u/tazmanic

Context:

I’ve known this girl as a married person for over a decade and considered her a friend and nothing more (we were friends before she got married). I even like her husband and I’d definitely hang out with him more if we were in the same city

I respected her opinion a lot because she always seemed well grounded and almost feels like she made therapy and communication her whole personality. She also has a similar background as me as a second gen from immigrants of the same culture. I’m a man that’s very in tune with my emotions and communicate my feelings well

So she’s been messaging me more the past couple months and I’m just a nice person with a lot of time and respond back when I can. I share my dating life a little because she asked about it and tbh I was getting annoyed at getting unsolicited dating advice from a person who’s only been with their high school sweetheart.

I notice some weird messages about feeling an attraction and I try and nip it in the bud and tell her that I value our friendship and it doesn’t need to be more than that. I don’t think I could have been anymore clearer and compassionate than this while giving her space to save face. It happens a couple more times and I do my best to kibosh it further. These are all pictures 1-5

A week later I get some heavy accusations that I’m using pickup artist techniques on her and I respond to her on instagram and WhatsApp almost immediately why she’s wrong which she refused to read. I’m really hurt by this tbh since I have a lot of female friends and women in my life that I look up to and respect. I’ve always called out my male friends on misogyny and led by example on positive masculinity

Then I get the whole wall of text email today (pictures 6-8) because she can’t be bothered to read the short rebuttals I wrote to her strong accusations. After that email I just told her to stop contacting me (last two pictures)

Am I the asshole here or is this person in serious denial or taking heavy doses of copium at my expense?

Wtf is going on. For context, I am a Canadian YouTube premium family account subscriber since it changed from YouTube Red. I’ve had my friends which live between 2 provinces on it for years with no issues. I did have one friend move to the Netherlands and swapped their account with another friend when it was giving issues

This is the first time I’ve got a notice of this nature. 5 accounts in the same household is absolutely wild if that’s what they’re truly implying. It’s very common for family to be in different provinces. Anyone figure out workarounds or get the same notice?

Without a family plan, this is not a reasonably affordable option for my friends and I and I will most likely cancel my subscription and look into pirating free options as a result