u/therapy-didnt-help

To those who just don’t really do some chores, What is it about house hold chores to some men that makes you just not want to do them ??

Is it because you know your lady will do it eventually?
Do you feel embarrassed doing certain ones (laundry,dishes)
Do you think some chores are a “woman’s job” ?

I know there are men out there who cant stand a dirty space. But my partner 36m absolutely will not do a dish, he won’t pick up laundry, he won’t clean the bathroom, he doesn’t sweep the floors, he doesn’t clean out the fridge, he doesn’t dust. I just don’t get it? If you see your woman standing there doing hella dishes what is so hard about stepping in to help?

Am I wrong for letting this bother me? I feel like he doesn’t care because he will let things pile up then watch me do it all without offering much help. Why is this??

How do you show up for your woman in a relationship? What should be common sense ?

For reference: I am 30f and my sister is 24f and sometimes I really just can’t stand her. We do not have the sister bond that sisters should. So me and her are literally complete opposite of one another. Even the zodiac signs lol I’m a Capricorn and she’s a cancer.

my sister and I grew up 6 years apart and our brother was the middle child. He passed away while I was in prison.

Well, I was the black sheep along with our brother. We both struggled with addiction and that’s ultimately what put me in prison and took his life..

So since she was younger we really didn’t grow up with a bond. And now that my brother passed and I was in prison for years I just feel like I cannot connect with my sister. I love her to death and I’d be devastated if I lost my only remaining sibling but everything about her and her life irritates me.

I don’t want to be this way with her. I want to have a special bond. We’re sisters and we both lost our brother. I will give her unsolicited advice, criticism, I’ll make it known when something is irritating me, when I’m around her she just makes me uneasy. Idk why I feel this way. Even when she tries to plan things or asks me to do something I always say no. Maybe cause she’s so spontaneous and I’m more reserved.

Can anyone relate ?

TLDR: I can’t stand my sister I love her but everything about her life gets on my nerves, idk why I let it bother me so much I can’t control her life

I know I probably sound ignorant for saying this but I don’t know if I am with an abuser or not. We been together two years and yes he’s put his hands on me.

He hasn’t punched me in the face before but he’s done other things and he’s also broken several TVs and things around our house.

Over the years he’s made me feel like I am the problem. That he snaps because I make him and if I just wasn’t so disrespectful then maybe he wouldn’t snap. I tell myself that if I stop saying things that make him go crazy then he wouldn’t act like this. I want to leave him but I’m scared of hurting him. We are the best of friends when we are not fighting which is about three times a month.

I feel so sad thinking about leaving him but I also don’t want to get hit anymore when we argue and I want to feel heard in arguments. He will shut down, plug his ears, leave the house. He never says sorry , he pretends like I’m not crying or he will put headphones on. When we are arguing I feel so miserable 😭 idk what to do.