u/soxrox12

Lately I've been seeing two extremes about SAHM. The left side which is that if you become a sahm your husband is going to leave you and you're doing yourself an injustice by living to serve your family. Then on the right I see so many pictures of the perfect traditional SAHM life. Wake up at 5 to make husband's lunch, then have hot dinner ready on the table when he's home. But also make sure you and the kids look your best for him and the house is clean and do all the housework on your own while raising the kids. And they're somehow doing this while married to a blue collar man working 4am-8pm or just straight up on the road several days at a time.

It seems like no matter what, someone considers me a failure. I'm not at all a natural at the feminine homemaking stuff.

I never liked babysitting. I was never taught to cook or meal plan or run a house. I went to college and started a career in computer science that I *gasp* enjoyed!

I stay home with my kids because I truly think that's better for them that being with strangers instead of their parents. I'm learning to be a homemaker because I want to be that traditional wife and mother. I'm just not good at it at all and I'm struggling to find others in a similar position.

I seek advice on how to be a good homemaker, but it seems like it either comes from an older grandma who had kids back when parents lived with you and homes were tiny, middle aged grandmas who only had 2 kids 5+ years apart, or other younger moms that do content for money and this have paid help.

For context, I have a 1.5 year old and 4 month old and my husband and I are both mid 20s. I want to like being a sahm so bad, but boy am I in the trenches.

I am currently fully left hand dominant, non ambidextrous. However, I've been told that around age 1.5-2 I had a preference for my right hand. I wound up having a cast from my right hand up to my elbow for several months around this time though to remove a double thumb. My parents said I just learned to do things with my left hand and never went back to right. I'm curious if anyone else experienced something similar? Sometimes I'm not sure if things about born lefties apply to me since it sounds as if I was originally a righty.

Hello, lovely people! I wasn't sure whether to ask this here, or in the ASL subreddit.

I am not fluent in ASL by any means, but I've learned a little through the years. I started teaching my (hearing) 21 month old a few signs before he could talk. Since he still doesn't speak much, I've been trying to teach him more signs to help him communicate as he will repeat signs, but not spoken words. I've been wanting to teach him how to sign for family members. My question is whether I should teach him generic family signs such as grandmother and uncle or if it would be okay to create more specific signs for people? For example, my mom goes by Gigi, not grandmother. Or, would it be okay to teach something akin to a name sign for my brother rather than teaching him to fingerspell the whole name? I don't know any Deaf people IRL to assign anyone official sign names.

I don't want to appropriate ASL or offend anyone in the Deaf community. I do plan on raising my toddler with English as his first language, but I think basic ASL could be a great tool! Thoughts?

If it matters, I am technically HoH with hearing aids, but identify as hearing since I can get by without them.

I have a 19 month old (not potty trained) and 3 month old. I swear every couple hours one of them stinks up the place SO bad. 2 under 2 life at its finest 😂