u/still_here202

So I (30f) went and did some bulk shopping at Walmart for a party. I had probably 25 - 30 items, so definitely quite a bit. I got in the self check out line and it was QUITE long so I made sure to check it wasn't an express lane. There was absolutely ZERO signage indicating as such (important). Its also important to note that there are like 5-6 self-check out terminals once you get to the front of the line so I wasn't holding anyone up behind me. I waited probably 10 - 15 minutes in this line and finally made it to the front. That's when the employee I guess noticed me for the first time and says "Mam, MAM! You have more than 15 items - you need to go to a regular lane!"

I was immediately thinking like "shit did I miss the sign?? Now I'm gonna be super late". I had an appointment in 20 minutes and was already really pushing it on time (which is totally on me - I definitely need better time management skills). So at first I was like, "Oh, crap I'm sorry, I guess I missed the sign?" And I'm looking around for it and she suddenly gets super aggressive with me and is like, "THERE AIN'T NO SIGN!! THERE DON'T NEED TO BE A SIGN! THAT'S WHY WE'RE HERE - TO TELL YOU!!"

So now I'm pissed... but I know rising to that level with her is not gonna get me anywhere so I stayed as calm as I could and was like, "Well... I wasn't aware this was an express lane... there's no signage indicating that and I've already waited 15 minutes in this line, and I'm kind of running late-"

Employee: "SO WHAT?? EVERYBODY HERE IS RUNNING LATE! YOU THINK YOUR TIME IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN EVERYONE ELSES??"

Me: "No, I definitely don't think that, but I have already waited my turn. There's no sign. And you failed to tell me until I already invested 15 minutes in this line... so I'll definitely keep in mind that this is an express lane next time, but at least for this time - I'm gonna stay and check out here."

At this point this girl is PISSED with me and I was certainly not pleased with her either. But I knew if I gave in and went to one of the other lanes (equally long lines - this whole store is a dumpster fire) I was definitely gonna miss my appointment. And I also just genuinely believed I was in the right.

So she says, "Well you ain't gonna be able to check outta this lane either way so you really just wasting your time!"

I was like "what do you mean? The computer won't process more than 15 items?"

E: "No it will! But I'm gonna put a hold on your order so you can't check out here so you're just wasting your time!!"

Mmmm, okay... we're in this now... fuck that appointment... I'm a stubborn bitch and I am not the one honey....

I go, "Alright, can you please bring a manager over here to settle this?"

She goes, "Naaah you can go to customer servic-"

Me: "I'm not leaving this line."

I turn around and 5 feet away there's another employee. And I say to her, "I hate to be that girl but can you please grab a manager, we're having a major disagreement here."

She goes to find a manager. At this point the woman behind me goes (to the employee) "All this back and forth - she could've just checked out already!! And she's right - there needs to be a sign or you need to tell people when they first get in line!!" (So she had my back at least)

The employee girl just keeps yelling at me, "You gotta leave this line! You gotta go! Your time is not more important than all these other people!!"

I'm like, "Nah these people can go ahead of me... I'll wait for the manager."

Finally the manager comes over and ALSO has an attitude and is like, "Yeah that's our store policy and there's not gonna be any signs. We're just doing word of mouth."

And I say all the same things about how I've already waited my turn and how I'll abide by the rule now that I KNOW the rule but it's not on me that I was completely uninformed.

Finally the manager just caves and agrees to open a previously closed register to check me out real quick. That works too!

And I know Walmart employees don't make a lot of money and probably have very stressful lives. But this girl had absolutely ZERO empathy with me, went from 0 to 100 in two seconds, and got real aggressive with me real quick. That's a recipe for my inner stubborn bitch to come out....

TL;DR: I refused to leave a Walmart line after having waited 15 minutes because there was no signage or communication about it.

I've (29f) been with my husband (28m) for a little over 6 years now and I love every bit of him. His look, his sweet demeanor, his corny jokes, down to very smell of him. I love the cuddles and the long talks and even just hanging out in the same room doing nothing together. And every once in a while, when I'm in the mood, I love the sex! I guess my issue is... after 6 years - my lust for him has slowed down quite a bit... he's not bad at it - not in the slightest! When we do get to it - he knows exactly what I like and what to do and it's very enjoyable for both of us! The issue comes from the rate of frequency he seems to be desiring sex or attempting to initiate it. And then I feel bad every time I have to be like, "sorry, baby, I'm just not in the mood right now." And he's always very sweet and understanding about it, but I feel bad rejecting him like that and worry it might affect his self esteem. At one point I asked him, in an ideal world, how often would he like to do it and he thought for a minute and said, "I guess like 1x a day or 1x every other day?" and than he asked me and I said, "I was thinking like once a week or every other week...."

I feel terrible that I can't show him that physical love as often as he desires. When we first started dating we were doing it much closer to his desired rate of frequency than mine but I guess after 6 years the novelty just isn't there for me any more and I don't really want it as often after all this time... but time hasn't had that same affect for him I guess. I do love him intensely and feel like he's my favorite person in the world and my best friend. And I do love feeling close to him and having physical intimacy through long cuddles and kissing... I just worry I'm not giving him something he might need to feel loved and reassured by rejecting sex so often... how can I reassure him of my love for him and avoid hurting his self-esteem because I don't want to do it as often as him?