u/wmari99

They called a supervisor on me in product sort and the leads that had switched out with the ones I was working earlier tried to throw me under the bus and make it seem like it was my fault for not leaving an hour early to drop carts at the gate. The funny thing I did take two carts of PHX, a last minute bag, while also waiting for tons of pushbacks that day. I basically had to explain everything to the supervisor even though I was super flustered and he couldn’t tell in my tone, there were 2 flights, PHX and a SYR that were late as PHX had more stuff when I had got back to PS bagroom. The supervisor took my employee number down btw I work for united.

So I decided this is my final time living with my narc mother and narc step dad as chaos unfolds and grows in that house. Our last argument was about me wanting to wash my clothes for the job I just recently started,it was 8:50-9pm and my mom wanted to impose a rule on me that I couldn’t wash my clothes as she would be going to sleep shortly, which she wasn’t because she was still up for another hour and a half but instead she had me put her clothes in the washer and tried making a fuss over what cycle I put the washer machine on,also her clothes were sitting in it previously as a hamper for like a day. To make the story short I got pissed and started swearing, she then started talking about my dead farther etc, we were cursing at each other, and my step dad did not back me up as always he sided with mom and blames me. Even though this incident was minor in comparison to other incidents I feel like it’s shown me I’ve wasted so much time living with people that will actively tear me down and make miserable, isolate me, and continuously gaslight me and my needs as a human being.This week has particularly been tough as I’ve been out of my parents house for almost 3 weeks now and no support system, or friend and I’m ashamed to admit it but I contemplated suicide by jumping off the top of a parking garage. My mom still texts me like normal and downplays everything and says I should just apologize and come back to their house, she needs someone to cut the grass and do other chores. My step dad also tried to play the family card “blood is thicker” over the phone when he called me. I’m 26 years old and I don’t want to live like this anymore.

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I've had a very strained relationship with my mom since I was 15-16 years old. She is a narcissist she likes to create chaos where she can; earlier this week on Monday I had got home at 4:45-5pm from work and later that night I torgot I had no more work clothes to wear as they were all dirty my mom was sitting in the living room doing stuff for work that she would be up for another hour it was 9pm I figured I would wash my clothes on a quick cycle and dry for another 45mins and be done by 10pm. Now here comes my mom. She tells me you're not washing this late at night, and she says her clothes are in the wash. Now I get not making a ton of noise or washing super late, but this felt more like a power trip, since she wasn't in a good mood that night. She was using the washer like a hamper and hadn't even started washing her clothes, which she didn't need for work. She had me start her load of clothes, yelled at me, and demanded to know if I put her clothes on a quick cycle or a full 1hr30min cycle, as she only wants the normal cycle, and gets even more rude,
"Did you even put detergent in the machine?" which of course I did. I got so irritated. Keep in mind, I had already told her I had no clothes for work the next morning and that traffic would be heavy, so I would have to leave early.
She basically says she doesn't care and to wash them in the morning, which obviously won't work because I have to go to work in the morning, and if I put them in the wash too early, she'll yell at me and say I woke her up at 5am or something. I get so angry because I go out of my way for her and my stepdad, and she wants chaos this night. I cussed and said I would fucking going to the laundromat, to which she replied don't curse in her home and we went back and forth, and she talked about my dead father, cursed me out, etc. Now I did give her the same energy back, which I regret, but dealing with these people, they know where to push your buttons and get a reaction out of you. I basically packed all my crap into the car, slept for 2.5 hours, went to the laundromat, put my clothes and other possessions in storage, and went straight to work.
I've been sleeping in my car, booked a hotel for one night, but I have nowhere to go and no family that cares or friends in my life. Im 26 years old, and I'm embarrassed that this is my life. By the way, I'm finishing college. She's done worse to me in the past by kicking me out her house for being queer, homophobic, beating me, scapegoating me, talking crap on the phone about me, attempting to stab me, etc. I left a few times before, once when I was 18 and another time when I was 20 and I regret ever coming back and feel that I had become codependent.

trigger warning

I’ve had a very strained relationship with my mom since I was 15-16 years old. She is a narcissist she likes to create chaos where she can; earlier this week on Monday I had got home at 4:45-5pm from work and later that night I forgot I had no more work clothes to wear as they were all dirty my mom was sitting in the living room doing stuff for work that she would be up for another hour it was 9pm I figured I would wash my clothes on a quick cycle and dry for another 45mins and be done by 10pm. Now here comes my mom. She tells me you're not washing this late at night, and she says her clothes are in the wash. Now I get not making a ton of noise or washing super late, but this felt more like a power trip, since she wasn't in a good mood that night. She was using the washer like a hamper and hadn’t even started washing her clothes, which she didn't need for work. She had me start her load of clothes, yelled at me, and demanded to know if I put her clothes on a quick cycle or a full 1hr30min cycle, as she only wants the normal cycle, and gets even more rude, “Did you even put detergent in the machine?” which of course I did. I got so irritated. Keep in mind, I had already told her I had no clothes for work the next morning and that traffic would be heavy, so I would have to leave early. She basically says she doesn’t care and to wash them in the morning, which obviously won’t work because I have to go to work in the morning, and if I put them in the wash too early, she’ll yell at me and say I woke her up at 5am or something. I get so angry because I go out of my way for her and my stepdad, and she wants chaos this night. I cussed and said I would fucking going to the laundromat, to which she replied don’t curse in her home and we went back and forth, and she talked about my dead father, cursed me out, etc. Now I did give her the same energy back, which I regret, but dealing with these people, they know where to push your buttons and get a reaction out of you. I basically packed all my crap into the car, slept for 2.5 hours, went to the laundromat, put my clothes and other possessions in storage, and went straight to work. I’ve been sleeping in my car, booked a hotel for one night, but I have nowhere to go and no family that cares or friends in my life. Im 26 years old, and I’m embarrassed that this is my life. By the way, I’m finishing college. She's done worse to me in the past by kicking me out her house for being queer, homophobic, beating me, scapegoating me, talking crap on the phone about me, attempting to stab me, etc. I left a few times before, once when I was 18 and another time when I was 20 and I regret ever coming back and feel that I had become codependent.

I recently started working with United as a ramp agent for the past 2 months, but only my month of training counts toward my 6-month probation period. I don’t have experience working on aircraft mechanically, but I do have experience fixing cars and rebuilding engines. Is it worth pursuing this further?