u/whatmeagainn

Hi everyone - Need some advice on how to navigate this.

First I just want to say, I have been around people with HSV and never judged or even gave it a thought.

We have a family member visiting that wants to meet our 5 month old son. I do not want to bring him around this person due to several reason.

1. He's only 5 months
2. We do not know what type this person has
3. We do not know if she's on meds or has been
4. She's a bit of a black sheep & will crash out if confronted with anything

This family member is on my husbands side. He doesn't agree with my take on not wanting to bring our son around because this family member has "been around kids"

He even said "You know I'm going to have to tell my mom about this" I asked him if he's gonna tell her it's only my decision & he hesitated and felt annoyed that he needed it to be "OUR" decision.

Am I just being a difficult for not wanting to bring my son? I feel like my husband is making me feel bad and wanna tell them we're not bringing him because of ME so it takes the heat from him too.

US | F | 30 | Asian

30F - I go back to work next week after 4 months of maternity leave.

I am considering quitting my job for a few months to stay at home with my child until he’s a year old but I’m having mixed feelings.

I just became a manager 8 months ago. I am currently a Procurement Manager which is somewhat of a hard path to get to. I make $130k a year + $2k a month on my side gig. My husband makes about the same. I believe my field is in demand right now since Procurement’s main purpose is to save companies money and with how the world is, companies are all about cutting cost.

I am still scared what if I don’t find a job after he turns one? What if taking a break from work harms my career progression?

At the same time, I want to raise my son & be there for all his milestones.

For those yall that’s been in similar situation as me, did you regret taking a break or not taking a break and why? Love to hear experiences on both sides. Thanks!

30/F - Am I trippin for feeling a way?

My husband and I have been together for years. Beginning of our marriage I was the bread winner kinda. I pay about maybe 60%-70% of our household bills and he paid the rest since I made more. Any big purchases like closing cost for 2 of our condos and paying off our cars to get a new one always fell on me.

Fast forward about a year and a half he’s making more money. He got 80% ($2,300/mo) disability then recently went up to 100% so basically $4,000 montly from VA alone. then he probably makes like $8,000 from his regular job. He took on paying for groceries entirely & baby formula so our bills kinda balance at this point.

We just had a kid. I want to quit my job until my son is 1. I make about $7,100/mo on my regular job that I will quit. I get $2k from the VA for my disability. My portion of the bills alone are $3.5k so I technically only need $1.5k to pull out my ass to cover my bills. I have $100k saved up. My husband doesn’t have much savings.

Am I tripping for feeling a way about him not wanting to cover the $1.5k I need to cover on my bills? Yes I have savings but I spent my savings on us before at this point damn near $45k on our house, car etc the past years.

50/50 and separate finances is a convo for another day we’re not talking about that right now lol