NARC parents visits me and gets violent in public
So I am a 46 year old Female. I intentionally moved 7 hours away from my Parents living in a Coastal Town in Florida.
My parents are very religious and conservative. I am the entire opposite and they despise me for that. I feel it. I try to maintain all peace I can however because I see through their facade, and have actual pity for them deep down.
I have been suffering with a sinus and an ear infection for a week now. On Antibiotics, telling my Mother I didn’t think it was the best time for them to come visit. She didn’t care and came anyways with my Father. They got here on Thursday and I’m very ill, trying to keep peace and be a nice host anticipating the moment they leave so I can rest. Well,last night on the 4th of July, she decorates herself in a giant American Flag and is anxious to go downtown to celebrate all for Facebook pictures. I know what it is and was about.
She pouts that I don’t feel well and it’s ruining her vibe energy and so I pull myself together and walk 2 miles feeling like utter shit and stop and sit down. Tell my parents to go ahead without me and enjoy. I will wait but I am dehydrated so I’m gonna rest. She gets upset and says if I’m not going she’s not. All for reverse psychological triangulation with my father.
Well, what happens next is mind blowing.
My Father gets so mad he KICKS a public trash can downtown in front of lots of people walking. Demands to walk 5 miles back to my house and so I have to walk back to my car with my mother drive home. Wait for my dad to arrive at my house. Big theatrics of they are leaving (it’s 8 pm now) and driving 7 hours back home. I am absolutely traumatized and to maintain peace I ask them to stay and leave in the morning. They do and left at 6 am this morning without even a goodbye.
He has become more violent in the past two occasions in different situations but this in public was beyond alarming to me.
He is 70 and my mother is 68 years old. I failed to mention he is a Pastor as well.
Any advice on how to deal with this. I love alone and not married no kids so they feel entitled to show up anytime. But they use me as a vacation and act like it’s them caring to spend time with me. When in fact, they don’t even like me deep down because I’m everything they aren’t.
Advice please. Thanks it’s my first Reddit post because I’m just trying extremely upset on what to do about this.