u/wedgestatkiller

My fellow PI paralegals. Have you too felt the rage and frustration with Chartswap Insights since the switch happened. I’ve seen so many emails to support and spoken with so many reps about missing documents or saying no records found when I have a copies of their discharge paperwork and older records. Ever since the merge and or switch I feel like it’s been a nightmare and also charging $37 for every single request is ridiculous for one sheet of paper. Literally they charged $37 for the request and then $2 for 1-2 pages.

Sorry I just had to let that little rant rage out because I am beyond frustrated with the new system especially with the way they handle billing. This honestly makes me miss doing QDROs 😆

I don’t know if this is the right place but I could use some advice or direction maybe or maybe I just need to vent it. So on my birthday my biological dad decided to drop the bombshell on me that my grandfather has cancer lymphoma to be exact. He didn’t answer my questions when I asked about the level of cancer and type of severity cause why answer that when you can make it about you anyways not the point. My grandfather hasn’t disclosed this to me even when I was vague in my text like “hey I just heard something from x and I’m just worried” and he texted that he was fine and he’s not really said anything. He lives on the west coast and I’m on the east coast taking care of my maternal grandmother with my mom so I haven’t been to see them in a long time but he’s also dealing with my paternal grandmother going through dementia so suffice to say he’s been through it.

For context on him and why he’s might not have told me, he is a retired 30+ year marine and he’s always been very logical and keeps his cards close to the chest and is very private which I guess is where I get it from. I don’t want to push him to tell me but at the same time not knowing what is going on terrifies me and I feel so helpless being so far away.

Idk what I should do. Should I let him tell me in his own time cause I wanna respect his privacy but at the same time this year has not been kind I lost my maternal grandfather in March and the woman that was a second mother to my mom so my grandmother in February (about ten days apart they went) and I’m not sure what to do??? Any advice or help is appreciated but I will always understand is this isn’t allowed

So for context I hadn’t had a pap in a couple years and I can’t afford insurance so I go to the clinic in town. I’ve been having intense pain in my ovaries for a couple years as well and an old ER visit revealed a large cyst. I went to an OB for a follow up regarding the cyst but she said I needed to come back later but since I don’t have insurance and cause I had a bad experience with her I put it off which brings us to last week. I scheduled a pap with a doctor at my clinic. After doing an intake with the nurse about my visit where I also explained the pain I’ve been having during, before or after my cycle sometimes having to curl into a ball to relieve the pain along with increased depression and anxiety during my cycle along with thick dark hairs.

The doctor walks in and sits reading through my file we have the basic you know pleasantries and she proceeds to ask my if I’m eating healthy or exercising, I’m overweight I know that and I suffer from body dysmorphia so this question threw me off so I answered it. I bring up the pain, the increased depression/anxiety, the cyst, etc. So we proceed to go through the exam and she turns to the nurse and tells her to get a “larger” gown for me to wear. I get changed (the gown did not fit me cause it was smaller than the previous one lol). The exam proceeds to go horribly first I was having sharp pain and it felt like she was digging around and she even had to swap out for another size and trying different speculum entries and angles and at no point does she ask me to try to move or think of another way to do the exam. Finally I saw “ow” and that’s when the exam ends and she proceeds to tell me that she can’t locate my cervix and that I need to go find another obgyn and basically tries to walk out of the room but when I asked her questions like you “is that normal” (cause I don’t know lol) and she goes well it could be because of your BMI and then talks about scheduling labs for diabetes and then when I asked about my pain and the dark hair and other issues she schedules a lab for testosterone for the hair. The entire time I’m questioning and you know trying to get information she just brushes it off and leaves the room never to come back.

After the exam, I had a breakdown later that day because I felt body shamed cause of the comments about my weight but also I was still in so much discomfort from how she handled me downstairs and when I told my friend and my mom about her not able to find my cervix they both looked at me like “what!?” I feel like maybe I’m overreacting but I felt so ignored during the appointment and body shamed and just idk how else to describe it

Any advice or thought would be a appreciated

So I got excited and wanted to kind of share the love and excitement. I was running audits today on my files and doing a “here’s what you missed on glee” type email recapping our settled cases and the status of their settlements and as I’m going through I had the thought “I wonder how many cases we had vs how many we’ve closed” and y’all it might not seem like much but I’ve been here almost a year after switching firms and we had about 113 of cases in my department and I closed 28 of them in the span of a year and there’s about 21ish cases left that have settled and will be closed soon. Whoohoo!

Is it bad that things like that are what excite me now? Have I really eached that level of adulthood where little things like that give me joy 😆

Anyways it’s Friday y’all what are some moments that brought you joy and excitement while working.

So I was originally a family law paralegal for 4 1/2 years and at my old firm I was basically the Swiss Army knife that got passed around being expected to clean, help answer phones, watch the front for the receptionist, meet with bankruptcy prospective clients to do their intakes, take clients to the attorney, retain clients (like get payment, contract signing, give them worksheets for their case, etc) on top of doing dictations, keeping my attorney on track, returning calls, doing discovery, doing filings, etc. On top of dealing with office drama including a co worker who bullied me and was incredibly toxic to the point I had panic attacks and crying fits in the bathroom (which she used against me when they had a meeting saying I cried a lot)

To make a long story short. I quit that place last year and went to a new firm working in a different area as to not cause the firm any conflicts. Suffice to say, I’ve never been happier I mean there’s still days I wanna rip my hair out and office drama but just the fact that the clients I’ve had two who we settled cases on that gave me flowers and I had one that made me cry cause we managed to get one of her subrogation liens reduced by a lot and and she hugged me and her husband called me an angel and I just. I’m overwhelmed by the difference in feeling and wanted to share that even if the work is stressful and hard and someday you wanna just like run away or snap it’s little things that make you appreciate things.

Also sidenote on old firm. They’ve gone through three new girls to fill my position and they only last a couple days or a week 🤭 and the girl that bullied me has been working longer shifts as a result. I don’t wanna be petty but karma is a bitch lol