u/yungwildandlearning

Ah man, most people can't wait for their first ultrasound but I was just taking everything day by day and somehow it flew by. From a positive test at 3+2 weeks to an ultrasound with a heartbeat. My little blob was measuring right on time (8+3 weeks) with a heart rate of 159bpm.

I'm so grateful I got myself to this space of mind because if I had to walk into that room 3-4 months ago I would have been a mess. I wouldn't have been able to handle the conversation with the tech or with my OB about, "no this isn't my first pregnancy. No were excited but nervous. Oh yes, these are the tests and scans we want to focus on."

Today is a win, I'm full of gratitude and relief. Now I need to continue to remind myself that it's day by day, test by test, month by month. Being optimistic, being positive, and enjoying this pregnancy.

My OB asked how I got to this point and I said with my reddit community. So thank you all.

Send all the good vibes my way please! 🌈

Update: thank you all for the well wishes! My rainbow baby is measuring right on time 8+3 weeks with 159HR 🤍 Happy to have made it to this point 8 weeks down 32 to go 🙌🏽

Hi all, I'm officially 2 months. My first scan is tomorrow and if all goes well I decided I'm going to look into therapy and plan for biweekly sessions once I reach my second trimester.

I find myself in a solid place at the moment. I worked hard to be the person I am right now after my loss in Oct '25. I never went to therapy after my loss because I had a lovely support system and did a lot of inner and outer work before ttc again.

Currently, I journal positive happenings everyday, I try not fixate on the what ifs, I don't worry about the future but what is happening in the current moment, and I try to not let bad thoughts enter my brain.

But as I continue on with my sub pregnancy I know I'll be undergoing a lot more screening, scans, and tests due to my husband's translocation and our heart history with my son. I want to continue to be in the right state of mind. I also want to prevent postpartum depression, which I know a lot of people suffer from with their sub pregnancy baby after previous loss.

So if you are or were in your sub pregnancy, when did you get a therapist if you had one? And what did they focus on/what was their specific therapy in?

8 weeks today and the nipples have officially become sensitive. I did a run on the treadmill without my more supportive bra and boy was that a crazy thing for me to do. I'm for sure grateful for all the symptoms because for me, the deliberating nausea, the early bedtimes from fatigue, and the nipple sensitivity means I'm pregnant. Until I have my scan, these symptoms are my life line to my baby 🙌🏽

Praise the Lord, after two weeks, my body finally stomached a salad. It was small and not fancy, but I got a good dose of nutrients in and hopefully my BM tomorrow won't suck 😅

I'm sure tomorrow I'll spend the day surviving off snacks again so gotta take the wins when you got them.

I got my above ground pool 16'x48". And only after clearing the spot in my yard did it occur to me that I need to get a permit for electrical BEFORE I build the pool.

If you live in MA, was getting a permit a pain? What steps did you have to do before/during/after getting your permit as far as electrical goes.

I think the spot I chose would be within code but I thought nothing about the electrical 🥴 AND how much did it cost you all said and done?

I had a second trimester loss last year after finding my son's heart condition/heart failure.

I want to know what other moms who have had similar losses are planning when it comes to scans/diagnostics/screening? My genetic counselor reached out and offered a few NIPT options to consider. I'm still 3 weeks out from NIPT screening but I'd love to hear what others are planning.

We have a translocation so we may end up having Amniocentesis done but I'd like to avoid it if possible.

Yay! I'm 7 weeks today 🙌🏽✨

Yesterday I took a 20 minute nap at lunch break and had quiet the food aversions throughout the day but forced myself to eat because it only makes the nausea worse if I don't. Didn't want to move from the couch once I got home.

Today I did a 2 mile run before 8am and have all the energy in the world. Took down breakfast without any issue.

The first trimester man.

I guess I just want to share openly how this sub pregnancy feels different, mentally and physically.

My first pregnancy began at the end of this month, a year ago. My husband and I had been trying for months but aiming for a Dec/Jan baby. We had missed the window and I remember wanting to give up and try again the following year. Idk why I was obsessing over that time frame. I got my first positive at the end of June, I had mistaken spotting for a period. At our first ultrasound I was 12 weeks not 9 weeks. That entire pregnancy I had anxiety. I would test with pregnancy tests because I was convinced I wasn't pregnant. I didn't want to share with anyone and had this fantasy of making it to birth before announcing. I was okay with not having a baby shower and just buying everything myself (which I basically did). When I finally started to show, I didn't want to invest in maternity clothes or even accept them from my sister. I told everyone I didn't think I would ever have a belly. When we would have appointments I always wrote down the heart rate. My dogs had no connection with my stomach and I almost feel like I didn't either. I remember constantly complaining about my symptoms and wishing they would just stop, then when they did, I panicked.

At the anatomy scan we found out his heart wasn't formed correctly and within two weeks he was in heart failure with no helping him unless I could make it to 27 weeks, by then I wouldn't have the option to TFMR. So we said goodbye to my boy at 22+2 days.

This pregnancy, I feel, I desired it more due to our loss. We always wanted two kids and had plans to have Irish twins. This pregnancy was planned like our son's was. It took a lot to get here though. We have a due date of Dec/Jan (exactly like we wanted). I found out I was pregnant the earliest you could find out. My MIL had a dream I was pregnant while I had my LMP. I had a lot of cardinals visiting and ladybug appeared the day before my positive. My symptoms still suck but I'm grateful for them. My older dog is attached to my hip. I already feel like I'm showing and I'm already sharing the news before I even had my first scan. There is so much positivity with this pregnancy and maybe it's because we knew what we lost and how much of a miracle a baby is.

Idk I just feel like my mother's intuition prepped me, my body, mind, and soul knew I was going to lose my son. This time around, I have none of those feelings. It's out of my control, each day is a blessing with this baby.

Sending love to all my tfmr mother's, the moms who had to make the hardest decision because they loved their baby so much they carry the pain so their baby didn't have to. You are seen during mother's day. This community is my saving grace in so many ways and I just hope you honor yourselves today in a good way, you made it through the hardest day of your life.🤍

Hi! I made the poll yesterday about nausea. I'm currently 6 weeks and have been nauseous on/off since 3 weeks. But my first pregnancy I was way more nauseous to the point where I was throwing and un able to function from 7-13 weeks.

I know some of you are really struggling and I think you should take a look at your prenatal. I take Olly brand WITHOUT iron because in my first pregnancy I was taking a prenatal with iron and realized on my own that it was causing me to be more nauseous/to vomit. My OB last time was fine with my prenatal chose and told me once the nausea stopped I should incorporate iron supplements back into my diet because the baby would rob me of it.

So I just wanted to share that too much iron can be causing you to get sicker! Try switching to a non iron prenatal and see if it works.

When did you start experiencing nausea?

View Poll

I had my tfmr in October. Now I had an army show up to support me. Thinking about it to this day, I could cry. They dropped everything to show up for me and not a day goes by I'll forgot those acts because those acts got me here.

I had friends bring food, gift cards, cards. Send texts and sentimental gifts. They talk about my son without a beat whenever and wherever. And I hope everyone had this after their TFMR.

Because I had so much support I didn't want to focus on those friends who I thought were my friends, that didn't show up. They sent one text either "I'm sorry" with some filler words or "love and miss you" without the acknowledgement that I just went through the worst time of my life. It even got to the point with those friends that I bought a new phone and refused to transfer contacts. If you texted me after I got a new phone, then that's saying something.

Two weekend ago I had a wedding to attend (6 months after my loss) and I knew these "friends" were going to be there. Guess what, I had to sit at the same table as them. They gave me hugs, said they missed me, "we need to hang out." 2 months I've had this new phone and not a single texts from them until... AFTER THE WEDDING. Apparently I didn't look like I was grieving anymore, I must've just looked welcoming again because all three of them have texted me. Not to say, "hey sorry I lost touch" or anything along those lines. Just to talk shit about other people. HAHAHAH what an absolute joke these humans are. I told one of my good friends about them and she said, "oh yeah the night before the wedding she asked if I talked to you anymore and when I said yes, she started crying because she said she doesn't know what to say to you."

Sorry if you couldn't be there for me or my husband during our darkest days, I have no empathy for your tears. You don't get to enter my life again because you think I'm fine, because you think the old me is back, because you feel more comfortable around me now that I'm not crying all the time.

Absolutely, not.

This is my second pregnancy and I didn't "show" until 15/16 weeks with my first. I already feel 2 months (I'm 6 weeks) pregnant and I already look closer to 3 months at night time. I know they say you show earlier after each pregnancy but my boobs just started to come in. Thankfully I have plans of sharing early this time because there's no way I can hide it all summer.

I'm either having twins or one large baby (I was 10lbs at birth so probably the latter). Either way, the human body is crazy!

I had a TFMR in October for CHD (Ebstein's Anomaly de novo) and I was very active in the gym before and during my pregnancy. I have an old man friend there who I bonded with. 2 weeks prior to my L&D I took time off from the gym and returned about 10 days later.

When I came back I didn't want to talk to anyone. But of course my old man friend immediately found me and asked where I had been. He didn't know I had been pregnant let alone that far along. So I broke down and cried in the middle of the gym, explaining what had happened. He gave me a hug.

He had been diagnosed with cancer around the same time as my TFMR and went missing from the gym for a while after that crying session. I was scared he didn't make it, but late January he was back.. just to tell me where he had been and how he was doing. He's been on/off at the gym ever since, so I always check on him when he's back.

Today we both shared how we're cutting back on gym days and I asked him why (medication issues) and he knew exactly why I was cutting back. He took my hand and shared the most sincere congratulations. I said everything is up in the air because he have some genetic testing hurtles to get past first but that I was 6 weeks and happy.

Today was the first day I got to tell someone face to face. It's the earliest I've told anyone. My last pregnancy, I didn't find out until around 5/6 weeks. I didn't tell anyone until 12 weeks. It feels so different this time. Sunday, on mother's day, I tell my family. 🤍

I'm curious how all my other fitness moms are. I know there's a subreddit but just wanted to talk to the December moms.

I'm super active, trade job keeps me on my feet 90% of the day. I work out doing cardio/strength training prior to work every morning. Then I come home and walk my dogs for about 20 minutes. I always get around 12,000 steps without trying. I usually don't sit down to eat until around 8-9pm. I've been this way my whole life. I thrive off 5-6 hours of sleep and I don't religiously track my weight.

I had a loss at 22+2 weeks last year. I put on 10 pounds of grief weight and right before I recently got pregnant I officially weighed in around my pre-pregnancy weight (I had only gained 5 pounds). I just changed my eating habits and peeled myself off the couch.

So now I'm almost 6 weeks, I just took a 4 day hiatus from the gym because I had some spotting one day and I know it was because I was overdoing it at the gym. Been napping when my body needs it. I weighed myself last week (to keep track of my monthly weight gain) and even though I'm nauseous 24/7 I'm still fueling my body as much as before/if not more. Well, I lost 2lbs within a week or two. And I know that sounds like nothing but this happened in my last pregnancy, hence why I only gained 5 lbs.

Do you think I'm losing muscle or I really need to eat more? My stomach is already showing from the bloat and I feel like I'm nourishing my body/baby enough but I don't want them to miss out on nutrients because of me.

Has this happened to any other fitness moms?

We are newly into our sub and obviously I have a million emotions a day along with symptoms. To me, having a symptom helps me connect with this new pregnancy but I know it's harder for the partner who isn't experiencing this pregnancy. I'm sure it also doesn't feel real until the first scan.

So how did you feel prior to the first scan? How did you connect to this new pregnancy?

Lost my son late last year and after a lot of self healing, his due date passed. The following month I conceived my rainbow baby. I could cry writing this and just wanted to share with the reddit community as I prep to tell my family next week. Please send positive vibes and all the wishful thinking you can!

Morning,

I'm five weeks today. The past two days I had a light backache and uncomfortable twinges in my stomach (not like cramps but just uncomfortable pressure). This morning I wiped and my discharge had a little pink to it. I had bleeding in my last pregnancy when I was 3/4 weeks but idk if this is normal for 5 weeks. Has anyone else had this happen in a healthy pregnancy?

Morning,

I'm five weeks today. The past two days I had a light backache and uncomfortable twinges in my stomach (not like cramps but just uncomfortable pressure). This morning I wiped and my discharge had a little pink to it. I had bleeding in my last pregnancy when I was 3/4 weeks but idk if this is normal for 5 weeks. Has anyone else had this happen in a healthy pregnancy?

Update light pink spotting/mixed with mucus only happened that morning and that afternoon. After contacting my doctor I think I'm just one of those women that just spots when they're pregnant. I'll be taking a break from the gym and exerting myself so my body can focus on growing this baby. Thanks for all the input!