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Our nursery has a “48 hour” rule on contagious illnesses so they need to be fever free or symptom free for this amount of time before they can attend. This excludes a snotty nose because that’s constant.

This is a silly question probably and I’ll let them know tomorrow morning but my child had a temperature of exactly 38.0 degrees aka 0.1 over a raised temperature briefly this morning. After 1h or so it was back to normal. Well in themselves, no snotty nose, cough, etc. Did not need Calpol.

Is this worth mentioning given they’ll likely ask me to keep him home for 48 hours?

I am very careful to not send him ill but I’m having a lot of issues with work at the moment as I have to take a ton of leave due to childcare so those few hours of nursery are a lifesaver tomorrow. I’m thinking to just explain this because I don’t like to lie or risk that he’s getting ill. Of course if he wakes up ill tomorrow morning or has a fever again I won’t send him.

Any thoughts?

Just a quick vent because I love my mum, she doesn’t live anywhere near us but she’s great usually but every single time we talk she has to comment on if my child is cold. What is their obsession with overheating babies??

Today I sent her a picture of my son in his paddling pool and he was wearing a UV swimming costume, mind you long arms. Her response was “isn’t he too cold in that?”

It’s 37 degrees 😭😭
The amount of arguments we had over her insisting he needs to wear at least 3 more layers when going outside even though I said he’ll scream because he’ll be too hot. I made her feel his chest last time so she could realise herself that he was more than ok.

Ok vent over.

Another heatwave post!

Deciding what to do with nursery this week. He’s going twice a week for 4-5h only but the nursery doesn’t have AC and while it’s free flow into the garden it’s too hot for them to open that I’m guessing.

I do have AC in my house so I’m unsure if I want to send him in when it’s 37 degrees outside? Kind of need those hours as I’m working from home and it’s the only time I can focus on work fully but I also don’t want him to overheat there or be miserable.

My husband had a close call a week ago at work and it’s made me reflect on what would happen in case one of us leaves this earth too soon. I think I’m still shaken from what happened / didn’t happen thankfully and therefore my emotions are heightened but I cannot stop crying whenever I think about what our child would do if we are no longer before he turns 18. We don’t really have mentally stable (enough) family or anyone we’d trust with our child so where would he go? Just the thought of him going into foster care is really horrible to me.

And on the other hand, it made so so scared of anything happening to our son as well. Right after my husbands close call with his life I doom scrolled online to disassociate as I was on the bus and didn’t want to start crying and I came across a video of someone who lost their only child to a drowning accident and honestly I don’t remember the hours after seeing this. Now I just think god if something happened, how would I continue my life. I know having multiple children wouldn’t make this better because you’re not replacing anything but I just think at least there would still be children laughing in my house, the house wouldn’t feel so empty, toys would get used. I know this is very morbid and I have a doctors appointment tomorrow to see if I could speak to someone as I think I’m a bit traumatised but just needed to emotionally unload this online and ask for advice or any words of wisdom really.

My 14m (this week) old just climbed out of his cot. I don’t know how he’s done it and I just placed him back and he tried and didn’t manage but my question is do I now have to transform his cot into a toddler bed or can I treat this as a one off? 🫠

I stopped swaddling the second he showed a single sign of rolling but obviously he’s more robust now and he’s a bit wild so don’t really know how to completely make his room safe lol. As in, everything is baby proof in theory but I know he’ll still somehow manage to get himself into a weird position so his room would have to be completely empty?? 😬

I really don’t know what to do anymore and don’t really have anyone to talk about this so once again turning to Reddit.

Our toddler (13 months) did not settle in nursery whatsoever and it got to a point where I felt I was traumatising him by sending him in so I took him out of nursery. By some miracle, I found another smaller nursery who had availability. First settling session, horrible. Maybe even worse than the previous nursery.
Second settling session, was sent home after 20 minutes. Even worse.

He also had his 1 year vaccinations a few weeks ago and ever since then it’s been even worse. Complete change in his personality. I don’t know if it’s because he’s still poorly from the side effects (weeks later) or what it is but I’m worried sick that something is really wrong that I just don’t see. I took him to the GP twice now who also doesn’t know what’s going on.

Now my work has asked me to be more flexible and stay longer here and there as I have no overlap with my US based colleagues and when I said I cannot be more flexible as I literally have no childcare whatsoever I was threatened with a disciplinary meeting with HR as it’s in my contract that I have to be flexible. Surely childcare cancels out working past my contracted hours?

I don’t really know what I’m asking for her but ANY advice would be so appreciated because I don’t know what else to do.

Many people said send him to a childminder but none around us have any space available and those that do have dogs (?!) inside the home or he’d be the only child going there which I’m not really comfortable with.

Regarding not settling: he’s hyperventilating, throwing up, sat in a corner covering silently and screams whenever anyone tries to pick him up or even touch him. We tried it all. Comforter, etc.
He doesn’t usually have separation anxiety as I take him to playgroups, the playground and other busy loud places where he’ll happily wonder about without even looking for me.

I do have a husband who thankfully is going to be home for a few weeks now and can relief me off 24/7 childcare but he often works away for weeks at a time so this isn’t a 50/50 situation on a daily if that makes sense. Toddler also loves spending time with dad but refuses to be put down to sleep by him entirely. We tried many times and I’ve been away from the house overnight as well and toddler just decided he’d rather stay up from 9pm-5am crying than sleep. So yay us.

(Sorry for two posts in only a few days!)

My 13m old has been in nursery now for almost 5 weeks. We had the usual nursery bugs but he’s not settling at all and hates nursery and I don’t know what to do anymore. Most days he comes home early as he plays independently at home while I work but I’d of course prefer to not have my child around while I’m working (hence why he’s in nursery)

He screams and cries from the moment we walk through the doors until I pick him up and it’s been like this since day 1. The nursery itself seems really great, I like all the staff as well and my friends kids have been going for a long time and they praise it. I don’t think it’s the nursery itself.
He was pushed off a chair by another child on his first settling session which didn’t help but they were really good at communicating how they’ll prevent this from happening again and followed through on it.

They can’t calm him down. He won’t eat, sleep, drink or even let them touch him. They send me pictures of him in the corner covering his ears crying when I ask what he’s doing as they genuinely can’t provide anything else so I go get him of course because it’s so heartbreaking.

He’s gone in with his comforter, a tshirt of me, for only a few minutes, hours, nothing helps.
I’ve never seen him react like this anywhere. He does cover his ears in his swimming class too but the nursery isn’t huge and it’s not even that loud every time I go.

Any advice? 🥲

Genuinely wondering how other parents do it. Every day I found myself rushing and stressing since returning back to work.

Toddler (13m) was in nursery today from 8:30am-3pm. I think this is part of the issue as I would prefer for him to go until 5:00 pm but he hates nursery and is always ill also so we have to be patient before extending his days which is fine. What makes this stressful however is that I work until 4pm so he spends 20ish minutes playing independently or sitting on my lap looking at a book which thankfully he is completely fine with and then there's no time for me to take a breath after work before going straight back to parenting.

I use my lunch break normally to give the house a quick tidy and put away all the breakfast things. Sometimes I prepare some dinner already, for example if I know it will take long like potatoes, but not always.

Then once work is done it's go go go, dinner and bath until I crash and then it's somehow my sleep time?!

Today I put him down at 8pm, then cleaned anything in the kitchen that I could not manage with him around, put on some laundry, gave the bath another wipe because it was bath time and then I put a cinnamon bun in the oven while I had my shower. Now it's almost 9 and I am about to go to sleep.

How do people do this every day? Serve healthy meals, keep the house clean and tidy and get more than 5 minutes for themselves?

(And yes I do have a partner but he works away at the moment and when he is at home, I feel like it's still hectic as I tend to be the one cooking. I get some time for myself at least not having to do bedtime or all the cleaning)

Is everyone so maxed out?