Hey 👋 21m from Cape Town ,just thought i would give this a shot and try to make new friends. Im easy going, chilled and open to talk about anything and if you need someone to talk too Im here . I love football,barbering,movies and series. My favourite types of movies are comedies ( dark humour) and my favourite series is Game of Thrones and my favourite animes are Naruto and DBZ.i like learning new things and challenging myself . I also like learning new languages so if you perhaps speak multiple languages i would love to learn from you.😅

Hi, as much as I’ve tried the whole finding a partner thing offline, it hasn’t worked out so here we are 😅.

Looking for someone kind, caring, respectful and is great at making conversation.

I can be socially awkward, I talk a lot and my love language is quality time.

Physically, my requirements are being taller than me (I’m really short so this shouldn’t be a problem) and good hygiene.

Based in Cape Town, so ideally you would be based here too so we could actually meet and hang out.

Wishing you all a lovely weekend ahead!

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just another diva DOWN because the dating apps have humbled me enough. so here's my craigslist ad for a boyfriend.

i'm 22, based in the northern suburbs around tygervalley, currently finishing my honours in genetics and starting my master's next year. very much a STEM girl and genuinely love what i do, so unfortunately you will probably have to listen to me talk about forensic genetics and drilling into bones at some point.

i'm looking for a unit who's christian, around 22–26, based in cape town (preferably the northern suburbs), who could theoretically carry me out of a burning building and is passionate about what he's doing with his life. i really like someone with his own ambitions who actually cares about what he's doing.

i'm the type of person who wants to do anything and everything. i like the gym, coffee, thrifting, making pottery, making silver jewellery, and i'm currently very keen on climbing, hiking, camping, and generally getting outside and touching some grass. i'm partially a homebody against my will, so i'd love someone who gives me a reason to actually leave the house and go experience things.

i'm not really looking for a gamer boy whose ideal saturday is 14 hours in front of a pc, i'd much rather have someone who wants to go do things with me, whether that's a hike, finding a cute coffee shop, trying something new, or just wandering around somewhere and talking for hours.

mostly, i'm just looking for someone kind, curious, emotionally mature, and intentional. someone who knows what he wants, even if he doesn't have his entire life figured out yet.

anyway, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take so maybe i'll meet someone, maybe i'll make a friend, maybe this will be deeply embarrassing and i'll delete it in 48 hours and pretend it never happened.

if you think we'd get along, feel free to send me a message and tell me a little about yourself xx

37F. Cis woman. Lesbian (NO MEN please). Chapstick lesbian and can switch to femme. Working remotely. Travelled a lot in my life and now living in Western Cape. I have been told that I look younger than I am.

After overworking for the last 6 years, I attended a retreat overseas earlier this year and I’m now taking it easy this year living close to the beach where I’m focusing on my health, doing what I want and leaving all worries for next year.

A lover of markets, the sun, beach, slow living and staying healthy so I don’t fall and can’t get back up.

I consider myself grounded, funny and do not take myself too seriously. I have put in a lot of work to create a safe and secure environment for myself and you can be soft with me. While I like to lead, I am a complete golden retriever outside of the bedroom and anyone would be able to see my devotion to you. Inside of it, I’m dominant.

Communication, consistency and consideration are foundational to me. I value openness, intelligence as well as emotional intelligence, empathy, loyalty and effort.

I melt for brunettes and blondes who are able to navigate through tough conversations, have self-awareness and are willing to repair after conflict or a miscommunication.

Child free by choice so I’m looking for same.

I don’t smoke nor drink - simply a preference as I don’t like the taste so these are not dealbreakers.

I work at a start up (not AI). You should be financially stable as well.

I have a small loyal circle of friends and I think the world of them.

Ideally, you are more femme and submissive and share the same values as I do.

Please be out - I won’t date someone who is in the closet.

At the end of the day, I’d love to knock off and have you in my arms where we check-in with each other, ask how we are both doing and have that sigh that the life I have built is one of peace with you.

To prevent scammers, men pretending to be women and catfish, please send a photo of yourself in your DM and we can verify (I have Discord as well).

I look forward to hearing from you.

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Probably a strange and hopeless request but giving it a shot here I guess?
I’m an American woman who recently was sat next to a very sweet and polite man from South Africa on an American Airlines flight from Orlando, Florida to Chicago, Illinois. We both had about an hour layover/connection there Sunday morning (9/27).

Unfortunately, he caught me at a bad time. I was exhausted and recovering from a long weekend heading home on a very early flight and I wish I had been more conversational but I was struggling to be present. This is definitely not the kind of thing I do, but the interaction has been on my mind since getting off the plane and waking myself up with some coffee. It’s stuck with me for one reason or another and the internet exists, so why not embarrass myself?

Honestly, I barely felt coherent and I couldn’t hear him very well, but I will try my best to relay what I think he told me about himself...
He was tall (stuck in the middle seat he could barely fit in), white or white passing, and handsome. Maybe green eyes? Probably in his 30s or early 40s at the oldest? He’s been working agriculture in America. I believe he was working in Alabama (maybe Birmingham?) last and he is heading to work in Iowa (somewhere on the eastern border) for the next 10 months. I think he recently went to a college football game here in the states and I think he was visiting a married friend in Florida? He’s been cage diving and I think has a sister in Cape Town (why I was advised to post here). He doesn’t mind snow and isn’t a city person.

If you made it this far and know him or are him, I’d be very interested in trying that conversation again.

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Thank you guys so much for the advice and support! I’m not all that well versed in reddit or an active user so I wasn’t sure what to expect, but everyone has been so kind and I really appreciate it.

A couple things:
I don’t really use social media so I don’t have Facebook. Even though most of you think that’s my best option, I think making a page for this purpose is too weird. I also will not contact the airline because even if they did give me his info, I think that’s taking it too far and I want to leave him the option of not contacting me. I’ll update if this goes anywhere and thank you all again!

*A lot of those Facebook pages are private also, but if anyone here is in them I am okay with them sharing this post!

A couple of months ago we posted that Eastern Cape law firm Joubert Galpin Searle (JGS) has unveiled a new fixed-fee conveyancing pricing model. It is a common misconception in the South African property market that conveyancing tariffs are set in stone by law and cannot be negotiated. In fact, some traditional attorneys might even tell you that discounting fees is "unprofessional" or against the rules. This is simply not true.

The South African Legal Practice Council (LPC) recently issued a notice addressing the rise of fixed-fee pricing models in conveyancing. If you are buying or selling a property soon, here are the key takeaways you need to know to protect your wallet:

• The conveyancing fee guidelines currently used in the profession are exactly that - guidelines. They are not statutory tariffs. The LPC confirmed there is no law prohibiting a legal practitioner from charging below these tariffs or offering a fixed-fee model.
• The LPC dictates that regardless of the fee structure used, the conveyancer must deliver the exact same standard of care, skill, and professional quality. You are legally entitled to standard service even on a discounted fee.
• Advertised fees must clearly disclose what is included and what is excluded. Always ask for a written, itemised quotation before committing.

You have the power to negotiate. If you are buying a property - especially in higher price brackets where percentage-based guideline fees become astronomical - you do not have to accept the first standard tariff you are quoted. Shop around, look for fixed-fee conveyancing services, or ask your chosen attorney to negotiate their rate.

Just ensure you are comparing apples to apples. When comparing quotes, look strictly at the professional attorney fee. The statutory costs (SARS transfer duty and Deeds Office fees) are fixed by the government and will be exactly the same regardless of who you use.

Hope this helps some of you save a bit of cash and secure a fixed conveyancing fee on your next transfer!

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Well, this is a little outside my comfort zone. But let's see how it goes.

I'm a 31 y/o black woman working in healthcare. I Love travelling, good food, coffee, laughter and the occasional completely unproductive weekend. Recently just got into a fitness craze.

I’ve got a pretty full life, but I’d like to meet someone to share it with. Someone kind, emotionally mature, funny, affectionate and genuinely interested in building something meaningful.

Not in a rush, not looking for perfection, only just curious whether my person might be somewhere I haven’t looked yet.

Hey! Decided to make another post and see who I might meet :)

I’m 21M from Paarl, Western Cape, half Italian and half Sotho. I’m hoping to meet someone between 19 and 23 around Paarl, Stellenbosch or the Cape Winelands in general. Ideally I’m looking for something genuine that could eventually develop into a relationship, but I’m also completely happy making new friends if things don’t go that way. I genuinely believe becoming friends and getting comfortable with each other first is the best way to start anything.

A little about me, I’m currently studying to become a chef, so cooking is a massive part of my life. I love trying new food spots and cooking for other people whenever I get the chance. It’s honestly one of the ways I like showing affection too.

I’m pretty nerdy and really into gaming and anime. I mostly play single player games, but I’m always keen for multiplayer stuff like Warframe, Palworld or honestly anything fun with the right person. Music is also a huge part of my life. I listen to practically everything, although lately it’s mostly been rock, R&B, blues and jazz. I recently started learning guitar and have gotten slightly obsessed with it 😂 I’m also getting more into wine and have started building a little collection of my own.

Personality wise, I’m quite introverted and can be pretty shy at first, but once I get comfortable with someone I open up a lot. I love stupid random jokes, teasing, a little dark humour here and there, sending memes and reels and having those completely random late night conversations about whatever comes to mind.

I definitely prefer one on one time. I’m equally happy going out for food, visiting wine farms, going to concerts or exploring somewhere new as I am staying in, gaming, watching something or just chilling together. I’d say I’m pretty laid back, caring, curious, spontaneous, nerdy and admittedly a little stubborn 🙈

I’m agnostic and completely respect other people’s beliefs, although when it comes to a relationship I’d prefer someone somewhat like minded. I tend to get along with people who are kind, talkative, affectionate, independent and passionate about their interests. We definitely don’t need to like all the same things either. I’m more than willing to try your interests and learn about the things you love.
If any of this sounds like we might get along, feel free to DM me :) Tell me your favourite song right now, your favourite game, a food spot I absolutely need to try, or honestly just send me something random😌

Hi All,

So at this again...

Moved to Cape Town, near the CBD, a couple months ago and met some cool people this side. However, it does seem most are generally keen to hang out once in a while. And most prefer to keen in they established social circle.

So looking for friends, M or F, ideally in the late 20s and early 30s to hang out but all ages are welcomed, to explore Cape Town or if you looking for a friend to tag along on your hobbies.

My interests include football, F1, rugby and golf. Keen to try padel and hiking which seems to be the craze this side of the world.

Drop a comment or DM if keen.

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A Western Cape High Court judgment delivered on 22 September 2026 (L.C v C.B.C NO and Others [2026] ZAWCHC 549) highlights the brutal reality of Cape Town’s seasonal rental market and the legal risks of piecemeal property litigation.

Even with an eye-watering court-ordered rental budget of R140,000 per month, securing a short-term, pet-friendly, furnished executive rental during the Cape summer season proved nearly impossible - leading to an urgent High Court showdown over mansion furniture and a R1 million furnishing claim.
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The applicant (the wife) and the fifth respondent (the husband) are embroiled in a bitter divorce. The matrimonial home - an expansive property on an estate in Constantia - is owned by a trust.

Earlier in 2026, the trust secured an order directing the wife to temporarily vacate the Constantia residence for four months so extensive repair work and an overhaul of the home automation system could take place. Under that previous order (granted by Wille J):

• The wife had to vacate for four months.
• The husband was ordered to contribute R140,000 per month in advance so she could secure "suitable alternative accommodation".
• He was also ordered to pay required lease deposits and reasonable removal/moving costs.

When the wife went to the open market to find a temporary home for her, her children, and her pets from late September 2026 to late January 2027, she hit a brick wall.

She engaged multiple leading agencies across Constantia, Camps Bay, Fresnaye, and Green Point - including Pam Golding, Seeff, Dogon, Sotheby’s, Tyson, Steenberg Rentals, and Hunt Property. The properties she encountered fell into three predictable traps:

1. Readily available, but lacked beds, tables, and basics.
2. Furnished, but strictly no pets (a common thing in high-end sectional title or luxury rentals).
3. Because the dates (September to January) cut right across peak tourist season, landlords had already switched to daily holiday rates rather than monthly leases, blowing far past a R140k/month budget.

She eventually found an ideal pet-friendly home in a secure complex - but it was completely unfurnished.

Because the alternative house was unfurnished, the wife approached the High Court on an urgent basis seeking an order to:

• Permit her to remove sufficient furniture from the Constantia matrimonial home for four months, with the respondents covering removal costs both ways; or, in the alternative,
• Compel the husband to pay R1,000,000 within three days so she could furnish the rental property herself.

The husband and the trust opposed the application. They argued that the Constantia furniture was either owned by him or intended to be placed in storage during renovations, that R140,000/month was more than sufficient for furnished lodging, and that the issue of accommodation support had already been settled.

The Ruling

Judge Thulare dismissed the urgent application with costs on Scale C (a punitive tariff for counsel's fees).

1. All remedies arising from a single cause of action must be claimed in one proceeding to avoid endless, piecemeal litigation. The court found that the nature and quantum of "suitable alternative accommodation" had already been determined by Wille J when setting the R140k monthly contribution.
2. The court noted that in short-term relocation matters (especially for a mere four months), the notorious industry standard is to secure furnished accommodation. A tenant is not expected to arrive at a temporary four-month lease with moving trucks to clear out an entire mansion.
3. Given the animosity between the parties, the court held that if the wife intended to strip the marital home of furniture or demand an unfurnished rental with extra capital, that dispute ought to have been ventilated during the original hearing - not brought as an urgent afterthought months later.

Key takeaways

• Between October and February, medium-term lets (3 - 6 months) virtually disappear from Cape Town's prime suburbs. Landlords prioritise daily holiday lets where a property can earn double its normal monthly yield.
• Be Specific in Court Orders and Settlement Agreements: When drafting maintenance orders, relocation terms, or settlement agreements that involve "suitable alternative accommodation," explicitly state whether the premises must be furnished or unfurnished, who covers storage, and how pet restrictions are handled. Leaving it ambiguous invites costly litigation.
• Courts are increasingly willing to award costs on higher scales when parties attempt to re-litigate issues already decided in previous orders.

Hey! I’m 22M, currently finishing my degree in Stellenbosch. I live in Northern Suburbs. I’ve realised that between studying, training and working towards the future, it’s pretty easy to fall into the same routine and not actually meet many new people.

So I figured I’d put myself out there.

A little about me:
• Christian, and my faith is an important part of my life.
• Very goal-oriented and probably a little too passionate about the things I want to build in life 😂 I enjoy having big ambitions and actually working towards them, but I also think life is meant to be enjoyed along the way.
• Currently training for a Half Ironman, so I’m usually doing something active — running, cycling, swimming, hiking, etc.
• I absolutely love nature and getting away from the city. Weekend road trips, mountains, remote places, camping, finding a random farm or town to explore — I’m pretty much always up for it.
• Into investing, finance and business, although I promise I can have a conversation that isn't about the markets 😂
• Slightly obsessed with aviation. If you own an airplane or helicopter, please DM me immediately. I have questions. 😂
• Big on meaningful conversations, humour, curiosity and people who are genuinely passionate about something.

I’m mainly hoping to meet people I genuinely click with — whether that's grabbing a coffee, going for a hike, doing a spontaneous day trip, training together, or just having a good conversation somewhere.

I’m at a stage where I’m trying to build an interesting life rather than just a successful career, and I’d love to meet people who feel similarly.

Hey, 24M, based in Cape Town.
I realised recently that most of the people I meet socially don’t really share one fairly large part of my life: I genuinely enjoy talking about business, investing, building things, money, and how people design their lives.
I’m a software engineer by background and currently building my own fintech/SaaS product. Before that I spent most of my twenties being aggressively responsible with money, investing, reading far too much about ETFs and taxes, and occasionally remembering that money is in fact supposed to be spent as well.
I’m not looking for networking in the LinkedIn sense, and I’m definitely not trying to sell you anything. I’d just like to meet people who are ambitious, financially independent/comfortable, entrepreneurial, or simply doing something interesting with their lives.
Outside of work I’m much more normal than the paragraph above makes me sound. I love cooking, good coffee, restaurants, hiking around Cape Town, movies, travelling, and conversations that start with something completely stupid and somehow end up discussing economics, psychology or whether we should all move to an island.
I live around the Atlantic Seaboard and I’m usually up for coffee, dinner, a hike, wine, or just wandering somewhere and talking.
Men or women, any age roughly 23–40. Strictly platonic — looking for friends, not dates.
Bonus points if you:
built or are building a company
invest and actually enjoy talking about it
work in tech, finance, consulting, law, etc.
have an unusual career/life story
are the sort of person who gets slightly too excited about a new idea
Send me a message and tell me what you’re working on / obsessed with lately.