u/starry_cosmos

Introverted geek & parent seeking long term connections. I'm both family and career oriented, so what I'm looking for is pretty specific. Searching for a slow burn with someone who is also a parent, or at least likes kids and has their own things they deeply care about. My life is already full, so I'm only looking for connections that add to the richness.

I tend to be pretty cerebral/intellectual and love to analyze & interpret films/music. Loyalty and kindness are my love languages. I am a cybersecurity professional by day and a 24/7 chronic overthinker. I'm a huge PC nerd and always have been. I don't have as much time to play PC games these days, but my top choices in the last year have been Eve Online (the space MMO) and Factorio because my AuDHD brain apparently craves the familiarity of complexity lol. I also love retro games (N64, PS2). I do a bit of leather crafting and photography from time to time as well.

Placio/demi/sapiosexual, so sex isn't a high priority for me, but I'm not completely averse to it either. I do need to feel an emotional connection first, though. I much prefer cuddles and quality/parallel time. Once upon a time, I tried ENM, but I realized it wasn't for me. To level-set expectations, I'm ultimately looking for long-term compatibility rather than short term relationships or hookups.

Other things I'm into: metal, techno, sci-fi, and things that make me think too much. Clutch and Tool are my favorite bands, but for very different reasons. Tool has very reflective, Jungian lyrics that will take you on an existential journey. Clutch will take you to space in a 1973 Dodge Swinger or to fight monsters, then teach you how to make crab cakes.

Back in the late 90s or early 2000s, I used to watch a competition or trivia game show that was set in what appeared to be an abandoned facility or warehouse. The overall mood of the show was fairly low-budget/underground, and the host was kind of edgy - think along the lines of The Undertaker or a biker who "rendered judgment" upon contestants.

Hi there!

I'm 35, I work in IT, and a divorced single mom. I'm hoping to find someone I can connect with on a deeper level. Dating apps are exhausting, so this is my attempt to attract the right kind of people. Parenting is a big part of who I am, but I'm also an all-around nerd trying her best. Family is important to me, and I'd love to find someone I can share my life with. While I have tried ethical non-monogamy in the past, I am firmly monogamous. I am kinky and on the dominant side - however, as a demisexual this is less about sex for me and more about an interest in D/s relationship dynamics. I'm happy to discuss this in more detail, but I won't bring it up unless you do.

I am trans/nonbinary (agender/genderfluid), so queer connections are preferred! I have been on estrogen for 5 years and have a transfeminine body but often present myself somewhat androgynously. I am probably a better fit for bi/pan folx :) Both cis and trans welcome!

A bit about me:

• I'm AuDHD, so be prepared for niche interests and random infodumps! I definitely get along with neurospicy folks.
• I am a pretty big gamer. My main game right now is EVE Online - affectionately referred to as Spreadsheets in Space. It's like Factorio in MMO form. Outside of EVE, I gravitate towards action RPG/FPS like Skyrim, Borderlands, Hitman, and Half-Life. I also enjoy a good RTS from time to time (Civ 6 or Stellaris)!
• I enjoy movies and TV. The Matrix is my favorite movie, and I'm a longtime Bond fan. I love a good rom-com (shoutout to The Holiday) and I'll always say yes to something spooky. Especially psych-thrillers (Identity) and mindf&#ks (Inception, Cube, Pi).
• My taste in music is mostly metal and DnB. Tool, Meshuggah, Gojira, Clutch, Umek, The Prodigy. Basically: if it has a heavy rhythm or a good beat, I'm listening.

One thing to know upfront: I'm an asynchronous communicator by nature and sometimes necessity because of parenting. I love having an ongoing conversation we can dip in and out of. Think AIM-era energy...leave a message, pick it back up when we have had a chance to form a thoughtful reply. I'm really trying to be intentional about my social media usage, so if you're a "quick reply or nothing" person, we might frustrate each other. But if you like long-form, meandering, genuine conversation? I'm your person.

I can't wait to hear from you!

Hi!

I'm in my mid-30s and work as a cybersecurity manager. I've been in IT for the last 15 years and have been working in governance, risk management and compliance for the past 3-4 years in a regulated industry.

I have discovered that I actually really enjoy working on the legal side with our lawyers and compliance team. My experience includes M&A due diligence and working with vendor contracts, so I've spent a fair amount of time self-studying Corporate Law & Contracts already. I'm also familiar with privacy and data breach laws as well.

There are a couple of Master's programs that focus on legal studies which seem relevant to my career. However, I've gotten the feeling that they're potentially frowned upon by lawyers. I can't say with 100% confidence that I want to practice law, but some days it feels like a desirable exit strategy for me, as roles within the tech industry are increasingly volatile, especially for cyber executives who tend to change companies every 1-2 years. I have a computer science degree, so I'm also aware that patent agent/attorney is a possibility too - but I don't see myself as a litigator.

That said, I keep coming back to this. I'm a single parent, so I would have to tackle this one bite at a time, and I'm not in a position to move around. I'm curious to get other people's thoughts about the pros and cons of law school given my situation. Maybe there are other things I'm not even considering?

Hi!

I'm in my mid-30s and work as a cybersecurity manager. I've been in IT for the last 15 years and have been working in governance, risk management and compliance for the past 3-4 years.

I have discovered that I actually really enjoy working on the legal side with lawyers and our compliance team. My experience includes M&A due diligence and working with vendor contracts, so I've spent a fair amount of time self-studying Corporate Law & Contracts already. I'm also familiar with privacy and data breach laws as well.

There are a couple of Master's programs that focus on legal studies which seem relevant to my career. However, I've gotten the feeling that they're potentially frowned upon by lawyers. I can't say with confidence that I want to practice law, but some days it feels like a desirable exit strategy for me, as roles within the tech industry are increasingly volatile, especially for cyber executives who tend to change companies every 1-2 years. I have a computer science degree, so I'm also aware that patent agent/attorney is a possibility too - but I don't see myself as a litigator.

That said, I keep coming back to this. I'm a single parent, so I would have to tackle this one bite at a time, and I'm not in a position to move around. I'm curious to get other people's thoughts about the pros and cons of law school given my situation. Maybe there are other things I'm not even considering?