u/throw_rancxalsn

22F single mom with a 9 month old son. I recently started working Monday-Friday full time, and I have a babysitter watching my son during work hours (8-5). She’s in her late 30s and is actually related to an old close family friend, so there was already some trust there before she started babysitting.

She’s honestly great with my son. She sends multiple updates throughout the day, pictures, videos, lets me know how he’s eating/sleeping, etc. I’ve never had concerns about his safety or care.

But lately I’ve been feeling overwhelmed by how much communication continues outside of work hours too. Saturday morning she texts me how her son and husband wake up asking where my son is. She replies to almost every Facebook story I post, messages me often on weekends saying she misses him, asks for updates, and even tries to FaceTime sometimes when she’s off. For example, this weekend she’s at a pool resort and still trying to FaceTime me and check in.

I feel guilty even typing this because she genuinely cares about my son, and I know many parents would love that. But after working all week, weekends are basically the only uninterrupted time I get to just enjoy being with my baby without constantly thinking about schedules, childcare, work, or someone else helping raise him during the week.

Part of me feels suffocated and like I can’t mentally “clock out” from the babysitter dynamic. I’ve started ignoring some messages because I just want private family time and space. At the same time, I don’t want to hurt her feelings or come across as ungrateful.

Am I being unreasonable for wanting more distance/boundaries outside work hours? How would you handle this without making things awkward?

22F single mom with a 9 month old son. I recently started working Monday-Friday full time, and I have a babysitter watching my son during work hours (8-5). She’s in her late 30s and is actually related to an old close family friend, so there was already some trust there before she started babysitting.

She’s honestly great with my son. She sends multiple updates throughout the day, pictures, videos, lets me know how he’s eating/sleeping, etc. I’ve never had concerns about his safety or care.

But lately I’ve been feeling overwhelmed by how much communication continues outside of work hours too. Saturday morning she texts me how her son and husband wake up asking where my son is. She replies to almost every Facebook story I post, messages me often on weekends saying she misses him, asks for updates, and even tries to FaceTime sometimes when she’s off. For example, this weekend she’s at a pool resort and still trying to FaceTime me and check in.

I feel guilty even typing this because she genuinely cares about my son, and I know many parents would love that. But after working all week, weekends are basically the only uninterrupted time I get to just enjoy being with my baby without constantly thinking about schedules, childcare, work, or someone else helping raise him during the week.

Part of me feels suffocated and like I can’t mentally “clock out” from the babysitter dynamic. I’ve started ignoring some messages because I just want private family time and space. At the same time, I don’t want to hurt her feelings or come across as ungrateful.

Am I being unreasonable for wanting more distance/boundaries outside work hours? How would you handle this without making things awkward?

So this happened today. I handed my resignation a two weeks ago, today is my last day.

I work at a place with a public bathroom, but right now it’s clearly out of service. Like… multiple signs up, locked door, the whole deal. Earlier, a lady with a baby asked me if there was somewhere she could change her diaper. I felt bad, since I am a mom and my baby is 9months old, so i get the struggle , so I told her: She can use the changing table, but the toilet is out of service, so to please don’t use it because it will overflow. She says okay.

A little while later… I start hearing chaos from the bathroom.

Turns out, she was NOT changing a diaper, and instead, she decided to try to use the toilet anyway. She flushed it… and yeah, it overflowed. Badly.

At this point, I’m already mentally checked out (again, last day), and I had literally warned her exactly what would happen. So when she comes out all panicked, she offered to clean it up, i put the cleaning supplies out and let her, but she stank the whole place up.

She did not look thrilled. I want to leave.

Now I’m standing there questioning my life choices and wondering why did this have to happen on my final shift.

TL;DR: Told a customer not to use a broken toilet, she did anyway, it overflowed, and I let her deal with the consequences. On my last day. Of course.

Im a Pisces born march 20 at 10pm, and its crazy how confusing everything is. I have almost all the traits of an aries, but I am extremely emotional and reactive. I go 0-100 really quick whether it’s angry, sad, happy… my sun is in Aries, Moon in Pisces, and zodiac or not… it’s hard to find a balance between these two.