u/wanderlostorfound

I'm looking for objective advice from people who have dealt with something similar.

I was in a relationship that ended a while ago. Since then, I've repeatedly told my ex that I don't want any contact anymore. I've blocked him everywhere and have made it very clear that I want to move on with my life.

The problem is that he keeps contacting me intermittently. Sometimes there are weeks or even a month of silence, and then suddenly he'll call multiple times. Every time I've tried talking to him to get closure or make him understand my perspective, the conversation always goes in circles. It turns into discussions about who hurt whom, what's "fair," and things that happened years ago. It never actually reaches a resolution.

In the past, he has also shown up where I was and once contacted someone I was dating to ask them to back off so he could "have another chance." That crossed a major boundary for me.

Recently, after another conversation where I again told him not to contact me and that I'd consider formal action if he continued, he said he didn't care what I did. Since then, he went quiet for about a month before making another call.

I'm not afraid that he'll physically harm me, but every time I see his name pop up or notice a blocked call, my anxiety spikes because I keep wondering if this is the start of another cycle.

I'm not looking for revenge or to get back together. I simply want him to stop being part of my life.

For people who've experienced something similar:

Did intermittent contact eventually stop on its own?

At what point did you decide to involve the police or take legal action?

Is continuing to ignore the best approach, or is there something else that actually helped end the contact?

I'd really appreciate practical advice rather than assumptions about either of us. I'm just trying to figure out the healthiest way to move forward.

I'm looking for objective advice from people who have dealt with something similar.

I was in a relationship that ended a while ago. Since then, I've repeatedly told my ex that I don't want any contact anymore. I've blocked him everywhere and have made it very clear that I want to move on with my life.

The problem is that he keeps contacting me intermittently. Sometimes there are weeks or even a month of silence, and then suddenly he'll call multiple times. Every time I've tried talking to him to get closure or make him understand my perspective, the conversation always goes in circles. It turns into discussions about who hurt whom, what's "fair," and things that happened years ago. It never actually reaches a resolution.

In the past, he has also shown up where I was and once contacted someone I was dating to ask them to back off so he could "have another chance." That crossed a major boundary for me.

Recently, after another conversation where I again told him not to contact me and that I'd consider formal action if he continued, he said he didn't care what I did. Since then, he went quiet for about a month before making another call.

I'm not afraid that he'll physically harm me, but every time I see his name pop up or notice a blocked call, my anxiety spikes because I keep wondering if this is the start of another cycle.

I'm not looking for revenge or to get back together. I simply want him to stop being part of my life.

For people who've experienced something similar:

Did intermittent contact eventually stop on its own?

At what point did you decide to involve the police or take legal action?

Is continuing to ignore the best approach, or is there something else that actually helped end the contact?

I'd really appreciate practical advice rather than assumptions about either of us. I'm just trying to figure out the healthiest way to move forward. I am just super scared when I see or hear anything related to him at this point.

I am 22, 1 year in work experience and 1.8 year in relevance experience. I wanna get out of India as soon as possible, I know it is a dream of almost every Indian and almost most of the people of other country and it is super competitive but I want out. I scored fair in graduation (9 cgpa) and my past education scores are fairly okay (above 80). What could be the best approach to land in US for me? I work at an MNC and its headquarter although is in US, I haven't seen a single thing on the internet of internal transfers within country from India to US. I also have a tight constraint of money, its either loan or scholarship, my parents do have money but that won't be enough i guess. I want some realistic ways, Ideas and/or timeline for all of these. I have come here after a long time of spiraling, overthinking and over researching. I might not have done the right research but I have done enough. And US is not the only country I have in my options but I wanna know which is better country to go to?

Please, Can anybody share any ideas? I really welcome solutions not opinions 🙂

I am 22 and I live in India, 1 year in work experience and 1.8 year in relevance experience. I wanna get out of India as soon as possible to maybe US or some country better than India ASAP. I know it is a dream of almost every Indian and almost most of the people of other country and it is super competitive but I want out. I scored fair in graduation (9 cgpa) and my past education scores are fairly okay (above 80). What could be the best approach to land in US for me? I work at an MNC and its headquarter although is in US, I haven't seen a single thing on the internet of internal transfers within country from India to US. I also have a tight constraint of money, its either loan or scholarship, my parents do have money but that won't be enough i guess. I want a solid plan because I know for a fact that at 22 I ain't going anywhere. US is the prime target but any other better conditioned country is cool as well.

Can anybody share any ideas? Or path that they followed or know about?

So I am working in an MNC for a year, the pay isn't exceptional neither I am asking money from my parents. I feel like I am meant for something bigger. It has always been my dream to settle abroad, maybe first study there and then become a citizen or go for work with work visa whatever. I graduated on April last year 6 month internship 1 year full time employment. I have some options, study abroad, but I do not have enough money to sustain neither I have the whole picture of study abroad, search for jobs abroad, with my work experience companies are not even asking me for first round, switch, same issue like before, work experience, and lastly to take a promotion, well Indian corporate promotions are a shitshow. Every night I stay up late thinking of how I am crushing my potential but yet again I cannot seemingly help it. Any advice? Please 🙏