u/sweet7712

Hey everyone. I have recently come to the conclusion that I have an anxious attachment style, which I think has really affected my (romantic) relationships. I met a guy on Hinge and we went on a few dates. I thought it was going really well; he was really kind and sweet, listened to me and actually made effort, told me how attracted he was to me. Then he did a 180°. No responses for days, and when he finally did respond, he said he didn’t expect to like me as much as he did, and he still had baggage from a previous relationship. It was sudden, and I was really upset.

Texts for the week after were minimal, but then he really started texting a lot again. Those texts also became very sexual (which was reciprocated by me tbf). But then after another week, silence again. I feel stupid for thinking maybe he had a change of mind.

The silence is killing me. I have sent texts saying I hope he’s doing okay, and it breaks my soul when I see each passing hour of him not even reading my messages. I don’t know how to get over all this. He obviously has no interest, but it still hurts me so much and I keep trying to fight for his feelings.

This is also a common theme with my ex. He broke up with me a year ago, but I kept emailing him letters about how i’m feeling, which i know only pushes him away. We were no contact for a few months, then started (platonically) talking again in late 2025. We never saw each other in person after last July, until about a month ago very briefly for about an hour. A lot of the feelings I had finally lost came flooding back to me, especially when he said he started talking to someone else. I spiraled and sent another letter to him. Again, no response. I texted him apologizing, wanting to talk as friends again, and he said he needed time.

All I want to do is text both of them again. I need reassurance that I know I am not going to get. I feel like I lost 2 relationships/situationships in a very short amount of time, which has been incredibly difficult, and I can’t stop feeling like it’s completely my fault. My confidence is almost completely gone, and I feel like I need to cling onto these relationships. I know it’s not healthy, but my mind keeps racing and the anxiety is taking over.

Any advice on how to get through this mentally, and help myself with this problem I have with myself would be very appreciated.

So i’ve always been a heavier person (5’6, 240lbs+ at my heaviest, but have lost 60-75lbs over the past few years), and I have always gotten comments on weight loss, and how good people say I look. I usually just give a quick thanks and change the subject, but I’ve never really been a fan of it. I recently came home after being away for 5 months, and have gotten the comments again. But the thing is, I’ve actually gained some weight since I was last home. I have been having body image and confidence issues lately, and these recent comments are not helping me, even if the sentiment of support is there. I am also a fairly non-confrontational person. I don’t know if I’m looking for advice of any kind, or if I just wanted to rant. Has anyone else had similar experiences?

Hey everyone! I am currently in talks to be an au pair for a Canadian family, and was wondering what a fair realistic wage per week would be? I would be based in Québec, and living in an apartment of my own nearby the family’s dwelling (maybe 15-20 minutes away). I would also be working 20ish hours a week during the school year, and possibly more this upcoming summer. Thanks!