u/traveldude75

We will be in the area in a couple of weeks and curious if there are any rails to trails in the area? Not sure if we should leave the bikes at home or not.

I’ve been seeing a woman for almost 2 months. She’s a widow, has been widowed for over 4 years, and dating isn’t new to her. She has a good job and, according to her, makes 6 figures. She has a very nice home and drives a nice SUV. We get along really well and I enjoy spending time with her.

My concern is that she has never once offered to pay for anything. We’ve taken a few trips together, and she hasn’t offered to pay for her plane ticket, buy a meal, or even grab me a coffee. I’m not keeping score dollar-for-dollar, but at this point it’s starting to stand out.

What’s adding to my concern is that there have now been a couple situations where I unexpectedly ended up paying for things for her. The other week we were shopping and her card was declined when she was buying a pair of shoes, so I picked up the tab. Another time she asked me to stop and pick up a prescription for her and asked me to use the card she had on file, but that card didn’t go through either, so I ended up paying for her prescription too.

I don’t mind being generous, especially early on, but I’m starting to wonder if I’m being taken advantage of financially or if this is just a mismatch in expectations around dating and paying. For context, I’ve always been happy to treat, but I’ve also dated women who at least offered or picked up something here and there.

Am I overthinking this, or is this a reasonable red flag to be concerned about?

**UPDATE: She did buy dinner this past evening…**

We’re traveling through and thinking about spending the day at the beach. Looking for recommendations on the best beach to access for the day, preferably with chair rentals available. Any suggestions?