u/star4ngel

[slight tw for EDs and SH]

So, for context, I 16f have been talking to/ dating this girl 14f a grade below me for ~6 weeks and tbh, although we were kinda awkward at first, it’s going slow but GREAT (we held hands in the park last sunday 🤭🤭) and I really see this thing working out and us getting together and all things are going in the right direction. I’m planning on asking her to be my gf the day of the girls like girls movie afterwards.

One thing though is that I have quite the past of mental struggles: I struggled with multiple eating disorders in the past but mainly anorexia and went to outpatient treatment beginning of the year. I also have had my struggles with sh in the past esp up until november, doing my best to stay clean now.

Thing is, my scars are on my upper thighs and very noticeable and a bit red and i go to weigh ins at the clinic biweekly and to therapy weekly, so although I’m doing better than ever, it is still a big part of my life. If we work out, I won’t be able to hide it anymore. I’m scared she’ll stop liking me or find me weird if i tell her but I also want to be open and honest and not lie to her.

I have no idea how she feels about this type of stuff especially the scars since a lot of people like you less because of it and it makes me fear intimacy (which were miles away from but still)

Idk how and when to address it but ik i have to at some point, so i thought i’d ask you all.

so, I 16f have quite big and quite a lot of scars on my upper thighs, so it’s quite easy to hide them under long pants but summer is coming up and i’ve been really loving the micro shorts trend and would love to wear them.

I've also never really worn shorts due to body image related to an ed that i’ve been recovering from since beginning of the year, but now that i finally feel somewhat comfortable in my body, i want to. My legs have also gotten quite strong over the last weeks cause i’ve been going to the gym and want to kinda show them off.

The issue is that all visible ones (i have cut since then but they’re faded already, trying to stay clean tho) are quite pink/ red even though they are all at least 6-13 months old, but some people that are just uninformed might mistake the redness for freshness and i don’t want to trigger/ make anyone uncomfortable.

I’ve started wearing shorts in the gym about 2 weeks ago and nobody’s really said anything except for some looks, but gyms are really anonymous anyway and i want to expand my horizon of fashion to wear…

Would it be fine to do so, and if so, what would be the best way to go about it?

hey i’m 16 going to the cologne concert and i’m bringing a friend with me who isn’t into her a lot and i generally don’t really have anyone around me who’s in the fandom so i’m kinda hoping to connect there :)

im 15f talking to this girl 14f a grade below me and we've been crushing on each other for quite a while now without knowing the other does too. So, we've hung out like 3 times and on the 2nd time ( last sunday) we confirmed our mutual feelings and said that its a talking stage, so "kennenlernphase" in our language where we get to know each other and determine whether it's something to turn into a relationship.

the first 2 times were super nice, especially sunday after I knew her feelings for me, it was super fun and kinda romantic, but yesterday we spontaneously hung out after school and kinda ran into 2 issues:

1 being we don't really know what activities to do so we basically just walk around every time. (We went for coffee the first time and had a picknick the second time but) each time it ended with us just walking up and down the same street/pedestrian zone, including yesterday where we did just that.

2 is not something we spoke about but what I've noticed is that I don't really know how to not act platonic. I know I'm a lesbian for sure but she is my first ever actual (realistic) crush and I just end up talking to her like an acquaintance/ new friend and idk how to act romantic. I'm also super nervous and want to show her my feelings but don't want to make her uncomfortable.

During the break at shool for example we talked but it was rly short, I acted kind of awkward and like with an acquaintance and the topic was rly superficial. Idk how to behave because I'm genuinely interested in a relationship with her but just do not know how to get out of this awkward stage. (we do show our romantic interest but i'd just like the vibe to be flirtier/smoother/more dating-ish.) also should i ask her out on like a proper date, not just doin things together?