on a woman (bitxh, hoe, slutt, etc)​​. I either use them on men too for equality or use the more genderless ones on women (Ahole, fool, moron, etc.​)​

I'm not proud of it.

It was these traditional women who raised the independent types today. ​

I know everyone loves to blame the dreaded online "feminists," but from some of these women's own mouths, they've said it was their very traditional, got-married-at-sixteen-first-baby-at-nineteen,​ six​-children sixteen-grandchildren​​ stay at home grandmas who encouraged them to stay in school, have their own money.

I have five siblings, mother was a stay at home. It was a good marriage, they're still together and all, but I saw how she strapped for money for herself was, ​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​and I didn't like it. Even loving husband can look down on his wife because she isn't educated, isn't employed.

A smart person learns from his mistakes.

A smarter one learns from others', so that he will not have to learn from his own.

Women who have lived these live​s themselves are telling their daughters and granddaughters to be more financially stable, to not get married young.

I cannot attest to this personally as I barely knew my own grandmothers, but I saw a livestream recently that had me thinking.

It was a guy playing video games with his grandma, they also played a card game where he asked her questions about her life.

She got married at 18 and had four kid​s.​

She said she regretted getting married that early. Perhaps she should have enjoyed her life more before becoming responsible for other humans. Why is this seemingly common? ​

No amount of propaganda can ever be more convincing than girls seeing their own mothers and grandmothers tied in marriages​ to men who cheat/beat them/didn't love them because these women did not have the finances to leave, struggles that sons are often oblivious to noticing. It's not these sons fault; we both live different realities.

This doesn't only go for those who grew up in homes with awful marriages. It goes for us who grew up in so-called happy homes and marriages, too.​

I​​ speak for myself. My parents have a great marriage. However, my very traditional stay-at-home ​mother struggled juggled raising six kids and making a bit of money for herself on the side, and if I could avoid being in that hard situation, why not?​​​​​​

Why the hell not?

She didn't give me a speech​​. She didn't need to. Seeing her experience firs​t-hand was enough.

You think several emotional tweets by feminists can create such a strong resolve?

No, I really can't wrap my mind around this.

The entire community knows about you two long before this point. A second choice,a spare pssy for two decades. I cannot imagine being this much of a loser. Are these people real.