Is there any way to ethically question my grandma’s will?
For context her two daughters are getting everything in the will (my mother and aunt) its going to be split evenly 50/50 between the two of them which sounds fair on paper until I gave it thought.
My grandma stopped driving in 2017 due to many reasons and a lot to do with age so my mom started driving her everywhere beginning in 2017 and of course still doing it in 2026, this is doctor appointments, hair appointments, groceries and a dozen other places that she takes her to every few days, gas adds up and so does time. She had a brain aneurism in 2019 and thankfully came out great with a 10% chance of survival but this sudden change made my mom practically become the caregiver of my grandma for 6+ months which of course she never had a problem with that, it’s her mother. In 2020 my mom lost her husband of 35 years to a very sudden health condition and was still tasked with taking constant care of my grandma, no rest for the weary. Grandma broke her hip in the fall of 2024 and my mom was tasked with caregiving and all work around the house and it’s still something she has to do today to some extent. On top of everything I listed my mom has to work 4 12 hour shifts (she’s picking up days and commute is an hour so more like 14 hour days) to afford her own basic amenities with her being a widowed mother.
My aunt is a “digital nomad” who owns her own business that has practically no work that she needs to do because her employees do it all, I’ve asked her and normal work weeks for her are 5 hours a week of just meetings on the laptop. She travels around the world 330 days of the year with her also successful husband who does his own thing digitally too. His family lives states away from ours so in that 1 month of not traveling for them 2 of the weeks are spent with his family and 2 are spent with ours, my aunt stays at our grandmas for those two weeks and helps her around the house and had the audacity recently to call my mom and ask her to drive my grandmother to places because she was “busy that day”.
My mom hasn’t been able to live her own life for the better part of 10 years, she LOVES flying and went through rigorous training and memorization to become a flight attendant, I thought she was turning a new leaf and cried tears of joy that day back in 2016, it was a major airline with less than 1% acceptance rate and she was forced to quit to take care of her mother after only being there for less than a year. Over these last 10 years I’ve noticed my moms hair thinning from stress, doctor appointments for depression medication only because I was nosey (she never told me about it) and working a job she hates and gets bullied at by younger trashy employees. My aunt very recently announced a 5 year cruise she’ll be going on which was the reason I’m even making this post, my mom is shy and never one to speak up for herself so I’m asking Reddit, is this something I leave alone or have a talk with my grandma about.