u/thunderclapcity

I’m wondering if i’m genuinely just overdoing it but at the same time, please give me advice to work through this. I (20F) have a girlfriend (22F) and we are clearly raised two completely different ways and it’s taken alot for me to understand her way of thinking. A problem that ive been having with her recently is that it seems like everything is 200x more difficult for her. Which i don’t understand because she doesn’t have any disabilities or anything, is in college. Literally older the me with more experience, and yet when it comes to what i think is simple, for some reason it’s just so hard for her.

And what makes this difficult for me is i’m the type of person where if it’s common sense to me, i just don’t see how it’s rocket science to others. Obviously i know that isn’t a nice way to think, but i am not sure how to stop it. Sometimes i feel like people play like they don’t understand or it’s like weaponized incompetence and i feel like that keeps me stern on how i feel. I’m not sure how to unlearn it.

A couple examples, what happened just now, we are actively on the hunt for an apartment, we are submitting our applications and she said we could do it during her lunch break. But the second we start it seems like she’s elderly trying to use technology again .”It’s telling me to make an account” like uhhh? okay? make the account?. But she genuinely will sit and stress over it until i tell her “okay, well maybe that means you have to make an account honey” then she will do it, like hello???!. Or when she was filling it out and i told her to only do the required questions since that would help us finish faster, she says okay and then is clearly stumped on a question, she asks me about how to fill it out and i ask her if it’s marked red (is it a required question) and she says no….like girl skip it then!??

There’s a million different things far more specific but if be here all day. I don’t know what to do or why this irritates me so much. I know peoples brains works differently but i feel like i give her the answers and she goes off path, gets stomped, and then i have to re direct her to the exact same answer i just said. Or the answer is just in her face or (in my thoughts) common sense and it just doesn’t click to her. Super confused but i also feel bad bc i feel so mean.

Advice? Tips? Comments?

I’m wondering if i’m genuinely just overdoing it but at the same time, please give me advice to work through this. I (20F) have a girlfriend (22F) and we are clearly raised two completely different ways and it’s taken alot for me to understand her way of thinking. A problem that ive been having with her recently is that it seems like everything is 200x more difficult for her. Which i don’t understand because she doesn’t have any disabilities or anything, is in college. Literally older the me with more experience, and yet when it comes to what i think is simple, for some reason it’s just so hard for her.

And what makes this difficult for me is i’m the type of person where if it’s common sense to me, i just don’t see how it’s rocket science to others. Obviously i know that isn’t a nice way to think, but i am not sure how to stop it. Sometimes i feel like people play like they don’t understand or it’s like weaponized incompetence and i feel like that keeps me stern on how i feel. I’m not sure how to unlearn it.

A couple examples, what happened just now, we are actively on the hunt for an apartment, we are submitting our applications and she said we could do it during her lunch break. But the second we start it seems like she’s elderly trying to use technology again .”It’s telling me to make an account” like uhhh? okay? make the account?. But she genuinely will sit and stress over it until i tell her “okay, well maybe that means you have to make an account honey” then she will do it, like hello???!. Or when she was filling it out and i told her to only do the required questions since that would help us finish faster, she says okay and then is clearly stumped on a question, she asks me about how to fill it out and i ask her if it’s marked red (is it a required question) and she says no….like girl skip it then!??

There’s a million different things far more specific but if be here all day. I don’t know what to do or why this irritates me so much. I know peoples brains works differently but i feel like i give her the answers and she goes off path, gets stomped, and then i have to re direct her to the exact same answer i just said. Or the answer is just in her face or (in my thoughts) common sense and it just doesn’t click to her. Super confused but i also feel bad bc i feel so mean.

Advice? Tips? Comments?

Anyone who lives at the paddock wanna be gym pals? specifically at night time since i work 9-5. I’m a beginner but i need some type of motivation to keep going so i was thinking going with someone could help.

I wanna start by saying i 100% know this is emotional, but after seeing things today i am just so furious i feel so empty and pathetic. My mom and dad aren’t together and broke up pretty young into my life. Growing up his wife essentially hated me, like bad. I constantly got in trouble and she had this weird hold over my dad. Like she could tell him to beat me for some nonsensical reason and he would. I remember times where he would leave home and she would put me in chokeholds and tell me how much she didn’t want he there. At one point she told me to never come back to her house and that if i was still in my dad’s life, she wouldn’t marry him.

Me and my dad stopped talking right after and surprise surprise they got married. I came back into his life and she hated that. Now i wanna preface this by saying i was like 5 so i’m not some 26 year old trying to force my way in their life. Essentially it went on for a long time where she openly hated me and me an my dads relationship plummeted because he kept abusing me for her spite and eventually when i was 16 he ended up beating me so bad i got sent to the hospital and it truly was just because she told him to.

When i went off to college i missed him (i really don’t know why but i’ve always loved him and have been a daddy’s girl) and reached out to let him know what my number was and things and like that. I told him ofc that i didnt want to hear about his wife nor did i ever want to go back to his house. Now 2 years later essentially we are super close and text and call often, but thats it we don’t hang out or anything. Well today i seen that her daughter prom was today and she looks amazing truly, and i seen his wife’s account and seen the things she posted and idk i just feel like i was cheated at life.

More context my mom was taking all of the child support money and wasnt giving me any, sent me off to college and then stopped paying for it all after the 1st semester so i was stranded in a new state since i couldn’t afford to move so i just moved in with my best friend and saved up for a communal living and been livin check to check until i get my license and things since i wasnt allowed to get one while with my mom. My dad showed her daughter how to drive and got her a car mind you…I just feel so cheated at life because she really did end up getting everything she wanted. The husband, me out of his life, they go on trips every month and her kids now get all the spoiled attention and love i never got.

And she posts all my family members on my dads side like it’s her family, and they talk to her more then ive heard from them in years. I just feel so empty like i’m living this check to check life barely enough to fucking exist and her daughter is getting this luxury prom with support from MY family and hers, while my prom was half assed and only my grandma showed up after i begged her. Idk what it is but it’s like a different type of rage i’m feeling because i feel so cheated. Like she really did win, and idek what i did to her other then exist. And to see after all the therapy and mental work ive worked through, my family supports HER?!? she doesn’t even allow me to see my little brother. This shit is killing me im so heartbroken.

I wanna start by saying i 100% know this is emotional, but after seeing things today i am just so furious i feel so empty and pathetic. My mom and dad aren’t together and broke up pretty young into my life. Growing up his wife essentially hated me, like bad. I constantly got in trouble and she had this weird hold over my dad. Like she could tell him to beat me for some nonsensical reason and he would. I remember times where he would leave home and she would put me in chokeholds and tell me how much she didn’t want he there. At one point she told me to never come back to her house and that if i was still in my dad’s life, she wouldn’t marry him.
Me and my dad stopped talking right after and surprise surprise they got married. I came back into his life and she hated that. Now i wanna preface this by saying i was like 5 so i’m not some 26 year old trying to force my way in their life. Essentially it went on for a long time where she openly hated me and me an my dads relationship plummeted because he kept abusing me for her spite and eventually when i was 16 he ended up beating me so bad i got sent to the hospital and it truly was just because she told him to.
When i went off to college i missed him (i really don’t know why but i’ve always loved him and have been a daddy’s girl) and reached out to let him know what my number was and things and like that. I told him ofc that i didnt want to hear about his wife nor did i ever want to go back to his house. Now 2 years later essentially we are super close and text and call often, but thats it we don’t hang out or anything. Well today i seen that her daughter prom was today and she looks amazing truly, and i seen his wife’s account and seen the things she posted and idk i just feel like i was cheated at life.
More context my mom was taking all of the child support money and wasnt giving me any, sent me off to college and then stopped paying for it all after the 1st semester so i was stranded in a new state since i couldn’t afford to move so i just moved in with my best friend and saved up for a communal living and been livin check to check until i get my license and things since i wasnt allowed to get one while with my mom. My dad showed her daughter how to drive and got her a car mind you…I just feel so cheated at life because she really did end up getting everything she wanted. The husband, me out of his life, they go on trips every month and her kids now get all the spoiled attention and love i never got.
And she posts all my family members on my dads side like it’s her family, and they talk to her more then ive heard from them in years. I just feel so empty like i’m living this check to check life barely enough to fucking exist and her daughter is getting this luxury prom with support from MY family and hers, while my prom was half assed and only my grandma showed up after i begged her. Idk what it is but it’s like a different type of rage i’m feeling because i feel so cheated. Like she really did win, and idek what i did to her other then exist. And to see after all the therapy and mental work ive worked through, my family supports HER?!? she doesn’t even allow me to see my little brother. This shit is killing me im so heartbroken.

I wanna start this by saying I KNOW i am potential being extremely emotional right now. Today is the day i’m supposed to start my period, i’m hormonal and in pain. I got off work today and my gf was off, she picked me up and i let her know i feel bad today, we got home and i just laid down becuz the pain is like overlyyyyy.

Boom, i’m trying to distract myself from the pain and my girlfriend is watching this show where girls beat each other up. I notice that when she watches this show she gets a little aggressive as if she’s apart of the show or something. She tells me to watch this fight she’s seeing and it’s just two girls fighting and says “i can tell this would be you fighting “ i look for a second and don’t really see a good fight, moreso just one really trying to hit the other and the other backing back constantly. I say that it doesn’t look like much of a fight, she says look that girl just got knocked out.

FROM WHAT IIIIII SEEN, it looked like the girl was super ready to swing and fell trying to swing. I told her i just don’t see what she’s seeing and she makes a remark about how i’m probably a girl who gets knocked out and claims she fell, i’m like alright girl. She then rewinds it and keeps showing it to me kid u not like 10 times, every time i’m just not seeing what she’s seeing so again i just say i don’t see it. She stands up and like yells in anger and balls up her fist like on some raging shit, so i told her she needs to calm down and just watch her show.

I told her she was irritating me and so i’m just going to go back into watching my tiktok’s. Apparently after that the show shows a slo mo of the hit and she puts her phone in front of my phone so it’s covering what i’m watching and kept telling me to watch it. I grabbed her phone out of my face and told her to stop doing that because it’s pissing me off. she’s like you need to look and puts it in my face again so i grabbed her phone and was like ur really pissing me the fuck off stop putting it in my damn face, she’s like “why, do u need ur glasses or something?”

i honestly have no clue why but that set me off so bad i just stood up and said i’m staying in the living room bc i don’t want to be in the same room as her right now. Now like i said i am starting my period so i’m irritable and honestly this is probably nothing for real and i maybe won’t even be mad about it 2 days from now but i needed to vent bad. It’s like she was so eager to be right she didn’t give a fuck that i’m getting irritated she just wanted to prove a point. Sighhhh anywho thanks for reading lol. This was texted fast as this just happened so i’m fast texting sorry if it’s all over the place.

I wanna start this by saying I KNOW i am potential being extremely emotional right now. Today is the day i’m supposed to start my period, i’m hormonal and in pain. I got off work today and my gf was off, she picked me up and i let her know i feel bad today, we got home and i just laid down becuz the pain is like overlyyyyy.

Boom, i’m trying to distract myself from the pain and my girlfriend is watching this show where girls beat each other up. I notice that when she watches this show she gets a little aggressive as if she’s apart of the show or something. She tells me to watch this fight she’s seeing and it’s just two girls fighting and says “i can tell this would be you fighting “ i look for a second and don’t really see a good fight, moreso just one really trying to hit the other and the other backing back constantly. I say that it doesn’t look like much of a fight, she says look that girl just got knocked out.

FROM WHAT IIIIII SEEN, it looked like the girl was super ready to swing and fell trying to swing. I told her i just don’t see what she’s seeing and she makes a remark about how i’m probably a girl who gets knocked out and claims she fell, i’m like alright girl. She then rewinds it and keeps showing it to me kid u not like 10 times, every time i’m just not seeing what she’s seeing so again i just say i don’t see it. She stands up and like yells in anger and balls up her fist like on some raging shit, so i told her she needs to calm down and just watch her show.

I told her she was irritating me and so i’m just going to go back into watching my tiktok’s. Apparently after that the show shows a slo mo of the hit and she puts her phone in front of my phone so it’s covering what i’m watching and kept telling me to watch it. I grabbed her phone out of my face and told her to stop doing that because it’s pissing me off. she’s like you need to look and puts it in my face again so i grabbed her phone and was like ur really pissing me the fuck off stop putting it in my damn face, she’s like “why, do u need ur glasses or something?”

i honestly have no clue why but that set me off so bad i just stood up and said i’m staying in the living room bc i don’t want to be in the same room as her right now. Now like i said i am starting my period so i’m irritable and honestly this is probably nothing for real and i maybe won’t even be mad about it 2 days from now but i needed to vent bad. It’s like she was so eager to be right she didn’t give a fuck that i’m getting irritated she just wanted to prove a point. Sighhhh anywho thanks for reading lol. This was texted fast as this just happened so i’m fast texting sorry if it’s all over the place.

i feel like it’s impossible to find real girl friends this is so ghetto