u/surflovr_chipmunkf02

I had to move out of my parents' place last year because I am at the age where I want more independence. They were starting to control how I spent my free time, since I wasn't progressing as fast in my career as they wanted me to.

Anyway, I am a grown man in my mid-20s who lives on his own & financially responsible for everything except my phone bill. What bothers me is how my parents think they are entitled to track my location. My other set of parents and friends are fine; they don't monitor where I am. My mom says she is worried about me a lot, and I think it's because I don't follow their preferred bedtime routine. I need my full autonomy. She mentions too much in text, oh I see you're here, or I see you made it home now. When I confronted her about it, I said, "I am not going to share my location anymore." She replied, "Well, it shouldn't be an issue if you're not doing anything you're not supposed to be doing." Very vague. Then I told her, " Well, I'll get my own phone plan, and then I am not obligated to share." She then said, "I'll have to ask your stepdad."

They're decent people, and I'm grateful for them. It seems he's pretty controlling and manipulative to her at times, so I think this is her subconscious response. I will get my own phone plan once I find a more stable job, but this is ridiculous, right?

I had to move out of my parents' place last year because I am at the age where I want more independence. They were starting to control how I spent my free time, since I wasn't progressing as fast in my career as they wanted me to.

Anyway, I am a grown man in my mid-20s who lives on his own & financially responsible for everything except my phone bill. What bothers me is how my parents think they are entitled to track my location. My other set of parents and friends are fine; they don't monitor where I am. My mom says she is worried about me a lot, and I think it's because I don't follow their preferred bedtime routine. I need my full autonomy. She mentions too much in text, oh I see you're here, or I see you made it home now. When I confronted her about it, I said, "I am not going to share my location anymore." She replied, "Well, it shouldn't be an issue if you're not doing anything you're not supposed to be doing." Very vague. Then I told her, " Well, I'll get my own phone plan, and then I am not obligated to share." She then said, "I'll have to ask your stepdad."

He's pretty controlling and manipulative of her at times, so I think this is her subconscious response. I will get my own phone plan once I find a more stable job, but this is ridiculous, right?

Hello, I am considering moving to LA from SD this year, from August to Nov/Dec. I want to work in the ski slopes this winter. Is it worth it to move to LA for this short period of time?

I have a B.A. degree and am considering getting substitute teacher certification or a bartending license, or applying to whatever jobs are up there. I want to find a room in a shared house that is at most $1300k a month, which I think is doable- SD prices are the same.

I can explain why I am moving at this time- if you want?? However, I went to college at LBSU, and have lived in Long Beach and Orange County - two different worlds haha, and have frequented up to LA county to visit friends. I grew up in North County San Diego, and currently live closer to SD city, and love it but want to try something else. I think downtown LA is overwhelming, coming from San Diego, and originally thought the same after moving to LB for college, but became accustomed to it after 3 months, and eventually found SD to be too isolated or lacking the international megacity vibe LA has. After living in LB area and frequenting LA for two years, I fell in love with the 'magic' it offers. After living in SD area after college I am accustomed to the beauty of SD and how enchanting the miles of beaches are. I am young and in my mid-20s, and I want to experience the LA area again, maybe try out background acting/creative stuff. Should I just stay in SD for another 4/5 months and wait(I would have to find another place to live - can explain if curious), or try out LA?

Also, I am not interested in the Valley, East LA, or downtown LA, but curious about the surrounding areas of downtown LA, like the Echo Park area, or I love the Marina Del Rey area, and am open to other neighborhoods in that West/Central LA stretch. No need to live super duper close to the ocean- already experienced that in SD, but curious if it is worth it, considering how chaotic traffic is? For those of you who have lived in both SD and LA what is the appeal of LA lifestyle?