u/tryingnottoovershare

I’ve been exhausted for a while and now that I finally have time off, I keep wishing I could spend a few days completely alone. Not just an evening doing my own thing, but actually alone, without my husband there. And I feel horrible even writing that.
We’re planning a reconstruction, there’s always cleaning to do and always another decision to make. None of that is his fault, but I think my brain has started associating him with more things being expected from me. Even spending “quality time” together sometimes feels like another task I need to find energy for.
Recently I cried while trying to explain how badly I needed to rest, and that finally seemed to make him understand. Now I can’t tell whether I just desperately need a break where nobody needs anything from me, or whether not wanting to be around him means something is actually wrong with our relationship.
Do you ever need a proper break from your spouse? Does some time alone make you miss them again? How do you know whether you’re overwhelmed or with the wrong person?

Title. Byt je na Praze 13, jde prakticky o komplet rekonstrukci při zachování parket - komplet kuchyně a dvě koupelny, plus oprava těch parket, příprava na dveře, zásuvky a vypínače apod.

Prosím házejte firmy se kterými jste byli spokojení i nespokojeni, je dobrý i vědět čemu se vyhnout, že. Díky!

For at least the past month, I’ve been stuck in this constant “I don’t wanna” state.
I know what I need to do. My brain just rejects all of it. Every task gets an immediate “no.”
I know this is probably executive dysfunction, but I’ve spent so many years blaming myself that I can’t stop feeling like I’m choosing this somehow. I end up stuck in a loop of not doing the thing, feeling guilty, hating myself for it, and then being even less able to start.
Last week I also ran out of my meds, which definitely didn’t help, and now I’ve got a ton of work to finish by the end of the month, plus a messy apartment and all the normal life stuff. Everything just feels impossible.
The advice is always “make a list” or “break it down,” but even making the list feels like another task I don’t want to do. Most of what I need to do is abstract work anyway, so I get stuck trying to define the tasks instead of doing them.
Has anyone else been through a phase like this? Did it pass?
And more importantly: How do you get yourself moving when your brain refuses literally everything? I’m looking for the most basic, practical strategies that helped you get through periods like this without your work and life completely falling apart.

I recently realized how many paper napkins and towels we go through every day, especially as I spend a good 5 minutes blowing my nose every morning, and my husband often uses a paper kitchen towel to wipe stuff down even though there is usually a microfiber cloth on the sink (it does sometimes get dirty or smelly though) . How did you handle this switch? How do you deal with the dirty cloths before you have enough to wash them?

Basically title. Sometimes I get really self conscious when I want to clean up a place, but people come in to spend time there. I guess I don’t want to be seen? Anyone had similar feelings and has advice? Thanks!