u/yungjeffer

It’s all over the place, even in this subreddit. What do normies not understand about someone simply being born undesirable, and that there’s nothing we can do to change our circumstances, not even a little bit. Countless posts and comments here describing our everyday experiences as an FA, and people still have the gall to spout useless generic advice like “just hit the gym and self improve bro” as if the thousands of people in this sub who are 25+ and 30+ haven’t tried various forms of self improvement extensively already.

I’m so tired of the bullshit invalidation and the discounting of our entire lived experiences. Also, mental health care is one of the most blatant, unhelpful scams to ever exist, especially here in the states. I’m only pursuing it to get excused off work for an extended period of time. Other than that, the actual treatments and medications themselves are complete bullshit and just as invalidating as your typical normie visiting this sub and making a comment here for the first time, thinking their generic advice and bullshit anecdotes are even remotely helpful to us.

Rant over.

It is extremely harmful to hold hope for someone who has objective, undeniable, unchangeable evidence that they are undesirable. I’d rather someone tell the truth about how inherently undesirable I am than have them try to pathetically placate me with lies and delusions of this ridiculous so called “hope”.

With the billions of people in the world, there exist people are are destined to be rejected forever, alone forever, yearning forever for something that will never happen, no matter what they do with themselves in this life.

It’s extremely harmful to try and deny this reality from us FAs. Normal people will just never understand. They’ll never just leave us alone and let us be.

If only there was an option to realistically pursue chemical castration. I would be able to finally live my life and pursue my life goals in peace, without the harmful, agonizing existence of romantic and sexual desire.

I just hate how often I develop crushes on women who would never see me as attractive. It hurts so much to know I will never experience what it’s like to be attracted to a woman and find out that she likes me too.

The pain is incredibly deep and intense. So intense that my therapist and psychiatrist are highly recommending for me to pursue php/iop care. So much money spent on mental health care and meds all because I am a universally unattractive, completely undateable abomination, failed excuse of a man.

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Title says it all. I am very anxious about pursuing PHP/IOP, but it is something that both my therapist and psychiatrist strongly advised me to do. I have been very lonely lately and am very desperate to connect with others who might relate, which is a big reason why I want to pursue PHP/IOP.

I feel numb

It hurts a lot to know I will never be someone’s favorite person. I will never know what it’s like to be romantically loved, to be cherished deeply and seen as beautiful or attractive. It hurts to know I will never develop a close romantic bond with a woman. It hurts to know I’ll never know what it’s like to be cuddled, kissed, or snuggled up in bed with a woman I like. It hurts to know I will never have the deep conversations, go on fun dates with a girl who is clearly interested in me, or even just get a friendly text conversation with a girl I like that continues for weeks.

It’s so painful to realize that none of this will ever be a reality for me. And it’s all because I exist in this world as me. Maybe if I was born as a different, more attractive guy, I could be able to experience just one of these things.

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Hello! New to the sub here and I am a huge fan of the money guy show.

I currently have $20k in assets as a 26 year old single guy living with his parents. While I feel proud of reaching this milestone considering that I make below the median salary for my age group, I can’t help but feel extremely far behind the average person my age, especially with finances. I make around $40k a year before taxes working at an amazon warehouse doing night shifts 30-40 hrs a week. I’m also in uni taking full time credits as well (software engineering major). The only reason I stay at amazon is because they pay for my tuition in full, so no loans or any sort of out of pocket costs for me.

I try to invest as much as I can with what little I make at 21.60/hr. Currently contributing 13% to my 401k, along with putting a total of $35 a week into a roth IRA and brokerages combined. Thankfully, I have no major debt whatsoever.

It’s insanely hard to balance all of this along with other aspects of my life, and I can’t help but feel like I am experiencing insane “financial dysmorphia”, especially when looking at all of these financial mutants around my age or even younger or not that much older than me. My mental health has been on a steady decline since age 14, and finances are a huge part of it, especially when looking at others my age or close that are MUCH more successful than me.

I feel like I’m not doing enough at all.

I swear they're lying to me every time I talk to them about how undesirable I am. They keep trying to reaffirm me into thinking that I am actually a desirable person and that I have to like myself in order to attract someone. They keep repeatedly telling me that I am too harsh on myself while I literally have 12 years of lived experience explaining why I am such an undesirable male.

I just don't understand why they would repeatedly lie to me about how I am not inherently undesirable. In all likelihood, they're just trying to keep me as a client so that they don't lose their livelihoods or something. They probably say this to every client who is in a similar situation as mine. Who knows.

Now I'm about to be sent to some outpatient facility or something where they will apparently do brain scans on me all because I am an undesirable male who is unable to attract women.

Can't wait to go to the looney bin and miss days of work! Wow!