I don't think I realized how bad it was until last night. He literally was doing it and jacking off as I was laying in bed next to him. I was sleeping and just so happened to wake up. How do I help him?
I mean I was literally right there. He could have asked me or something idk.
Now I just feel like I'm not enough for him and never will be.
I still have a long way to go to get to my goal weight but this accomplishment excited me 🩷
I want to be able to hold my own in a world that is run by rapists. I want to be strong enough to defend myself.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2.5 years. About a year ago we had a huge argument because I found out he was following sexually charged content on Instagram with young adults(looking 20years or you younger. He's 29, im 27)
I told him I was uncomfortable and he said he was following them because they were cosplayers and it wasn't weird because they were adults. At the end of it he agreed to unfollow the accounts. I was happy and we really haven't had an argument since.
I should also note that I don't go looking through his following list. I trust him and I do trust that he won't talk to any of them or anything like that. The only reason I found out he followed them was because it popped up in my algorithm with the followed by note. Well that's where we are at now. There is another account he is following of a young adult cosplayer in sexually charged posts.
At this point he knows my feelings on it and he did it anyways. Maybe thinking there's been enough time since this argument that he can get away with it now? Idk. I don't want to be the person to look through their partners following list and honestly I'm just scared there are more like it.
I feel like I can't trust him. I feel like he doesn't respect my boundaries. But idk maybe it's too much? Maybe im being controlling?
So that's why I'm here redditors, I really need advice on what I should do, if anything.
Thanks
I was woken up twice last night by my boyfriend moving my feet. He very gently, assuming trying not to wake me, moved my foot to the edge of the bed. He was rubbing it and I think pleasuring himself.
From the beginning..The first time he tried moving my foot I woke up, half asleep, asking him what he was doing. He quickly got into bed and said it was time for bed. I was half asleep so I went back to bed. So the next time I woke up to him moving my feet I acted like I was still asleep. He moved it the the edge of the bed and that's when the rubbing and other things started.
Ive known he's into feet. I feel like he's embarrassed by it and that's why he does it. I'm also very ticklish. Whenever we try things with my feet I laugh. But I didn't laugh when I was half asleep. So maybe that's why. He's embarrassed because I have laughed. maybe he's done this before
For those worried, we both have stated we are okay with the other doing things while the other is asleep, drunk, high. Like what do I do. This is such a bizarre situation idk how to proceed. Maybe just let it go? I mean I'm not ticklish when I'm half asleep/sleep. Maybe this is best?
If anyone has any advice that would be helpful
I(f27) and my boyfriend(m29) have been dating two years and we love each other deeply. We've talked about marriage, kids, our future, everything, and I'm so excited to live life with him.
I won't get into it, but his family runs a business. He does not make as much as his parents obviously but he does fine for himself and so do I. But to live comfortably on a house we buy together? We would honestly struggle a lot.
His parents offered to buy him a house. The goal would be for us to live there and pay a small rent to pay them back but they can pay cash for very nice homes. His mom and him have talked about it and she has said she won't be over bearing and kept telling him they would give their input but he had the final say in the house they will buy for him.for those interested, My boyfriend planned to include my name on the deed once we are married, which we are planning for the next two years.
Anyways, we went to see a house today. Absolutely stunning home, a good size, and a private wooded yard. The price is way lower than some of the houses his parents have sent my boyfriend. We both loved it so much and were wanting to make an offer. I truly saw us raising our family there and just growing our future together.
He called his mom and she said no because iwe should get no more than 4 bedrooms(the house had 5). But that was the end of the discussion. Just like that it was a no. And I get it they are buying the house. I have no right to be upset that they said no to a house. They are being very kind in buying him one. But she just went back on what she said about him having the final say. He explained how much we loved the house and she says no because it has one extra room than what she thinks we need? I don't get it.
On top of that she wants many grand children one day(literally has mentioned 6) AND wants us to care for them in our home when they are both old. And I'm fine with both of those. And this house would have been perfect for that considering the basement could be their own living space someday(this is downplaying it, the basement is amazing). And the house is cheap for all that it has.
I can't stress enough that I understand they are buying the house and they get final say. I'm just realizing I don't want to worry about that. I always imagined me and a partner looking together and buying the home we want. Heck my plan was for us to buy a condo and go up from there when we were ready to move in. This just isn't what I imagined and I also just don't want to feel like they have that control over us forever. I want it to be ours, our choice. Even if the choices aren't as nice.
It sucks because I can't bring this up to my boyfriend because it will sound like I'm being ungrateful/spoiled and maybe I am. Idk. I just need to know what I should do. Any input is appreciated
I am talking about severe autism, minimally verbal, and aggressive. I have worked with families with kids that genuinely beat their parents and their siblings to the point of surgeries and hospitalizations. Even with all the "right" supports in place, there are some who can't be potty trained, need to sleep with their parent, and are outrageously violent.
I won't go into specifics about my job but it has made me terrified to have kids because even though there's a small chance, it's terrifying to think that could be my life.
And I know that there are times the parents are the issue and that sometimes they didn't start setting Supports until it was too late but still.
I am absolutely terrified.
And even with those supports, these kids have been abused by the system and no one knew till years later because they can't communicate. Most workers are mean to them or just genuinely don't show they care.
Don't misinterpret me, I love these kids. They can be so sweet and they can't help the way they were born.... I just wouldn't be able to handle that myself. If I knew I would terminate the pregnancy. Or honestly potentially sign away my rights. And I hate that. I hate that I think this way. I hate that I view their quality of life as so low that I would want to terminate any pregnancy I get that would resemble that.
My boyfriend and I have started talking about our future and wanting kids. And I do want kids and I feel I can handle a lot. But I could not handle that. I know this makes me awful. I know this should stop me from having kids... But idk. And idk how to approach the topic with my boyfriend.
I'm talking about it with my therapist. She thinks a lot of this stems from second hand trauma from my work and really only seeing the extreme cases. I have started looking for other jobs to see if a career change is a good move.
I played last night and it seemed fine enough but today... NOBODY else seems to even be attempting to do gens 🙃