u/indifferentgeese

31M East Asian autistic. I have been trying to get myself out there, but the ones that are single are blonde MAGA women, and the progressive women are all taken.

What’s up with that?

In Stony Brook.

Why?

Recently I (diagnosed with autism at age 20) was told that joining a group of autistic adults could expand my social circle. I found a group but realized quite quickly that I couldn’t relate to any of their life experiences, they couldn’t relate to mine, but they could relate to each other’s. Also, almost all of them were happily partnered or very content with being single, and as someone who has been searching for a soulmate for decades, I felt like the odd one out.

I need help.

I’m going there for the first time this evening.
I am genuinely clueless about the Bronx; prior to this visit I’ve ever only been to the Bronx once, and that was by Hostos CC.

Democrats registered on campus can vote today

Get me out of here.

I only have two friends, one of them (28F) who’s partnered but is the love of my life and my best friend. I really want to seek out a romantic partner, but there are a few barriers: 1. No one finds an autistic 31 yo man emotionally attractive; 2. I have been traumatized by rejection and don’t want to go through that again; and 3. My eventual partner may have qualms about my friendship with my 28F best friend, and if put in a situation where I have to cut contact with one of them, I could never pick my best friend.

I just wish there was someone out there who I can create memories with.