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I (38F) started seeing someone (35M) about a month or so ago. We see each other often (at least a few times a week), and he sometimes spends the night. As I’ve gotten to know him, I’m starting to wonder if he is honestly a true psychopath. He makes comments sometimes or will laugh at something that clearly isn’t funny (like something bad happening), or just generally respond to something in such a way where the average person would be like, horrified, and if I ask why he’d think that, he just doesn’t understand why it’s inappropriate. I can’t think of all the examples off the top of my head, but one thing yesterday yesterday is what made me decide to write this post; he told me how earlier in the day he was outside and picking up ants to squish them because he thought it was “fun to watch them be in pain and die.” Yikes. 😳 He’s never made any other outright comments to make me think he abuses or hurts other animals. But I know he’s not a huge animal person, and his comment last night makes me wonder if he’s capable of it.

He has other quirks that I just can’t put my finger on, but according to my true crime podcasts, he sounds like he could potentially be a psychopath. For example, he doesn’t really have close friends and says he never has. It’s just casual buddies he met at a bar or something like that. When I asked why he doesn’t have any, he said that he just has a hard time making friends because he has a hard time with understanding social interactions and knowing what is appropriate to say, and people don’t always “get” his humor.

Also there’s the bedroom stuff. I asked him once what he was into, and his response was “If I had my way, you’d be tied up with rope and duct tape.” So, yeah. I do want to stress though he’s never ever been anything close to rough with me, or trying to do or pressure me into something that I’m not into as well. He’s never made me feel unsafe around him or anything either. But his behavior just makes me wonder if he’s just quirky (he’s very OCD and has anxiety also) and in need of therapy and possibly medication, versus a much bigger problem (like psychopathy) that is just who he is.

So, Reddit… have you ever dated anyone like this or met a true and genuine psychopath in the wild? Is it consistent with what I’m describing, or is my imagination getting carried away?

TL;DR: new guy I’m seeing says/does things that make me think he’s a psychopath. Am I reading too much into this?

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I am not someone to ask for stuff like this, especially from strangers, but I saw this sub mentioned in another post, and figured there’s no harm in asking in case someone is feeling generous.

Thank you for reading this!