u/umylobster_24

For context, I have a decent leadership position on a student services team at a mid-sized University. I love my job, but have been thinking about moving on over the last few months for a number of reasons: it's a long commute 45-60 minutes, I have two young kids (one who starts kindergarten in 2027 and I don't know how to make that work with my hours), I have a husband with a VERY demanding job so I am the default parent doing all drop offs and pick ups/picking up sick kids etc, and there are a lot of higher ed bs issues I deal with on a daily basis making my job frustrating. All this to say, there are a lot of upsides too. I love what I do and love working with college students, the pay is "eh" but the benefits are great (11% 401k match, 30+ vacation days, wonderful healthcare benefits that both me and my kids are on). Up until now, a very flexible hybrid work environment where my boss (the Dean) has let me manage how I handle that with my team.

This has been an especially tough year for me and my family personally. We lost our 5 year old golden retriever tragically, my husband (at 35) had a stroke, I got shingles, and never ending illnesses. It has been a really hard year to balance everything and I feel like I am really slacking at work.

Just today, there have been rumblings that the higher ups are doing phased in return to office, with the goal for everyone to be back 5 days in person. Having already been considering moving on, this (if true) feels like the nail in the coffin. Being fully transparent, being a stay-at-home mom is not in my DNA, but financially, we can make it work and ideally I would be looking for another full time job with a much shorter commute or even parttime work.

What would you do? Has anyone been in a similar situation? I am scared to leave for fear that I will never return to the this high of a position again, especially with how fast technology is moving (my title is Senior Assistant Dean). But at the same time, in many ways I think I could be happier and I certainly do not want to commute 5 days into the office.

Some background information: my husband and I lost our 5 year old golden retriever recently due to a health issue. We just started coming around to the idea of finding another golden; however, we have been looking at rescues / rehoming situations rather than a puppy.

We came across a 4 year old golden retriever who is being rehomed because his owners are going through a messy divorce. We met the dog a few days ago and he was absolutely lovely. So sweet, well mannered, playful. We have two young kids (4 and 1) but they are both used to having had a large dog. We are doing an overnight with the dog this week to make sure we mesh well with him and him with us. No health issues that they are aware of, does well alone, housebroken, etc.

It sounds like an idea situation but I'm curious what types of things you all might recommend we keep in mind / ask as we consider this. This would be our first time not getting a puppy from a breeder.

Some background information: my husband and I lost our 5 year old golden retriever recently due to a health issue. We just started coming around to the idea of finding another golden; however, we have been looking at rescues / rehoming situations rather than a puppy.

We came across a 4 year old golden retriever who is being rehomed because his owners are going through a messy divorce. We met the dog a few days ago and he was absolutely lovely. So sweet, well mannered, playful. We have two young kids (4 and 1) but they are both used to having had a large dog. We are doing an overnight with the dog this week to make sure we mesh well with him and him with us. No health issues that they are aware of, does well alone, housebroken, etc.

It sounds like an idea situation but I'm curious what types of things you all might recommend we keep in mind / ask as we consider this. This would be our first time not getting a puppy from a breeder.

Maybe someone who read the books can provide some context. I loved the scene where Hannah made her big romantic gesture with the song at the ice rink, but I’m honestly kind of confused how she went from seeing Garrett getting his “sexy snaps” and being told by Jules etc that she “isn’t his typical type” to being in a place where she thought Garrett might feel the same about her. Like I could understand if he got super upset after she left with Justin at drunk Shakespeare or if he made literally any other indication to her. Is this just a timing issue with the show? Unless she also saw all the yearning eyes he was giving her that the audience saw?

My husband (35) is one month out from an acute ischemic stroke due to a vertebral artery dissection. On Monday he became very sick with diarrhea and fever / sweating. Figured it was a stomach bug. The. Last night he started having severe pain between his shoulder blades. Didn’t sleep all night. Went to urgent care and his BP was 140/100 and they sent him to ER given the recent stroke and additional pain. Nothing showed up on the ER related to heart issues or other issues but I’m terrified. He was discharged but no answers. He is currently passed out sleeping on the couch with his jacket and shoes on. He seems so unwell and now every little thing post stroke has me on edge.

Wondering if the thoracic pain could be a result of GERD maybe brought on by the baby aspirin he’s on to reduce the clot risk? Something just doesn’t feel right and we have two very young kids and I am at a loss for how to help.

I wrote in here a few weeks ago. Three weeks ago, My husband (35) suffered a small stroke due to a vertebral artery dissection. It caused sensory deficits on his left side, mostly left arm and hand but his coordination returned quickly and he can feel things. Never experienced any facial drooping. No difficulty walking or talking at any point.

He just returned to work yesterday and has shown a significant increase in fatigue and he told me last night he kept waking up due to left arm pins and needles. I also noticed yesterday that he was opening and closing his left hand a lot. I am concerned because he had really been improving. Is it possible for symptoms to worsen again after seemingly improving?