u/wolven8

I was adopted at a very young age. My biological father left when I was only a few months old and my biological mother abandoned me at my grandma's place. When I was adopted I referred to my grandma as my mother because what else was she. When I was in middle school my biological mother finally contacted me. She wanted me back. She went to court to win me and luckily lost. I am 25 years old now. I was diagnosed last year with cancer and my family wants me to meet my biological mother, they want her in my life. It makes me realize that no one in the family sees me as a real member. Ive never been equal in my family. Im just an object to pass around. I wish my biological mother was dead. My biological father, he's great, he never tries to know anything about me. He respects my boundaries. My family doesnt care, they think they know better. It makes me so mad. I used to abuse myself when I was a child because I was so upset that my biological mother didnt want me. Id punch myself so that it wouldn't show anyone that I was self harming. And my family, they dont care. They support me for money since I cannot work because of my cancer. But they give all my information to my biological mother even though I told them to not. They dont care. And when I die from my cancer.... they'll probably go against my requests and bring my biological mother to my funeral. Im the victim why do they give her control over my life.

Any survivors? I barely see any posts 😨

I am a cancer patient with stage 3 brain cancer. I can talk, walk, and do everything normally. But im dying and im dealing with chemotherapy right now. My family makes me realize that because im adopted ill never be a true member of my family. Im the youngest of all my 4 siblings, (20 years younger than them) Only one of my sisters has been helping me over the last 9 months. Because I cannot work ive lost most of my money. I've almost gone homeless multiple times this year. When I told my family about my diagnosis one of my family members response was "did you find that on google"... as if I had just lied to everyone like as if I wasnt having a crisis. Additionally, I told my family members that I do not want them to tell my biological parents about my cancer diagnosis, but they did it anyways... my friends when I told them all my friends that are in different states came to see me and checked on me a lot. Even now they check on me. But my family, they dont ask, they dont come and see me. I thought that family was something that was there to help you but I realized that its just fake. What's even worse is that my siblings are rich. They could easily help me out. But instead I need to beg for money. I lost almost everything ive had. I went from having 16k in my savings to 2k and no job.