u/t00ts4

I’m at a loss with my 3 month old.
I was exclusively breast feeding for the first two month then moved to combo feeding and now exclusively formula feeding.

My baby has what I believe is pretty bad reflux. He spits up constantly and in large quantities. I’m talking SOAKING 2/3 outfits after every feed and continues to spit up an hour after feeding regardless of how long I keep him upright, burping, pace feeding, gas drops, etc

I suspected a cow milk allergy due to fussiness after feeding, rash, and reflux. I had him on Similac Alimentum and his spit up basically completely stopped and rash went away a day after starting the HA formula but was constipated for a while.

The pediatrician said they were not at all convinced it was a milk allergy and i decided to try a different for as HA is very expensive.

Iv switched to Kendamil goat and Dr.Browns soothe pro and saw a huge increase in spit up and crying after every bottle but no rash and dark charcoal grey poops on dr browns

Can my baby have a cows milk intolerance with the only symptom being reflux, insane amount of spit up and crying after eating?

Debating switching back to Alimentum or trying yet another formula.

Looking for advice

I’m a first time mom to a little boy who just turned 9 weeks today and I feel like I’m drowning. I love him so much but I spend 100% of my day in fight or flight mode. I’m constantly insanely anxious about everything and so desperate want a routine. The things that helped with my anxiety in the past like running and hiking are pretty much impossible right now and I feel like I don’t have an outlet for my stress. Not to mention I’m too exhausted to do those things even if I could find the time because my baby still wakes up every 3 hours and has terrible reflux. The house is constantly a mess and tasks are half finished.

When does it get better? Does it get better when he sleeps longer stretches? when he can walk? When he can talk? I think I just need a little hope.

I’m truly at a loss for what to do next. My baby is 6 weeks old on Monday and absolutely refuses to sleep if he is not Co sleeping with me. He has to be lying on his side close to my chest. When he’s co sleeping he will do 4 hour stretches.

He can’t be placed in a bassinet. Iv tried all the things.
Bath before bed, Consistent bedtime, very dark room, sound machine, dream feed, swaddle, no swaddle, etc and it doesn’t matter. Within two minutes of setting him down in his crib he’s screaming until he turns purple. I’m unfortunately responsible for all night shifts as my husband is back to work. (He commutes around 3hrs a day leaving at 3am. When he gets up at 3 he feeds the baby and changes him before he leaves to give me a longer stretch. )

I do not feel comfortable co sleeping. It makes me extremely anxious. Even following safe sleep 7.

I need recommendations or personal experiences. I need sleep.