r/Nicegirls

For context I M(19) was talking to this girl Hope F(20) for almost a year now. We're uni classmates but we rarely meet during class hours because it's a big class. We had arranged a meet up and she was supposed to tell me when she'll be around(she never did). To keep the convo going, I asked that question. This was her response a day after when we were supposed to meet. I thought of a response that wouldn't make me come out as passive aggressive although I was honestly pissed. She did this thing again where we plan a meet up and she doesn't say when she'll be around even though she told me she will. Never talked to her after that. Need validation that I walked out of this faultless

Let me tell y’all a story.

Started dating this girl June of last year, we clicked so well. We met in person, She lived 4 hours away and would come visit me every month and stay for a few days. At some point the people she was living with started becoming more abusive, had to call the police and everything and she had no family or friends to rely on. I suggested she moves to my city and took the jump at the end of November. I payed for all the moving related things and drove the U-Haul. She moved in with a lady not too far from me. As it turns out she had no savings to her name, so I also took care of her during the 3 weeks she was unemployed. All my savings used up. She landed a different job she didn’t want, and December is a slow month for my career, we were getting by and things seemed to be fine, then January comes by.

I start sniffing weird energy coming from her. For the next 3 weeks I’m in the dark, not knowing why she’s been distant, not answering my calls etc… I remained patient and reassured her that I’m here for her. End of January comes and she musters up the courage to express herself, and tells me that I’m not doing enough.

Now to address her claims: she needed a new mattress, let her used my affirm so she can pay it slowly but then claimed that I said I’ll pay it. For food I bought her dinner 3-4 times a week. Cooked for her, brought her my mom’s food and would send her money when she needed lunch or some. I used the bathroom at random times, was not to avoid paying as some times I payed for some of her groceries. Said I’m not a fan of factory jobs, not sure why she took that to heart. Suggested that if she wanted to, she could go on little adventures on her days off and even go to the laundromat. If she wanted to, of course I had no problem taking her and I did. I said marriage was a contract, not that I wouldn’t marry her. 40 was me goofyin around, already addressed that months ago. About the Ladies, pure blasphemy. She went through my old IG account I don’t use. She kept picking fights and not resolving anything so I broke it off. Still was willing to extend my hand as she has absolute no body to rely on, she was abandoned as a child. Out of empathy for her situation, For the next two weeks I seek to help her out. Noticed she was getting more passive aggressive and disrespectful. We were on the phone on feb 13. Once again disrespectful, nasty ass tone, treating me like a nuisance. I couldn’t take it no longer, so I told her to never reach out to me again. The last 2 screenshots were her response to that. I prayed for her almost everyday since.

Fast forward to now may, I check her IG, peeped one of her highlights and it seems to be her and a man in there. So I clicked it, says Feb 14th on multiple different stories, didn’t pay much attention to it. Was glad she found someone and prayed for them. Then 2 days later it hits me, Feb 14?! Within two weeks of us being over, you guys already have photos on your keychains, booth pictures and gone on dates.

Your boy was used and played, big time. During those two weeks I was helping her out, she was already on another man’s boat getting rearranged. I blamed nobody but me for putting myself in this positions. I regret not one thing I did, as I did it out of honesty and kindness. I’ve learned so many things through the mourning of that relationship. Your boy was new to this type of game. I’ve dated a handful of ladies, but we treated each other well even after things were over. Never till now was I seen as a criminal, being constantly accused of gaslighting, lying, cheating, using her etc… it was so exhausting. If you haven’t guessed it, she’s grown up with a lot of trauma. People like this have a mask, it will eventually slip.

I’m not jealous, not angry, not feeling betrayed, just a bit sick in my stomach. Life truly is an experience. Never thought someone could be so nasty towards me. But I get her now, this is how she was treated her whole life. Not sure why I was put through this, however I pray she’s able to heal everything that she’s been through and find peace within herself. For my kind hearted people out there, you will be tested. Remain on your path but protect yourself. The test might come from people you expect the least. Those whom are innocent and hurt, can and will use their hurt against you.

For those who read till the end, I thank you for reading my little story. I hope you got entertained, and maybe learnt a thing or two. What do y’all think? Did she start talking to that dude before or after the relationship ended?

35 year old single mother of 4.

Posted this like she was the good guy. Came off pretty tacky to me lol

She said she is a professional model and I asked if there is any work I might have seen. 🤣

she basically says she wants to move to Braunau with you, the place of birth and upbringing of you know... Adolf Hitler. The Emojis in the bio also indicate she's far right/a neonazi so I don't think I'm missinterpreting what she tries to communicate between the lines here.

so my sister was complaining the other day about how every ovulation app she uses is basically an ad-machine that looks like a 2005 spreadsheet covered in pink flowers.

i'm a dev so i spent some time building her a cleaner version called Bloom. it’s 100% local (no accounts/servers) and zero ads. just tried to keep the UI super minimal and actually usable.

i’m trying to figure out if it’s actually good or if i'm just biased since i made it lol. would love some brutal feedback on:

• is the UI actually clean or just too basic?
• does it feel snappy on your phone?
• what features am i missing that would make this a "must-have"?

google play link: https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.nishandevaiah.bloom

thanks in advance, be as harsh as you want i can take it.

Needless to say, the wedding date is already set, and I cannot wait to be her rock and provider!

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Context: 7 months of talking online. She said she loved me first. Then she kissed another guy and came back with “I still love you” and “please don’t leave me.” Then bro asked her to be his gf and suddenly she’s confused but still wants me around lmao. Blocked her after the last message.

I blocked her after the last message.

In the girls profile it said she was looking for a liberal Christian so that’s fine I knew that but I was wanting to expand on the conversation, I didnt ask because I missed the 3 times she says it in her profile

Context: this is a few days after we broke off, and our last messages were us discussing that it was probably best that we don’t speak for a while.

Some people have a hard time receiving affection or appreciation, and that often says more about them. Over time, this creates emotionally closed-off men. The same people who complain about unavailable partners often crushed genuine affection without realizing it.