u/tomoscloud

The zillow listing for the WV house is a trip. The pictures of the interior, it's like looking into a time machine of rod lore. The pics are from when the rods lived there, you can see all their stuff, and how the furniture was arranged and how the entire house was laid out.

Ps- I feel ok posting because the address is publicly available, the rods posted it publicly in newsletters and posts, and they no longer live there.

https://www.zillow.com/homedetails/845-Honaker-Dr-Charleston-WV-25312/22658997_zpid/

My marriage was basically the paulandmorgan marriage. Change "pickleball" to "world series of poker" and "pokemon cards" to "magic the gathering cards", and it's the same.

I got married because I was pressured to hurry up and get a husband and have kids. So we did. The man child I married however was unable and unwilling to keep any job for more than a month or two, then gave up entirely in pursuit of trying to get into and win the world series of poker. He entered lower level tournaments, was bad at them, and lost/wasted tons of money chasing the dream of becoming a professional poker player, imagining being supported by sponsors and high stakes poker winnings. He was a fool, who in spite of his imagined skill and talent actually was a horrible poker player. Just like Paul and pickleball. Failure.

So he bought sold and traded Magic the Gathering cards, trying to cheat, grift, and manipulate people into selling or giving him cards so he could in turn sell them at profit. He honestly thought his skill with people would woo unsuspecting people, often teenagers, into making him rich with card trading. He hung out at card shops like a ghoul waiting to buy cards and pester the people in the gaming room in the back, and making shady deals in parking lots. Just like Paul with pokemon. Surprise, this was also a failure.

Idk what Paul will do next, but my ex moved on to trolling garage and estate sales to try and score resellable treasures for next to nothing. Occasionally he made a few hundred dollars doing all these things, but he spent hella more than he ever made, all while utterly neglecting me and our kids. I had to go to work, and the fool spent all the money I earned chasing his stupid "anything but an actual job" schemes.

At one point late in the marriage I was working 50 hours a week and somehow having no money to pay bills because he spent it all. (In the circles we were in at the time, the wife was supposed to stay home and the man handle the money, so I didn't have my own bank account. Yes, I was a fool too.) Now, morgan isn't working, but neither was I at the card trading stage.

Eventually my idiot narcissist manchild husband had burnt the very bridge with anyone who might have helped us, convinced me it was my fault, and boom, I was working. Paul and morgan may reach the "noone will help anymore" point as well, I feel like they were close when they were living separately at the respective parents houses.

Anyway, the end of this tale is that finally my kids moved out, and I was so sick of the constant degradation, being broke, and just misery, that I left. The final straw was when he tried to hit me because I wouldn't give him the money in my purse. (The mindset was always what was his was his, and what was mine was also his, because husband and bible and what not. And yes he somehow did all this gambling and scheming and dishonest and frankly evil stuff and still considered himself to be an upstanding righteous honorable person, since clearly everything that failed to work out was someone else's fault.).

The cautionary part is, if you are in this sort of situation, even if the people around you are quoting scripture and gaslighting the crap out of you about being a good wife means supporting your husband no matter what, GET OUT BEFORE you waste your entire adult life being used, abused, and neglected by a useless narcissist manchild who is literally incapable of caring about you, your kids, or literally anyone but himself. Seriously. Life is so much better when you are free. It's hard to see that, see past the situation when you're in it, because it becomes your normal. But, I speak from experience when I say do whatever you need to to break free, then run and never look back. I did, and my only regret is that I took so long to do it. DO IT.