u/wildnstuff

so I am huge animal guy with a goal to eventually transfer into an animal/education role at dak and maybe even the seas. I have zoo and vet experience and just started a neat job in aquaculture (in fact some of our fish were bought by Disney to live at the seas in the epcot). In January I got an interview for bus driving, tho I have no experience with that all. I was rejected from animal roles which I get, it’s mostly internal and such (roles I meet or exceed qualifications for) even got turned down as a kennel tech when I did that and some tech work.

i just got back home from a background check and did fine. During the interview my recruiter said I can reach out to be waitlisted if I feel second thoughts about the role to which I did, and she then said she’d do so after I get my CDL permit and dot done, both of which are done. my waitlist expires next month and I asked again about it, and another recruiter (scheduled my check but not the one I interviewed with) said there’s abs nothing available at all and if I drop bus driving I have to reapply after July 20. Like I said this is the only time I scored an interview with them despite having more experience with other things I applied for and I fear it’ll just be more rejections if I go with dropping buses. my childhood friend who works at Disney has even tried helping me to no avail. any advice?

im also despatate to escape my family. I live near them and they’re costing me a lot mentally and are trying to make me not go. both like to use me for their errands and tracking my location and are tryng to convince me not to go, the longer I stay this close the more theyre going to stand on this.

This has more so been over the course of months, but prior to that, I've been wanting to get into a huge company for years that has a variety of career choices, one being a wildlife conservation area. My mom raised me on animals, with books, docs, zoo visits, and in high school I volunteered three years at an AZA zoo that has done great conservation work. I'm 24 now, and since have worked vet med and now work with kids part time, and tropical fish other job. Context; I lived with my mom and sister in another state years ago, and we recently all moved here two years ago (not sharing what states, but Im now in the state as the company, about an hour and change-2 hours with traffic away).

So years, I've been applying to areas I saw fit in this company, and no luck. My friend, who's also from our state and was my friend since 2nd grade, moved here years before my fam and I did, as he got a job in this company, so more motivation. So just this year, I go for another role that required driving for the company, as a foot in the door to lead to the wildlife area since that's the best way to do it due to their size. In years of trying... I score an interview, and the recruiter liked me and said I was a good fit. Here's the thing... Im in a townhouse my mom bought me. Why? Well, we first moved back down here (we lived here once before just to try it out, when I was like 12-13), we oved to the small house we first had first time here. My grandma needed help, so my mom sold her house, and bought a bigger house in a gated community to fit her, my little sister, and grandma, and left me to the small house. But, my mom wanted me closer, so she bought me a townhouse in the same community, though at first I tried to politely say I can stay in the small one, but everyone felt bad for me being alone 20 minutes away ig. So Im like 2 minutes from mom, but my grandma ended up passing, so it's me in the townhouse, my mom and sister in their house. How does this tie into the interview?

Like I said, I scored and did well on it this year, and began busting my butt of studying for the CDL exams and despite, I didn't do well a few times, which hurt me, and my mom and dad saw and heard how crushed I was when I couldn't pass. Finally, weeks later, I knock out the tests, and my mom cries joy tears. My dad, who offered to help me study but couldn't get around to it, was happy, and now recruitment with the company is moving forward. Come Saturday yesterday, my dad makes me come to his place for a talk. He goes on about how I should think about staying and not moving two hours (usually less than that) away, and started talking about how I'll have other people in my vehicle on my hands, suggesting an animal place in this region (which would be an over hour commute both ways), that I have a cush life and would go from that to rent, that me and my friend may fall out, and what if I have car issues up there without help, and that people these days get fired left and right, and I'd be at a "then what" moment. Now... my mom just texted me today asking for me to come to her place to chat. I just don't get how they were supportive before but now are trying to scare me from going forward. I'm 24, my friend is excited to have me up there, and the current city I'm in is not younger people friendly, job market wise, dating wise, and fun wise. The city I'm going to is in all those aspects. Both my mom and dad do always ask me for favors, like dad asking me to look after his dogs when he's out of town, my mom tracking my location and asking me to pick her up food if she sees I'm near somewhere to eat, both asking me to drive them somewhere in my truck to haul for them, etc. So idk if that's why they're trying to talk me out or what. But yeah, all in all, should've kept this all on the low. What confuses me about my dad is he seems against this, but wants me to have a kid it seems. Like he always asks about grandchildren from me and says he had my older brother around my age, despite me not at the point in life I should/want kids yet, and that my two older sisters on the paternal side have kids already. He's also a bit sus of my friend because well... Caribbean dad doesn't like that I hangout with a guy so much, though we're both straight and I see no issue with same sex couples myself anyway.

I'm grateful, don't get me wrong, but for years even before this, I have been the errand runner, and I wasn't near my dad before until moving to this state which he's always been in, so now he has me closer. Again, way grateful for the townhouse, but it's a good career opportunity, plus I mean being able to get off work and not have to be asked to do something is nice, plus since it's legally her house per name, the Ring cameras and indoor cameras are connected to her accounts, so she knows when I'm leaving/coming in etc, and plus has keys so can come over whenever, though to be fair if she knows/thinks I'm home she usually gives a heads up.

TL;DR: Tried for years to get in a big company that would lead to wildlife work, got an in, parents trying to scare me into not going so I can be closer for their own reasons.

Edit: The mom talk was her saying she talked to my dad and agreeing, and saying I have it easy now and don't know what I'm doing to myself, and says as soon as I'm gone she's selling the townhouse and if I end up coming back and it doesn't work out, I won't have that to go back to. She was going to rent it, but said every renter dipped out when they found out it's a townhouse. That's why before this all, I was content on having the small first home, and when they wanted me to move into the gated community, of the options, the townhouse being one, I kept opting for the cheapest house (1 of 2 regular houses in the community, and stil nice, and 1 of 3 options) that was available, and everyone involved said no because the townhouse is nice. So... yeah. She brought up I tend to "spaz" when I get stressed, which most the time I'm laid back, but I'm ADHD/autistic and the rare times I can't escape overstimulation, I may shut down for a bit (not really spaz, she tends to go on tirades though). That whole talk kind of is scaring me toward a not go for it.