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Hello! This is kind of a need advice/rant combo. I am on my 3rd pregnancy and I feel like I’m having a lot of trouble bonding with this pregnancy. I am 21 weeks tomorrow and At first I was really happy and excited but quickly went from that to having the worst first trimester ever (constantly sick every day all day like never before) and I thought I was having a girl. I have two beautiful boys but I also have always dreamed of having a girl and the relationship I never had with my own mother. Regardless we found out it’s our third boy and while I wouldn’t say gender disappointment but I was actually floored. After that though I was still content and we picked out our name and I bought some special outfits and had begun dreaming of my 3rd sweet little boy. Until I started having awful cramps followed by some spotting - sub chorionic hematoma and bed rest. Finally get off bed rest just to be told there is a blood type incompatibility (little-c antibody and high possibility of my baby developing hemolytic anemia). After this diagnosis I was referred to a high risk MFM specialist who will be monitoring the baby but also told me I have a marginal chord insertion and that this could create even more issues. They have given me a goal of making it to week 35 and then a likely induction. I feel like after all this my excitement is gone and I wake up every morning feeling dread. I have so much anxiety and the little kicks and flutters I was so excited to feel just remind me of the precious boy inside me who my body is just constantly failing in every way. I’m full of self loathing and I just don’t feel any connection to the baby or the pregnancy and I think it’s because I’m just so scared I could lose it all any moment. Both my other two pregnancies were totally normal and healthy so even though TTC took a while in didn’t anticipate issues after that part of it. I don’t really know what I’m looking for other than maybe someone who can relate to how I feel or some advice on managing the anxiety.

Like why are they all of a sudden constantly referencing Alice in Wonderland like it was so meaningful to them all along. They keep making it seem like it’s something it was so deeply important to them at one point, but we didn’t even hear about it until season five and it’s kind of driving me crazy.

Hi all I registered at Macy’s and bought a couple things off the registry so I could get the welcome box. However, it never arrived I kind of forgot about it until now so I just contacted the customer service line and they informed me that they discontinued the program as of March. I was bummed but the customer service representative did add $20 of star money to my rewards account so it might be something worth considering calling about if you have a registry already set up.

Hello all! My husband has Togolese citizenship and we are considering buying land there as a second home and maybe eventually a move. I have not yet been able to visit and we are a family of 5, so there is a lot to consider and still left to research. Does anyone have experience moving to west Africa they’d be willing to share? How difficult would it be to gain meaningful employment for me as a person who only speaks English? I have been trying to learn French for years but it is proving incredibly difficult for me and I’m still very much a beginner.