Talking in the steamroom at the gym. This room is too small for us to be listening to you yap about the lame ass dude that texted you. Please shut the fuck up.
I just came across a twitter thread with folks going back and forth about their parents calling them nigga or just using it at home in general. Some folks it was pretty common and for some it was considered cussin like any other word.
For y’all did it impact how much you use profanity, especially with using the word nigga?
What's something that's making you happy or gives you joy in life right now?
I just came across yet another post in another queer sub about some girl and her gf and it's obvious the relationship is a mess and everyone is saying run, but of course...OP doesn't want to listen. Or the people that post their partners being terrible on social media and then backtracking with the "oh but this isn't how they always are."
Y'all.
I know it's hard to get out of these relationships sometimes, I've been through it but my goodness. Nothing more annoying than something talking about how lousy their partner is and people respond, "hey, that's bad, you should end this..." and OP just goes on and on with more terrible things the partner has done. I get they're probably venting and needing to get this out.
But when you say your friends aren't listening to you anymore so you've gone to Reddit or TT...sweetheart, it's time to let it goooooo
The QWOC Pride Census is officially closed.
390 of you answered out of the roughly 24,000 members here. Stats are broken down above in the images.
So y'all are clearly sick of hearing about white people
While there wasn't much feedback, there was a consistent complaint about the topic of white-centered convos . So starting in July the white noise flair will instead become a once monthly megathread. All conversations, rants, complaints, etc. centered around white people will live there. Anything posted outside of that thread will be removed without warning. It's getting its own space to live so that everyone can enjoy this sub centered around women of color without having to interact or worry about white-centered conversation.
Thanks to those that answered.
I’ve always been a physical reader and I have a ton of books, but I’ve read a few e-books when I couldn’t get a physical copy of what I wanted. I’ve just never enjoyed the experience, same with audiobooks. I definitely prefer the narration in my own head; narrators can really vary in how they read the material and it has a massive impact on how much I enjoy something. So I was curious how other bookworms go about enjoying their books 🤔
Moving forward there will be a once monthly thread for folks to post about white-related conversations, vents, issues, etc. It will be on posted on the first Monday of the month starting in July. Any and all posts centering white people posted outside of that thread will be removed.
There’s been a mix of opinions about white-centered posts and conversation in this sub. What sometimes happens is that folks see a venting post about a particular topic and they feel safe to vent about a recent similar issue, which is fine.
However, after many conversations and discussions, all posts that centered white-related issues (dating, work, relationships, general venting) were relegated to only being allowed on Mondays (although one might slip through the cracks on occasion).
Since the start of 2026, there have been:
- 9 White Noise posts (2 of which were removed after being posted on the wrong day)
- Dozens of scattered comments in posts that mention white people in a specific instance or topic
As stated previously, this sub is centered around Black lesbians and our experiences, which do involve issues related to race. This should be a space for yall to express and discuss how you want to handle the topic of race-related discussion. So I’ve created a poll for you to shape how the space moves forward.
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If you’re not a Black lesbian, this space is not for you. If you’re not a lesbian but you’re dating one, this space is still not for you. If you’re queer and Black but not a lesbian…still not for you.
Folks in this space have made it very clear that they want to keep it exclusively for Black, lesbian women. There are other queer and Black sapphic subs to find community (and we can suggest some if you need). However this one is strictly for the lesbians.
Please respect that while intersectionality is important, not every space is going to be for everyone. Don’t encroach on this community because you feel entitled to it. As a community, we have enough people encroaching on our culture and existence so let’s not try and do it to each other in our own damn spaces.
I'll be compiling a list for QWOC for other queer and sapphic related subs along with some other resources!
With this sub actively growing and Pride right around the corner, it felt like good time to do this: the first QWOC Community Census. It is anonymous and no personal info is collected (email, name, reddit username, etc)
It's just questions about your experience in this sub, how you identify, how you show up in the world, etc.
As we know more about who's actually in this space, we can add more relevant topics and posts, help smaller communities get connected and add things y'all actually want to see. Take a minute to explore the census (it's a Google form) and feel free to answer the questions if you'd like!
So I go to a recurring weekend comedy show and had a bit of a surprise experience. There was a Black comedian doing her set and she was bagging on this trio of guys sitting in front of me; she was talking about dating and how she knows that they’re a problem and whatnot.
And then she suddenly points at me and says, “But you, I want you to like me! You just sitting there being a fine ass little stud, lil chocolate thing…”
😳 I ain’t never in my life. My worst fear at a comedy show is getting called out by the comic (especially if I’m solo) but this was def unexpected. I laughed it off but I was surprised and very flattered. I don’t think I’ve ever been so aggressively called out like that but I liked it 🤣
After removing several posts in this sub (and another) and seeing them pop up in *multiple* queer subs, age gap posts can no longer be posted here. There is a recurring pattern with posters: their language, not replying to any responses spamming subs with weird and random age gap posts. So we ain’t doing them here anymore.
Hey Y'all,
So I’ve noticed an uptick in posts and comments that don’t align with the tone and purpose of this sub.
While this is a space for Black lesbians to talk openly, vent, and share experiences, it also needs to remain welcoming and rooted in uplifting, supporting, and loving on our community. Criticisms, debates, venting, etc are fine as long as they stay respectful. That includes being mindful of language (and attitudes) that can reinforce misogynoir, even when the intention is just venting frustration.
Going forward, I’ll be more attentive and will no hesitate to remove content that crosses that line so the space stays supportive and doesn’t turn harmful.
Appreciate y'all.