u/spicy_tofujuseyo

Hello. I'm currently writing fanfic for fun but turned out it's not so fun anymore bcs I can't seem to find the right words in English for "mata sayu" or maybe it's just my English brain that lacks the vocabulary for it.

Thank you.

The first time it happened, I was in 4th grade. He was a teacher. It happened for 2 years.

During my high school days, it happened again. I didn't know how many times or who were all of them. Different day, different person. But during this period of time, the harassment didn't happen as often as it used to be during my primary school years.

During my university days, it happened again. There was one person. He was a classmate. He tried a few times. He said he was just joking. I felt so fcking fed up so I broke his nose. I wish I could do more.

During my work days, it happened again. Sometimes I didn't even feel anything about it. I didn't even feel angry or sad, I was just feeling empty and tired. I punched one of them in the face and reported him to my higher up.

I broke another man nose for sexually harassing my friend. And another different time, I slapped another man so hard on the face there was blood because he made a rape joke about my friend. God, I wish I did more than that. They deserved so much more than a slap and a broken nose.

I'm now 32 years old and nothing really changed. The one thing that stay the same is the one who harassed me. They're all men.

As I getting older, I wish I would never stop getting stronger to stand up for myself and other women. I didn't feel much anymore whenever I get sexually harassed but sometimes the anger feel too much I wish I could make them pay with their life for doing this to me and probably other women or girls too.

I will try to keep this simple.

Some men really need to stop thinking this world revolves around them.

For example: when a woman write "looking for platonic friendship" that means exactly what she writes.

FRIENDSHIP. PLATONIC.

If you're confused what "friendship" really mean, go look up at your translator app or whatever. Just don't go into women's DM with a totally different intention and some other stupid, shameless questions or even worse; brainless, unwanted picture.

And the fact that this post exist, if I were a man, I'd be ashamed.

EDIT: One of you literally saying that since I was not being THREATENED or ASSAULTED, this can't be sexual harassment. I'm telling you now, sending suggestive messages or sexual innuendos, sending a dick pict without consent is sexual harassment. Please don't do that.

EDIT II: Since we're all adult here, I hope you get what I mean with "brainless, unwanted picture" or do I need to spell it out for you?

>And the fact that this post exist, if I were a man, I'd be ashamed.

EDIT III: If you're not sexually harassed anyone or an enabler, you should not be mad bcs this is not about you

Hello there.

This is not my first post here, but this will be my first post where I look for certain gender as friends. I want to look for girl friends or female friends.

The reason is actually simple. All my girl friends who are around the same age as me, they all have married now and I'm not stupid and selfless enough to not understand that our friendship will change sooner or later. A bit sad reality you will face as you're older.

So, if you're a girl, a woman, let's be friends! Any age is fine. My interest is a bit boring, I'm sorry. I enjoy reading, watching movies especially thriller or horror, cooking, a bit of gardening in my free time. And I hope you won't be annoyed whenever I bring "boring" topic in our conversation like corruption, environment, climate change, criminal stuff because I will always talk about it. My government is fucked up, the bar is in the deepest pit of hell, so yeah I always need to vent somewhere. But if you're uncomfortable with that, I won't force you to listen and we don't have to be friends.

Also, I'm currently learning Korean, so if you're currently learning the same thing, let's be friends! We can be study partners.