r/Nicegirls

For context, we knew each other irl through my sister and had been seeing each other for a few weeks. She exhibited some pretty unhinged and erratic behaviour early on which I stupidly ignored. After that I wasn't really feeling it so I tried to send a nice message and these were the responses.

Context:

I’ve known this girl as a married person for over a decade and considered her a friend and nothing more (we were friends before she got married). I even like her husband and I’d definitely hang out with him more if we were in the same city

I respected her opinion a lot because she always seemed well grounded and almost feels like she made therapy and communication her whole personality. She also has a similar background as me as a second gen from immigrants of the same culture. I’m a man that’s very in tune with my emotions and communicate my feelings well

So she’s been messaging me more the past couple months and I’m just a nice person with a lot of time and respond back when I can. I share my dating life a little because she asked about it and tbh I was getting annoyed at getting unsolicited dating advice from a person who’s only been with their high school sweetheart.

I notice some weird messages about feeling an attraction and I try and nip it in the bud and tell her that I value our friendship and it doesn’t need to be more than that. I don’t think I could have been anymore clearer and compassionate than this while giving her space to save face. It happens a couple more times and I do my best to kibosh it further. These are all pictures 1-5

A week later I get some heavy accusations that I’m using pickup artist techniques on her and I respond to her on instagram and WhatsApp almost immediately why she’s wrong which she refused to read. I’m really hurt by this tbh since I have a lot of female friends and women in my life that I look up to and respect. I’ve always called out my male friends on misogyny and led by example on positive masculinity

Then I get the whole wall of text email today (pictures 6-8) because she can’t be bothered to read the short rebuttals I wrote to her strong accusations. After that email I just told her to stop contacting me (last two pictures)

Am I the asshole here or is this person in serious denial or taking heavy doses of copium at my expense?

We were having a really nice time and clicking from what I could tell. Right up until we were ready to go home and I used the bathroom before heading to our cars. When I came out she was gone, I even circled the venue three times and waited 15 minutes. This is part of the post game exchange the next day when she was “apologizing”.

The kicker is I was going to offer money for parking, but since she disappeared I never got the chance. And beyond that she didn’t spend a dime the entire evening. She pulled out her card for one of her drinks and I told her not to worry about it.

Never mind that for the last two hours we were at the live music and dj section of the venue, so it wasn’t exactly easy in that span to discuss parking money. LOL

Appreciate the honesty though lol. Saved me the like.

Is this a nice girl?

Recent Tinder match. This convo got real weird real quick.

For context, we were face timing on discord and out of nowhere, she hangs up on me. At first, I was like what the hell and almost called her but decided to let her call me and she didn’t. A little over an hour goes by and she’s texting asking me for money.

Later I saw she was online playing with another guy and I brought it up to her attention. I later asked if she meant any of it (she told me she “loves me” and “you’re the only one I’m talking too” ) and she left me on read again and put her phone on DND. So, I waited a day and there was no response. I took her silence as an answer and blocked.