u/sunnydaze8

I, a Cancer woman, have been casually dating a Sagittarius man for the past three months. I have scouted this forum for that time and have discovered he is a Sagittarius through and through. Very flirty, likes female attention, needs his space, sometimes hot and cold, but always willing to listen and very talkative. Any tips or advice I can do to make the situation between us successful?

I (F,30) have been talking to this guy (M,30) for almost two months. We live about 2 hours apart from one another. The first 2-3 weeks were great. He was very consistent with communication, good morning texts, took me out on two nice dates (dinner, movie, etc). Then after that third week I noticed a drop off, he started texting me after work. Then it became even less, texting me every 1-2 days. I have not pressed him once about this as I didn't want to seem crazy. Periodically every week, he'll text me out of the blue saying, "I miss you" and/or "I need to see you."

The weekend before the 4th of July we made a loose plan to hangout/see one another. That Saturday rolls around and I hear nothing from him until around 2PM, I mean that would be okay if we lived 20 minutes away from one another but by the time I got around, got ready and drove that two hours or he did it would be later on. So I went off and did my own thing. I posted a picture on my Instagram story and he always does this, if I post he hearts it or replies with "obsessed" or something along those lines.

Last week, I didn't hear from him Sunday, Monday and then Tuesday rolls around and he randomly calls me out of the blue. We talked for 45 minutes on the phone, just the usual banter, joking, etc. He texted me after and said, "we should probably go on a date soon" and I said, "I'd like that." And he said, "Me too, I promise I'll be sweet to ya" Which I thought was kind of a weird thing to say?

I said, "When ya thinkin?" Him: "Whenever you're ready." I teasingly said, "I could probably pencil you in this weekend." He hearted the message and talked to me the next day like normal.

This past weekend rolls around, I don't hear from him all day Saturday until around 5PM and he asks, "How are you feeling?" (I just had minor surgery last week). I didn't reply because this is the second weekend now where he's gone MIA when we make a loose plan or he knows I want to see him. I posted on my Instagram story and he liked it. At 10PM he texts me again and says, "you hate me its fine." Then proceeds to send me an Instagram reel around 11PM. Yesterday he posted on his IG story of this truck he bought all ripped apart and I'm wondering if he posted that to see if I'd watch it since I've gone cold.

This is hard for me being the ghoster, as I am usually the one who gets ghosted. But being in this inconsistent, push pull, him bailing on plans, but I see him actively liking other girls pictures and stuff its exhausting. Which sucks because I do really like him and we vibe really well. It's hard for me as an empathetic person and I'm trying to see the good but he can go ghost for 1-2 days and it's okay? I don't get it but because I'm confused I'm taking myself out of the equation.

I’m day 9/10 post op and I’m having some gnarly swelling after starting to workout again. Looks like I didn’t even get work done 😅

Well tomorrow I get my chin lipo done under local anesthesia and I am freaking out. Currently my stomach is in knots and I can’t sleep. Can someone give me some insight or experience from their perspective of the local anesthesia? It is freaking me out that I will be awake and can feel the pressure, etc.

Finally booked my chin lipo surgery today with Dr. Lakin in Novi. I've been thinking about this for five+ years so this is very exciting for me. I really liked the office and Dr. Lakin. Excited for July!