u/throw_away-2013

So I (f,37) was widowed 9 years ago. I've casually dated since and had a 6 month relationship with someone who turned out to be an alcoholic in denial and serial liar.

3 weeks ago, I matched with someone. I weirdly knew him when we were at college and thought he was cute but he was dating someone on my course. He said he did vaguely remember me and thought I was cute back then too. As soon as we matched, he wanted to meet. I was a bit sceptical but agreed and we ended up spending 3hrs chatting followed by an awkward hug goodbye. He seemed keen and was messaging fairly frequent and asking questions to get to know me. We've met twice more since but due to crazy working hours, it's been very late at night and weve just sat jn the car chatting.

He's explained a bit about his dating history and he's had some mental health struggles recently and to say he's been through a rough time is an understatement. Hes also admitted to chatting to others but isn't meeting anyone. And hes told me he's keen to see where things go with us.

Here's where it gets confusing. He's stopped replying as quickly as he was (sometimes is 5+hrs), I asked about going on a proper date, he asked what I'd like to do so I gave him a few suggestions and he said he'll sort something. I then asked him what his availability was the rest of this week as I was trying to make plans with a couple mates and he said he was trying to sort cover for work and he'd sort something. I've told him I'm not chatting to anyone else as it's too much energy but it's fine if he was. Even though it's only been a short time, I do genuinely like him. Does it sound like he's not interested? Or am I coming on too strong and scaring him off? I have a constant knot in my stomach. There's only been one other guy I was like this with and I married him and we'd still be together had he not passed away.

So I (f,37) was widowed 9 years ago. I've casually dated since and had a 6 month relationship with someone who turned out to be an alcoholic in denial and serial liar.

3 weeks ago, I matched with someone. I weirdly knew him when we were at college and thought he was cute but he was dating someone on my course. He said he did vaguely remember me and thought I was cute back then too. As soon as we matched, he wanted to meet. I was a bit sceptical but agreed and we ended up spending 3hrs chatting followed by an awkward hug goodbye. He seemed keen and was messaging fairly frequent and asking questions to get to know me. We've met twice more since but due to crazy working hours, it's been very late at night and weve just sat jn the car chatting.

He's explained a bit about his dating history and he's had some mental health struggles recently and to say he's been through a rough time is an understatement. Hes also admitted to chatting to others but isn't meeting anyone. And hes told me he's keen to see where things go with us.

Here's where it gets confusing. He's stopped replying as quickly as he was (sometimes is 5+hrs), I asked about going on a proper date, he asked what I'd like to do so I gave him a few suggestions and he said he'll sort something. I then asked him what his availability was the rest of this week as I was trying to make plans with a couple mates and he said he was trying to sort cover for work and he'd sort something. I've told him I'm not chatting to anyone else as it's too much energy but it's fine if he was. Even though it's only been a short time, I do genuinely like him. Does it sound like he's not interested? Or am I coming on too strong and scaring him off? I have a constant knot in my stomach. There's only been one other guy I was like this with and I married him and we'd still be together had he not passed away.

A shift leader transferred to my store last year. In that time they have essentially bullied me by chatting and gossiping about me behind my back. There was issues with him at another store too. I have reported him informally and formally and apparently he's now too scared to even talk to me. He wants to be a manager and apparently will be in 6 months (he's been saying this for a while). A couple weeks ago there was a situation between me, him and another shift leader which resulted in me throwing my headset (which did hit the other shift leader) and I walked out. My manager was off that day so another manager phoned me and asked if I would be ok to return once I had calmed down and the one I have issues with had left, so I agreed. I spoke to my manager a couple days later and he suggested I transfer stores. I also apologised to the guy who got hit my the headset. However I have just found on the cctv saved footage, the video of the headset hitting the nice shift leader and it's saved as disorderly conduct or misconduct.

Wha are the chances of this blowing up and resulting in me getting a disciplinary or worse, especially now it's been two weeks since it happened?