u/soup-slurper

Sometimes in my day to day activities I find myself “forgetting” to breathe. It also happens with exercise but I feel like that’s more normal, everyone has to control their breath when exerting themselves. But even when I’m standing still I have to actively make myself breathe sometimes. I think maybe it happens more when I’m concentrating on something I’ll hold my breath unconsciously but also when I’m just standing there thinking about something

I, (20f) have felt a bit rejected by my boyfriend (21m) sexually a lot recently. He has eczema and while his flare ups have been much less severe recently, he still gets overstimulated by touch easily. This sucks for me because I love to touch his body non sexually and sexually because I like how it feels to touch him and I like making him feel good.

He also works full time at a hospital (12 hour shifts 4x a week) and is part time in school. I’m a full time student and don’t work. I cannot IMAGINE how draining it must be to work in such stressful and gross situations and for so long. I try to be aware of it but honestly I don’t think I do a good job. A lot of the time we hang out after he has work and are in very different headspace’s.

I don’t have an extremely high sex drive but I would ideally prefer to have some kind of sexual interaction 3-4 times a week. My boyfriend says he could probably go months without having sex. I’ve explained it makes me feel insecure because he doesn’t feel the same way about touching me, and I feel alone and rejected due to having to initiate every time and compromise to have sex when he wants to even when I really don’t want to because I know that’s a rare occasion. He’s explained that work is draining and sex is draining too, on top of his skin being sensitive in a painful way due to the eczema.

He does do lots of very sweet things for me romantically and I do the same for him so I’m not entirely unhappy in the relationship, but it does bother me. Especially thinking long term, if this is our “sexual prime” and in the future he won’t have any sex drive at all. I did in som way go outside of our relationship for sexual contact once when I got a sexual DM and replied back, but I told him immediately after it happened and still feel horrible guilt about it to this day. He has gone outside of our relationship with porn. I bring that up to say that I never want to be in a sexually frustrated place where I could make a stupid hurtful decision like that ever again.

We have talked about this some, I guess I’m looking for advice for other things to talk about with him to help. We now allow porn in the relationship and masturbation is always fine with us too, but he feels insecure that I use toys when I masturbate. Thinking about it this morning, I realized I get frustrated when my partner doesn’t do foreplay or is more rough with me than intimate, but I do the same myself often when I masturbate. I go straight to the vibrator with porn, no sensual touching before or after. What kind of things can I do to enhance self pleasure more to make it comparable to sex?

I just harvested a truffle on my farm that looked a bit odd, I thought it was a glitch. The truffle looked like only the top half of a normal truffle with a hard line cut off in the middle of it, so that the bottom half was missing. When I harvested it, I got one regular quality truffle (typically pick up only iridium quality due to profession) and one truffle oil! I haven’t been able to find anything online about a “rare” truffle that might do this purposefully, so we think this was just a lucky glitch? I’m playing on mobile btw.