u/wooooweeee444

Hello! My husband is currently in A school, graduating next week. His orders to C school are from November 17 to February 5, so he has about 4 months until graduation. Most realistically, I know the most likely/realistic answer is to be patient because training comes first. I just wanted to see if there was anything I could do to be able to move with him, on or off base during that time or if anyone else has experienced anything similar? I hear of something called command sponsorship. He is O level aviation ordnance going to San Diego if that helps anything.

My husband is going to MCT at camp Geiger from August 4-September 3rd and I have seen mixed information on whether I will be able to visit. My friend is visiting her boyfriend at MCT as I type this he’s “sponsoring” her and meeting her at the gate to take her in, however his is in California so I’m not sure if the rules differ base by base. Has anyone experienced this/ know the rules?

I (18f) and my boyfriend (19m) plan to get married after his marine corps bootcamp. We have been dating since we were 14 and 15, and our relationship is nothing short of wonderful. He treats me like a princess, and simultaneously he lets me be my own person and encourages me to purse whatever dreams I have. We get into arguments as most couples do but he never raises his voice, and it always ends in one of us taking accountability and it goes right back to normal. He also has a great deal of respect for women. If he gets hit on, he firmly rejects them but doesn’t make them feel embarrassed or be rude about it at all.

Basically, our relationship is beautiful , fulfilling , which is why I want to be able to marry and live with him. I already planned to do college online, and have no idea where I want to move now that I graduated high school. That works out perfectly with marrying him, as I my online schooling will allow me to flexibly move and this will let me try out a new location without any pressure of deciding where to go. I say this because everytime I try to talk to someone about it (Our family and friends are so supportive about it, I am referring to strangers) they act like I am throwing my life away. They tell me to not rely my future on a man, and to not marry so young.

I feel like those responses fail to acknowledge the nuance. Most women who marry at 18 are traditional, and do it becuase they feel like they have to so I understand why they say that to me. However there is nuance! My situation is unique and completely different. With all this being said, it is really difficult to not let their opinions get to me. I am a leftist and a feminist (my boyfriend has the same views as me by the way) so when people say those things I really take it to heart.

How can I brush it off? And not get upset from their opinions

This is probably similar to a lot of posts on here, “my boyfriend left for basic, I’m so sad, what do I do” and then they said to keep yourself busy and time will pass. I have a supportive family, a job, and friends but he left this morning and I feel so heavy and empty. Is there any niche tips to help how I’m feeling?😭