u/traconcot

didn't think it would do anything honestly but my glasses have been way less annoying since i changed them

curious if anyone knows how it operates

so my brother’s wife idk 30f decided i’m some kind of problem in the family and started basically investigating me and i only noticed because people started acting weird.i’m 29m quiet normal life no drama work full time don’t post much just keep to myself at family stuff. it started with her asking random personal questions at dinners like who i hang out with why i changed jobs why i don’t post online and i thought she was just being awkward. then she told my mom she thinks i’m hiding something and needs to make sure the family is safe around me and nobody laughed except me at first because i thought it was a joke. after that i found out she was contacting people i used to work with asking about my mental state and if i had unstable behavior. when i confronted her she said she trusts her instincts more than my explanations and that i should cooperate if i have nothing to hide. now my family is split my mom says she’s just concerned my brother is stuck in the middle and i feel like i’m being treated like a suspect for just being quiet. idk what to do because if i react i look guilty and if i do nothing she keeps digging into my life.

Our family is scattered all over the world. I can't see almost any of my relatives for various reasons. The only way we can stay in touch right now is by phone. Honestly, I don't feel like talking on the phone for 30 minutes a day with just one famile member.

I haven't spoken to my mother for a couple of months now. We live in a family where everyone butts in. My maternal grandparents have never supported me in arguments with my mother. But they love me. I'd even say they're overprotective. But if I argue with my mother, they always tell me, She's your mother, male peace with her. Regardless, even if my mom is wrong. So, during yet another argument, I lost my temper and blocked my mom cuz I couldn't stand the tension any longer and simply didn't want to listen to the nonsense she was telling me anymore. My grandma immediately started scolding me, so I blocked her too, knowing she wouldn't support me. My grandpa didn't say anything about it at first, even saying to ignore them, that they'd cool down and everything would pass. For the fist time in my life, I felt like this was it, that support where it wasn't 3 persons against me at once. But after a month or two, my grandpa started jokingly saying that it was my mother, etc. I didn't pay attention at first, but in the last month he's been sending me Insta posts every day where talks about love to ur mother, thus starting to support her. All the joy disappeared cuz I realized that I was alone again. I have good relationship with granpa, we never said I love you to each other, but we always showed it to each other in other ways (different actions or interesting conversations). So now I'm at a crossroads cuz I can't stand the lack of support, the daily pressure. I'm thinking about blocking granpa too. Not forever of course, but at least for a while, just to get away from this situation, cuz now I just can't stop thinking about it.