r/trueuglywomen

Found out about this on Monday because I complained about something to do with my birth control to this guy that I’ve been working with for quite some time.

He went quiet and I assumed it was just a case of the dude being uncomfortable about female reproduction stuff. Standard. Whatever.

Then he piped up with “I hope this isn’t presumptuous, I’m just realizing I’m really poorly informed on this but are you having to use that [my named hormonal bc method] because trump has made it too hard to get regular uuuh…I guess estrogen? What is it called is it all always called HRT?”

I was confused as to why he’d bring up HRT but I assumed it was just due to being VERY uneducated, especially since he’d just said he knew he was very ignorant, so I said “I mean birth control is not even close to the same thing as HRT”

To which he responses “no, yeah, I know! That’s why I’m wondering if you’re taking it because you’re like…in maintenance for transitioning and it’s a lower dose or a less expensive option? Or is it like because of the trump administration messing with trans health care stuff?”

I felt like my stomach dropped out my ass when it hit me what this man, who I have known for a long time, was actually asking me about.

I said back to him “I take birth control so that I don’t get pregnant”.

He laughed awkwardly then went quiet then looked deeply uncomfortable and turned red and apologized vaguely.

And it was just washing over me. All this time this man had thought I was trans. I was upset and I kind of aggressively told him “I am literally a cis woman. I was born female. I have a uterus”.

He apologized again and then told me as if it would make things better that EVERYONE from a certain group of work related people had fully been under the impression that I was trans.

And when I think back it all makes sense. Weird comments that I thought were just woke white folks not knowing how to talk to a black woman. Strange compliments that make a LOT more sense now that I realize people thought I was AMAB.

I’m not tall.

I’m 5’5”.

It’s not a height thing.

The worst part? When I expressed how upset this made me I got called transphobic.

I posted myself on there simply asking for advice and got destroyed then I looked at the sub and it’s full of attractive women begging for attention and simps in the comments complimenting them.

Like…hello??? I don’t even know how that’s possible. I feel so unwanted. Not even the CREEPS want me. What hope do I have?? I’m never going to have a relationship, or get married. I mean people even avoid being my friend because of the way I look. It all sucks.

Look, we get it. Some women are born pretty. It's just how the world is. But... Women who weren't born pretty and they go from being ugly to pretty by interventions without mentioning they got something done, is not a good thing. It's stupid. Because, you convince others that you WERE born like that, tell others that all you did to improve your looks was by DRINKING WATER OR HAVING GOOD SKINCARE, without telling others that you DID get cosmetic work done and try bringing down the ugly women, is actually hilarious

One more thing

PEOPLE ARE SO DUMB. LIKE HOW IS SKINCARE GONNA MAKE YOUR FEATURES MORE SHARPER?

People say that if you have good skincare and a balanced diet, you'll look beautiful. Um, hello?? I do have good skin so why am I still being treated like trash? It's barbaric because people think that skincare actually changes how your facial features appear but no, they don't.

Ugh God

Just get me out of this darn world where everything is being done UNFAIRLY....

He told me that he didn't find me attractive, and that he would rather be friends, even though he avoids talking to me much

He spend two weeks here, and I am lucky to live in a pretty cool city, and he told me that he wanted to meet me just to have someone to hang out while getting to know the city.

We had sex only like twice in those two weeks, and only from behind. When I got on top, he went totally soft. He avoided touching me much, we never kissed even. And every evening he would leave around 8-9pm to go to his hotel, and only see me later in the afternoon. I think he probably went out with other women quite honestly. I tried to not get too sad about it

Also if we went out, he would just talk all the time about I needed to change my appearance, like get jaw surgery (I am ugly, but I really don't think that I need jaw surgery), braces and basically a whole another face, other hair, other everything.

Now if we ever text, is because I write him. And he insists he isn't seeing anyone, but that he still doesn't want me and even tells me to go date other men. This man crossed the ocean to meet. And he is a true, real incel who would compulsively post on reddit about how no woman wanted him, and who I consoled for literal years on his insecurities. Even someone like that does not want me.

My life is also in complete shambles because I am too ugly to even keep a job, I was getting bullied hard by a hot woman at work and when I spoke up, all the stupid men there defended her and I got fired.

Truly feeling at my end. I also got bullied so hard by my boss afterwards (he wants to fuck this woman so badly and acts awkward af around her), that I went through a mental crisis and cut off all my hair and now I look even uglier fml

23f, I usually don’t or don’t try to not think of my pass childhood bc i cannot change anything. But lately, my mind has me thinking about how, I had a pretty face at (7-8) and potential if I didn’t have neglectful parents who teach me like basic self up keep (at least hygiene), lost weight as a child instead of making fun of me for it, and keep me socialize instead of being isolated/awkward. Damn it I would’ve been pretty

Growing up big, my family make slick comment like I would get slice of cake, I would just hear “ ooh look at her now, just stalking the cake” or my cousin would call me “Amazon” (I thought she was referring to my height but it was my weight) Yet still made the unhealthy food that made me fat in the first place & would let me overeat.

I wasn’t taught about intimate hygiene and my mother would call me “pissy” for my overwhelming down there odor until I learned that I had chronic BV and started waxing bc I was really hairy. She could at least could’ve took me shopping for girly clothes other than oversized men t shirts and wide jeans.

I became lazy and numb bc I burdened peoples time when I was the last one to pick up at any events. Most performance I had she didn’t show up due to work, or she bring her insufferable bf (at the time) who would purposely ruin my day, so I gave up on doing anything and spent most days on the alone, practically isolated, on computer or boredom eating. Which make me feel loss all my spark.

Now wishing that I was more concerned about my looks then instead of now and I look at the damage I’ve done to my body.

From what I’ve gathered from this sub, a lot of people have given up on trying to be attractive because they think that they are fundamentally ugly and the other half complains about their inability to get it because of financial problems which is totally understandable.
I’d like to start off by saying that i’m in a lucky position to get some of my “cosmetic” work covered by insurance and taking debt for the other half. I used to be stuck with the mindset that ugliness is “written in my DNA” and that i could never escape it but in the recent years where everyone is getting a bunch of surgery and what not,60% of the population (depending on your location of course) has had some sort of cosmetic enhancement done. That lead me to think “why the FUCK should i stay ugly and let everyone step on me when i could just do the same?????”; especially since nowadays you can get work done and still have it be “undetectable” and live your life like all the naturally pretty people. I’ve also seen people say that getting work done is “cheating” but why would i stop myself from having a normal life that attractive girls do nothing for and just get????? I honestly hope that once I’m really attractive i can seize some funds to start a clinic that helps people in need free of charge so that they don’t have to sell a kidney to be able to look at anything other than the pavement when walking down the street.
I’d even go as far as to say i wish people who bully others based on appearance alone should have to pay damage fees that could be used to fund surgery for people they bullied but that’s wishful thinking and is totally not gonna happen.
I honestly don’t know where i’m going with this rant but I’m just so mad and disappointed with how we all have to deal with the trauma and insecurity of being ugly and have no cheap way to “fix it” while the people that ridicule us just get to live on freely without any consequences. Thinking back on my life i’m so fucking sad that i’ve lost the chance to properly build a personality and do cool things because i’d just get bullied and shunned for being ugly, as if i was an “untouchable”….

*Finally found a place to vent about my sags of flesh without getting banned for spreading hate????

ineed to get this off my chest (literally)

Im 24, i weight about 70 kg (154 lbs)

I have the floppiest, most disgusting looking sacks of flesh a person could possibly have.

I have hated them since I can remember them starting to grow.

They are uneven, the skin looks paper thin and veiny. They aren’t even filled properly, it’s like someone stopped filling a water-balloon at 17%.

It’s as if my grandma handed down hers from the grave.

It’s as if I gave birth to 5 children and breastfed them till adulthood.

I had a boyfriend once, i remember one time he turned over in bed and pushed down on of them and I had a complete meltdown.

Not from the pain (it hurt a little)

Not from him being clumsy

but the sheer embarrassment of having such long fucking slabs of meat on me that someone might fucking trip over them.

No, we’re not done.

The nipples? Gigantic. Why? No clue. My mom has normal ones, (dad too)

To give you a figure it almost the size of a Pringles can lid. Fuckmeright.

The only thing those things can do is look down and give me the worst back-pain in history. I can’t function properly without a bra. Have you guys ever had a perfect bra moment? I haven’t. All the commercial bra’s aren’t meant for me. Woman at the bra store felt silent after she made me wear the 100th bra just for it not the fit right. Wondering if i’d take offence if she’d give me a granny bra.

I’m at my limit. My female doctor doesn’t see it as a valid medical reason, (mind you this will sound petty) but she is literally flat. Girly does NOT have to worry about bra’s.

I’ve told her multiple times how it affects my daily life and how the pains are getting worse.

She gives me exercises and tells me to be happy and accept what I have. Girl.

Idk what do yall think about trans women venting on here is this a safe space for trans women

Idk what else to say. I have a masculine face. Big nose, big forehead, cleft chin, and every time I look in the mirror I feel like a monster.

I've been bullied all my childhood for my looks. One of my friends told me I have "unique and unusual features". I feel like guys cringe when they talk to me. I don't like being friends with pretty women because the attention they get makes me feel resentful. I don't have the same experiences they do. I have no experiences at all.

I wanna be loved and considered pretty enough for someone to want to be in a relationship with me, but I will never get this. I feel horrible for masturbating when I don't deserve to feel good. I'm too ugly to feel good

No man is ever going to love me ever but it is just something I need to accept.

I just feel like everything feels worse. Mainly because I just get jealous as fuck. Im lucky enough to not work during summer so tend to hide and go out at night. I feel like everyone gets this slap of glow up that doesn't seem to apply for me.

Okay, let’s say an ugly woman gets a boyfriend.

Then what? Society suddenly stops treating her like shit? People stop mocking her, avoiding her, humiliating her, or seeing her as lesser? One man finding her useable doesn’t erase a lifetime of systematic mistreatment.

These people talk about getting a boyfriend like it magically cancels out social discrimination.

Dicks are not a magic wand which unlocks respect or social acceptance. You’re reducing an entire social disadvantage down to male validation. That’s exactly the problem.

Dicks are not a special fix to our problems. A dicks existance won't fix shit. A man willing to fuck you changes zero.

"A relationship at any cost" is a mans goal, not an ugly womans goal. Our goal is basic human decency.

It’s just so fucking unfair. I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately because I’m having a horrible body image day (worse than usual) and I just want to throw myself a pity party. I had a mental breakdown this morning while getting ready because I’m just so fucking sick of being ugly.

I’m the only ugly woman in my family and it really sucks. It’s almost laughable how badly I lost the genetic lottery- I have a beautiful mother and a beautiful sister but I look nothing like them.

The reason why I’m ugly is because I look exactly like my father. I look like a man and I’m not even exaggerating when I say that my father and I basically have the same face- it was like he had gone into a lab and cloned himself because I inherited every single one of his facial features. His face shape, his eyes, his nose, his mouth, his jaw. I feel like if I had been born male, I’d be decent looking but nature decided to fuck me over and I was born female. My father’s features look horrible on a woman.

I know that this sounds horrible but I remember hating my dad when I was younger because I looked like him- it was because of all of the bullying, mockery and mistreatment I faced in my life because of the facial features he passed down to me. But as I got older I realized that I shouldn’t hate him- I really do love my father and I know for a fact that he’ll be the only man in my life that will ever love me. He just wanted to bring a child into the world to love and nurture.

My mom was recently cleaning out her closet and found a bin of old photos- most of them were taken around the time I was born so she asked if I wanted to look at them. I’m guessing that she thought I’d be interested in seeing my baby pictures, but the thing that caught my eye was how stunning my mother looked back then. She was 29 when she had me and I’m 32 now. She was already married and had two children by the time she was my age, and I’ve never even held hands with a man yet.

Sometimes I wonder how different my life would be if I looked like my mother instead of my father.

I’m so depressed. I’m not pretty at all and almost every single relationship i’ve been in was me getting used. Dumb of me to think these men could love me and mind you all these men were my looks match or ugly (fat and all). Every one of them I cared about and loved deeply truly and honestly and each one of them can tell you how much of a good girlfriend and “wifey material” I was but couldn’t stop wanting or lusting over attractive women and wanting attractive women that wouldn’t even spit on them if they were on fire LMAO. For the last one i opened up the relationship for him so he can talk to and be with other girls but he still didn’t want me because i wasn’t attractive or a “muscle mommy” meanwhile he’s fat af and still wants this girl that literally made him beg like a dog, legit blocked him, ruined his reputation to all his other friends and literally used him for his money LOLL. Being a good girlfriend or being there for men at their lowest doesn’t count when ur ugly or unattractive to them. Meanwhile i’ve want to get surgery to be attractive since I was like 13 (im 25 now) because i was relentlessly bullied for my looks and humiliated by most of my school, girls and boys alike but first theres a lot of stuff i’ll have to fix and second i have health anxiety and IM SO SOOO SCARED OF SURGERY. Doesn’t help im on the spectrum and can’t keep friends to save my life cus they all think im weird. It doesn’t matter how good you are girls, don’t bother giving love to anyone or even people pleasing, if ur ugly the world will treat you as such no matter what, I give up and i’ll just live and be as selfish as possible i mean it. Let ppl call you a bitch or bitter or oh shes ugly thats why she did x y and z. It doesn’t matter if your good to people they will find a way to hate you anyways because you’re ugly. Men (also women) will ignore you or humiliate or make a joke out of you just cus ur ugly and just literally ignore them the same way and pretend everything they do doesn’t exist or is annoying or don’t even react at all which i knowwww is so fucking hard especially cus im sensitive but i’ll do it, I literally don’t care. I give up on caring and being kind, that side is only for animals and people that are sweet first. Plus fuck ugly men if you find a man ugly don’t even give him a shot he literally would use you or discard you or be the first to humiliate you, no benefit or kindness to anyone unless they actually go out their way to make big efforts. I literally will treat all of humanity the same way they treated me because if im punished for just existing you’ll be punished for treating me like shit for existing. Idk this is a while mess of a vent idk anyways…

okay idk if the title comes off as weird but lemme explain, in middle school some guys used to say i dont look like a girl and i think i started to force myself to believe i enjoyed being called a male to cope with the bullying, i hate that my old bullies will never know how bad it was that i gaslight myself into thinking i was smtg i wasnt, i developped gender dysphoria and i started harming myself bc of some stupid guys, i feel like i wasted my teen years by coping this way, i wish i was actually trans so that those feelings wouldnt have been “ pointless ” yk

both on the internet and in real life.

whenever someone ugly comes up on my for you page, all the comments making fun of them are written by people who are either completely average or actually below average. 4.5s making fun of 3s. sometimes it’s even 3s making fun of 2s.

and in school, the guys who made fun of me the most are also completely average looking, except one guy who had a nice face but was very short.

back in middle school there was a girl who was EXTREMELY beautiful, like victoria’s secret model level beauty. and she was the least judgemental person. she never participated in bullying.

i assume they do this as a way to cement their place in the attractiveness hierarchy?

i guess it’s similar to when someone does or says something morally wrong and they point to someone
worse than them to say “see!! i’m not that bad!!”

keep in mind in this post i am talking only about the act of bullying. attractive people have the same thoughts but dont verbalize it.