u/stfuloveless

I’m turning 21 in a week and I was planning on where I should go for my birthday, and realized that many places these days have a new rule about refusing service to those with vertical IDs despite the cardholder being 21 or older. Obviously I won’t have a horizontal ID on the day of my birthday, I would have to apply for a new one which will probably take a few weeks to arrive, so I was wondering if there were any places that I wouldn’t be able to go to on my 21st. Maybe places are going to be more lax for 21st birthdays, but I’m still curious if anyone here has been refused service anywhere for having a vertical ID. And on that note, what are some places that you guys would actually recommend? Thanks!

It’s straight up so annoying. Whenever we get into a little argument or something, he says the most ridiculous things as a “solution.” Just now I asked him if he’s found his ID because we’re leaving for vacation tonight, and of course he left it to the very last second. I asked why he hasn’t been looking when he had weeks to, and he said he has a photo of it and that it would be fine. I’m like what?? You’re gonna be driving, and also we will probably go out to a bar or something so you’ll be drinking. And he just goes, fine I’ll go to the dmv and get a replacement ID. This was so dumb it made me so mad, you think you can just walk in and get a new ID an hour later??? How dumb are you??? And this kinda stuff happens all the time and it makes me so frustrated. He claims it’s because he’s trying to come up with solutions but feels more like a “here, damn” kinda thing. He also does this to his mom, and I can tell she gets really frustrated too.

To provide full context this might be a little lengthier than needed, my apologies

I’ve been around dogs my whole life, I had one childhood dog who recently passed, and I have another dog who has been with us for 5 years now. Im in my 20s and live with my family, and we adopted a cat a few months ago who needed to be rehomed. She was my aunt’s cat, who she adopted from the streets, so she was an outside cat for quite some time. I think she’s about 7. The first few weeks at my house she was very stressed, but ever since I came home from college and spent lots of time with her daily, she has gotten pretty happy and comfortable. She gives me lots of kisses, loves to sleep on top of me, and always asks for scratches, when before I couldn’t even go near her without her swatting or biting me. I love her very much and we are both getting used to each other, but one thing I’m struggling with is how scary she can be. I understand dogs are typically much scarier than cats, and their attacks can be lethal, but the dogs I’ve been raised with have never bit me except for when they were puppies or a few times when I accidentally prodded them in their sleep. I play pretty rough with my dog but I never worry if he’ll bite or snap at me.

With my cat, she’ll lunge at me if I move my arm a bit too fast in her direction. I don’t use my hands at toys, and have started yelling OW when she bites and walking away, but I’m not sure if it actually helps. One time she was laying on me and I leaned over her to grab a tissue, and she instantly went for a bite. There’s many more instances like this, and she does draw blood, and it has made me scared to pet her or even be near her sometimes. She does not allow me to pick her up and there’s many places on her body I can’t pet, which I admit does have me feeling sad when I see other cats be cuddled and smooched by their owners. Is there anything I can do to help me be less frightened of my own pet? Obviously I’m not gonna die from her hitting or biting me, I just get scared easily and do everything I can to avoid it, it feels like those FNAF jumpscares but IRL. I try to look out for warning signs, but sometimes I’m just mindlessly moving or repositioning my arm and she’ll attack it. Will it pass with time? Or is it something I’m just gonna have to get over? I’ve never had a cat before so I could definitely be doing something wrong. Any advice would be great!!

I’m around 4’10-4’11 and currently overweight. What should be a healthy, normal weight for most women my age is considered overweight for me. I *try* eating around 1300 calories for weight loss not only because of my height but for how sedentary I am. I work from home, sitting down all day, and I don’t exercise. I’m trying to incorporate at-home exercises since my nearest gym is quite far from where I live. I have dumbbells, a treadmill, and an elliptical at home (purchased for my dad, I live with my parents). I want to start walking more to improve my health and start working out to build muscle as I currently have none, but I’m just so tired and unmotivated. I have a huge appetite and struggle with food noise, and a 1300 calorie diet for weight loss seems impossible and I constantly eat above it, so my weight constantly fluctuates. If I start exercising, I can eat more, but I’ve been very inconsistent about it. And since I often eat 500 calories above my maintenance, I feel like no amount of exercise will help. How do I cut down on my appetite?!! I eat a decent amount of protein and I tried drinking more water, but I find myself mindlessly munching on crap in my house all the time. Any advice would be great!

I’m only on episode 4 so I know I need to give the show and the characters time but each new episode I’m watching feels like a chore😭 I knew Lisa Edelstein wasn’t gonna be in the last season but man the change is so drastic. I know the show isn’t about Cuddy but it’s just so weird without her in it, and the difference is more noticeable than when Cameron or the other characters left for a bit. I do like that Foreman is holding down her position, I know in the end Chase takes over (?) but Foreman doing the job for now makes sense for his character. The new characters, Park and Adams are difficult for me to get invested in, I hate sounding like a whiny baby but I miss the old gang so much. This season only reminds me of how good we used to have it despite the good reviews. I absolutely loved Thirteen, Kutner, and honestly even Taub when they replaced Cameron and Chase, but Park and Adams replacing them just feels wrong. I know Chase and Taub come back and people do say Park’s banters with Chase are entertaining so I’m looking forward to that, but I don’t think I can get used to these changes this season. Based on what I’ve seen up until now I’m really not a fan of Park, I just don’t think she is funny or interesting, and Adams is just bland. I think I was just too spoiled by how complex and interesting Thirteen, Kutner, and Taub were, and how insanely fleshed out they were across multiple seasons. I’m mostly just watching for Wilson’s cancer storyline and House’s fate at this point. The lighting is also throwing me off, which I understand could fit the more serious/gloomy theme of the last season, but again, without the characters we know it just comes across boring, dull, and depressing. Please tell me it gets way better