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This has probably been asked before but can’t seem to find a solid answer.

I am due my baby in November and all going well hope to go on maternity leave the week before. I work from home so this should be manageable (fingers crossed). The issue is I am on a temp contract that keeps being reviewed every 6 months. My current contract will be due to end at the end of the year, no official date from HR, they are dragging their feet. So I’m assuming my contract ending means my maternity leave ends also. And now I’m freaking out about how I’ll survive with no income.

Any insights would be greatly appreciated

Hey all, my 3.5 year old has been toilet trained since January, we were really struggling with the number twos but we made very slow progress, & we thought we had finally had it all sorted.
Recently she has gone backwards & will only poo in a pull up. She will also just poo in her big girl pants rather than going to the bathroom. We can tell she needs to go because she is very obviously straining to hold it in & when we bring her to the toilet it’s a huge ordeal, she screams & cries, she even hits us away & says she doesn’t need to go when she clearly does.

I had been letting her make the mess & have her helping me clean up but it’s getting so frustrating. She poos when we are out so I have to bring clean clothes, wipes etc & I feel like I’m back at square one. This morning I gave in & put on a pull up because she hasn’t gone properly in 3-4 days & im worried about her.

We’ve a baby due in November so I’m wondering if this has caused the change? But I also can’t send her back to play school if she’s going to poo herself all the time. I’m so stressed. Any advice?

Girls, where are we buying our maternity bras? I’m a size 34 G/H depending on the bra and really struggling to find something comfy. I recently bought a couple from Debenhams but they only size up to L, they’re comfy but absolutely no support and I feel so frumpy in them.

So looking for good support but comfortable if that’s even possible!

Hey all,we’re headed to the Zoo tomorrow with our 3.5 year old, she’s also mad into trains but never been on one. Are they any options from Phoenix Park into the city so we can at least make a day of it? I’ll be driving to the Zoo itself so can drive a shortish distance to nearest train station. It’s just for the experience for the little one.

Thanks!

I am going to a World Cup Final & games night party tomorrow evening. The rest of the group will be enjoying some cold alcoholic beverages, I am wondering what you guys have been drinking? I’m not a fan of 0.0 wine and the beer is ok. Any secret recipes for non alcoholic concoctions that’ll be nice and refreshing?

Hi all!

We have been living in our rental property for 4 years - today our landlord messaged us to let us know she intends to sell in the New Year. We are aware this isn’t a valid notice. She said she will be contacting the RTB in the next few weeks.

We know that she actually isn’t registered with the RTB - we’ve looked it up numerous times - so we are now wondering what happens with a notice? We are also suspicious she is only saying she is going to contact the RTB hoping we decide to leave before she has to register.

Obviously this has been a massive blow to us, I am due our second child in November - not perfect timing. We are conflicted whether to move out now or wait until RTB confirms notice &/or registration. We also have no lease but have been paying monthly rent into her bank account with reference ’Rent’.

Not sure where to go from here so wondering how all this affects us. Ideally we’d like to move easily however the rental market is grim and unfortunately that is all we are able to afford at this moment.

Just for fun, what do you call the baby in your belly? Myself and my partner call ours ‘Blob’ and it’s very funny when we say it out loud to people who don’t get what we mean 😂 My 3.5 year old calls the baby Sunflower, somehow don’t think it’ll stick for a real name once baba arrives!

Hey!

My Mum (60) has just been diagnosed with breast cancer. A huge shock to us all as we were told the tumour wasn’t sinister but that’s a different story.

She’s due to have surgery in hospital next week and I’d like to do something to make her time in the hospital more comfortable. I unfortunately won’t be able to be there with her because I am 21 weeks pregnant & can’t be around her when she has the dye inserted.

What kind of things did you appreciate? I asked her and she said she wanted absolutely nothing just a phone call every so often. I have my grandads Padre Pio coin that she passed to me when I was going into labour with my first but maybe that’s a bit much. I’m definitely over thinking this but want to be practical in my approach to support her.

Hey all,

I’m 20 weeks and having heart palpitations, shortness of breath and weakness. It was getting particularly bad so made appointment to see GP this morning. He checked blood pressure, heart rate, lungs and all appeared good. He said blood pressure was a little high but not concerning.
He’s sending me to MAU for more tests, mainly blood tests & possible ECG. He advised not to go until tomorrow morning so I’m not waiting around a long time.

Has anyone had symptoms like this? I’m worried because all was normal at GP, the hospital will dismiss how I’m feeling but I am feeling pretty rough. I’m an anxious person in general & take sertraline but GP said anxiety palpitations present differently. I’m afraid they’ll see me in the hospital and think I’m over exaggerating my symptoms or I’m wasting their time.

Where I am we having this awful continuous misty rain. Can’t do anything in it. I miss the sun. I’m miserable. Had to mute two group chats who are taking great delight in the change in weather this morning. Not ok with a whole week of this.

Hey everyone.

I’m 18 + 5, out shopping this morning I stupidly banged the trolley into a shelf and then hit my belly/very small bump off the trolley. It hurt at the time but there’s no pain or bleeding or anything.

I’m extremely anxious this pregnancy due to it being my little rainbow baby but also don’t want to be running into a&e for every little thing. But that’s my question, is this a little thing? How protected is baby in there? I don’t feel regular movements yet but think I’ve felt a few flutters since the bang.

Any thoughts be much appreciated for a tired and anxious mama to be ❤️

TW - bleeding and mention of loss.

I had a very sudden and quite severe bleed in the early hours of Sunday morning, I went straight to a&e and subsequently had a stay over night in the maternity unit. The care I received was second to none so I am so thankful for that however I have no answers.

Baby is ok - strong heartbeat and movements - but they couldn’t tell me what the bleeding was. The bleeding settled & I just have brown discharge now. Midwife’s & consultants are all happy for me to wait until my anatomy scan in 3 weeks for a more detailed look. I had a loss earlier in the year at 8 weeks so I’m not gunna lie but I’m spiralling so much. I was reassured that all is ok, but I can’t stop myself worrying.

Has anyone been here before? Sudden bleed that doesn’t have an obvious cause? I’m so upset & possibly a wee bit traumatised after the whole thing.

Ladies I am 16 weeks pregnant and I cannot stop eating. I feel like I’m constantly munching. I’m quite varied with my diet and I’m eating as healthy as I can. I’ll have fruits, yogurts & granola, I cannot get enough of sandwiches and then in the evenings I’m grazing at savoury things - crackers, pretzels. I made bolognaise yesterday and literally had two huge portions.

I had an antenatal app yesterday & the midwife wasn’t concerned about my weight - but I’m wondering if I should be. It’s mental I went from first trimester not being able to eat a single thing to this.

Hey all 😌

What books did you read to your little one when you or your partner were expecting another baby? My LO is 3.5 and she loves books & her routine of a bedtime story so think this will be a special way to introduce the idea of a baby in the house to her. I’ve looked every time we’re in the library but nothing has stood out.

TIA

Hey all! Some little sh1tbag tried to break into the cars in our estate last night - neighbours got them on their camera. So I’m now in the market for our own cameras.

I’m looking for something that’s not too expensive, easy to install and connects to your phone via an app. I am absolutely useless at this kind of thing and I had a look an Amazon but hadn’t a clue what I was looking at.

TIA - also remember to lock your cars!

Hey all ❤️

I am 14 weeks and for the last week or so I have had the most intense headaches. I’ve managed mostly to push through but it’s gotten so bad that my eyes are sore. I know I can take paracetamol, and I took yesterday but I’m cautious about taking too many, I’m also on 50mg Sertraline so a bit iffy about any more medication.

I’m looking for home remedies, tips or any suggestions that worked for you? TIA x

Hey all, I’m 12 weeks 4 days & the nausea has finally subsided and my appetite is back with a vengeance. I just had prawns (ready cooked, cold) in a salad. I completely forgot myself. I’m not worried I’m pretty sure I ate muscles during my first pregnancy but I decided to look up foods I should avoid and I did not expect it to be that long of a list. Runny poached eggs and 99 ice creams? God that’s tough.

Anyway, my favourite food at the moment is those chicken & bacon Caesar wraps you get in the shops , also to be avoided. What are the chances of listeria really like? I understand the guidelines & all that but what are the actual risks.