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I became a young widow 10 years ago, and raised my son alone since he was 8.. In two months he will be moving away to college, and I will be an empty nester. So proud of my boy; he is independent, social, self sufficient, and ready to take the world.

I have been seeing my partner for 3 years, and we live apart. He has 2 kids and share 50/50 custody. His 20 year old didn’t like the college he was attending and back at home, and 16 year old is a high schooler. Both kids are extremely dependent, and he supports all of them 💯 financially (including the ex wife).

Last night I had this revelation that I would be alone in few months, and I can’t depend on him because his plate is full. He is a great guy, awesome dad to his kids, and he truly tries to make it all work; buy I’m afraid that I will be unhappy spending all my free time alone. My job is demanding and I do have a great group of friends; but his lack of availability over the weekends are bothering me.

Help me sort out my feelings fellow empty nesters. I’m I freaking out over nothing?

It’s been 10 years since my husband passed away from cancer. He was my high school sweetheart, my best friend, moved countries together, & built a happy home. He was 37 & I was 35 when he passed. I met my current partner about 3 years ago. He is a wonderful man- kind, caring, gorgeous and we love each other. But, I have this nagging feeling that he would never know me the way my late husband did.

Our 18 year old son is a spitting image of his father. My heart aches every time I look at my beautiful child.

Yesterday, someone asked me what was the best ordinary day of my life so far. I immediately thought about a random Sunday in 2015. I woke up to the smell of coffee and snow outside. We have newly moved into this amazing apartment with lots of windows, and when walked into the living room, my husband and our then 7 year old son was on the couch leaning against each other and reading New York Times. I remember thinking in that moment, how lucky I am. Few months later my husband was diagnosed with cancer and he was gone by the next year.

If you have found a new partner after your loss, how much do you share? Do they ever get to know you fully?

It’s been 10 years since my husband passed away from cancer. He was my high school sweetheart, my best friend, moved countries together, & built a happy home. He was 37 & I was 35 when he passed. I met my current partner about 3 years ago. He is a wonderful man- kind, caring, gorgeous and we love each other. But, I have this nagging feeling that he would never know me the way my late husband did.

Our 18 year old son is a spitting image of his father. My heart aches every time I look at my beautiful child.

Yesterday, someone asked me what was the best ordinary day of my life so far. I immediately thought about a random Sunday in 2015. I woke up to the smell of coffee and snow outside. We have newly moved into this amazing apartment with lots of windows, and when walked into the living room, my husband and our then 7 year old son was on the couch leaning against each other and reading New York Times. I remember thinking in that moment, how lucky I am. Few months later my husband was diagnosed with cancer and he was gone by the next year.

If you have found a new partner after your loss, how much do you share? Do they ever get to know you fully?