u/throwaway_ghost_122

Hello, my partner and I might be moving for his job in downtown SF and I'm just trying to do some preliminary research.

I've lived in the Midwest for virtually my whole life and love taking road trips and exploring, so I don't think I'm quite ready to get rid of my car, which seems to be broadly recommended for living in the actual city.

If you were going to live outside of SF and commute in three days a week and wanted a 2br/2ba apartment for under $5k (closer to $4k would be great, but I realize that may not be realistic), where would you live? Or would you really recommend just living in the city?

I'm so confused. Tried the water test. Tried having the valve switch in both positions and it just never finished preheating - it's gone as long as 30 minutes. Also, I'm not sure if the red button next to the valve is supposed to go up and down from my moving the switch, but it doesn't.

I have no experience with pressure cookers whatsoever. I read the entire instruction manual. What am I doing wrong? Is it supposed to steam a little bit during the preheating process? Because it is...

Hey everybody, I find so much on this sub to be so relatable for so many reasons, much moreso than any other sub - and I have so much I'd love to discuss with you all, but first:

My mom (32 at the time) married my dad (39 at the time) after meeting him in a bar and only knowing him for a few short months in the 80s. He was an uneducated Vietnam vet with the typical drug/prison? issues and needless to say they got divorced just two months after I was born. They were married for just over a year.

My mom and her family were highly educated, something like upper middle class, and they were mortified that she'd hooked up with such a loser. This became a huge thing in my life. How could my mother have wanted me so badly, but done such a horrible job finding a father for me?

My mom died just a few short years later, so I can't ask her about any of this, but ever since I could remember, I was absolutely beyond terrified of my father and didn't want to go anywhere near him. He lived several hours away in another state and while my mom was alive, she tried to make sure we had time together, even though she had full custody. I wanted absolutely nothing to do with any of this. I was especially scared to spend time alone with him.

What could this mean, if anything? I barely lived with him for any length of time - how could I feel so afraid?

Btw, I hope I don't offend any Vietnam vets - I've since met many who seemed great. My father was obviously from a less privileged situation and supposedly endured abuse himself.

I'm a core millennial and it always seemed like when I was in elementary school in the 90s, every single thing I read for school had a section at the end about all these big changes I should make in my daily life to achieve different goals, mostly environmental.

I personally found it overwhelming - it made me feel like every problem on Earth was mine to fix and I was doing something very wrong if I weren't actively engaged and thinking about all these issues at all times. I think I still feel guilty about it sometimes to this day!

Examples:

• Beg parents to stop driving and walk or ride a bike everywhere

• Only buy products made of recycled materials

• Ask parents to start driving way out to a recycling center with all our trash at least once a week (no city recycling pickup)

• Collect rainwater to use instead of the tap

• Constantly write letters to politicians about the pandas, the cougars, the elephants, the rhinoceroses, the eagles, the manatees, and so on

• Travel to Washington DC regularly to participate in protests

I'm not saying these things would be *bad* to do, just that they seemed a bit unreasonable to ask of children who really didn't have much control over their lives. And there was never any mention of trying to make systemic changes - it was all up to the individual kid, and it made me feel like I was already a terrible person for not doing all of them.

Am I the only one who felt this way? Lol