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Medicina na Estácio da Barra pelo FIES Social 100% ou Odontologia em federal: o que vocês escolheriam?

Tenho 19 anos e estou diante de uma decisão muito importante e queria ouvir opiniões principalmente de estudantes/médicos.
Eu consegui uma vaga em Medicina na Estácio da Barra, no Rio de Janeiro, pelo FIES Social com 100% de financiamento. A mensalidade é em torno de R$ 12–13 mil.
Meu sonho é Medicina, mas não tenho condições financeiras de continuar tentando uma vaga de Medicina em universidade pública por vários anos. Já estudei bastante para o ENEM e as notas de corte da minha modalidade de cota estão muito altas. Também vejo bastante discussão sobre fraude em cotas, o que torna a concorrência ainda mais difícil.
Então, para deixar claro: não tenho a opção de “continuar tentando Medicina pública”. Minha escolha real neste momento é:
1. Fazer Odontologia em uma universidade federal, ou
2. Fazer Medicina na Estácio da Barra com FIES Social 100%.
O FIES é o que tornou Medicina financeiramente possível para mim. Pelo que estou entendendo das regras atuais, a amortização é vinculada à minha renda e existe um limite de comprometimento de renda (até 20%, conforme as regras aplicáveis ao meu contrato). Ainda estou estudando cuidadosamente o contrato porque obviamente é uma dívida muito grande, mas não seria simplesmente uma mensalidade de R$ 12–13 mil que eu teria que pagar depois de formada.
Minha maior insegurança agora é a Estácio.
Vi algumas pessoas, inclusive o Assad, criticando bastante a Estácio e a Unigranrio. Isso me deixou muito preocupada porque comecei a pensar se estaria fazendo Medicina em uma instituição que poderia prejudicar minha carreira.
A unidade seria a Estácio da Barra da Tijuca, e pelo que encontrei ela teve nota 3 no Enamed. Pelo que consegui verificar, no Rio de Janeiro não existe nenhuma instituição com nota 5 no Enamed; existem cursos com 4, 3 e notas menores. Então não sei se a nota 3 deve ser considerada realmente ruim ou se está dentro de um cenário comum entre as particulares do estado.
Minha preocupação principal é o mercado de trabalho.
Se eu me formar em Medicina na Estácio e quiser trabalhar como médica generalista, vou ter dificuldade para conseguir emprego simplesmente por ter estudado na Estácio?
Não estou necessariamente pensando em uma residência extremamente concorrida ou em trabalhar nos hospitais mais disputados do país. Minha prioridade é conseguir me formar, trabalhar como médica e construir uma vida estável.
Gostaria muito de ouvir principalmente quem:
estudou Medicina em particular;
conhece a Estácio da Barra;
já trabalha como médico generalista;
ou conhece o mercado de trabalho médico no RJ.

Vocês escolheriam Odonto em uma federal ou Medicina na Estácio pelo FIES nessas condições?
Não estou procurando validação. Se vocês acharem que Medicina na Estácio é uma escolha ruim, prefiro saber os motivos concretos. Só peço que considerem que, para mim, Medicina pública não é uma terceira opção viável.

Oi, pessoal!

Meu objetivo sempre foi Medicina, mas estou pensando em entrar em Odontologia (UFRJ ou UFF) como um plano B enquanto continuo tentando Medicina pelo ENEM.

A ideia seria, se possível, puxar uma carga horária menor nos primeiros períodos para conseguir conciliar os estudos para o ENEM. Se eu passar em Medicina, faria a mudança de curso. Se não passar de imediato, pelo menos estaria avançando em uma profissão que também gosto.

Uma coisa que não pesa muito na minha decisão é o custo dos materiais de Odonto, porque minha irmã já é dentista e tem boa parte dos materiais, então isso não seria um problema para mim.

Queria saber se alguém aqui já fez algo parecido.
Alguém passou em Medicina enquanto cursava Odontologia?
Como foi conciliar a faculdade com os estudos para o ENEM?
Nas federais, vocês conseguiram diminuir a quantidade de disciplinas por semestre ou a grade acabou dificultando muito?
Acham que esse plano é realista ou, na prática, Odonto acaba consumindo tempo demais para estudar para Medicina?
Se puderem voltar no tempo, fariam essa escolha novamente?

Gostaria muito de ouvir experiências reais, principalmente de quem estudou em universidade pública.

My ex-boyfriend identifies as a Messianic Jew. He believes that Old Testament dietary laws are still binding, so he doesn’t eat pork and believes that eating it is disobeying God.
The biggest issue wasn’t that he chose not to eat pork himself. It was that he wanted to teach our future children that eating pork is against God’s law. I believe those dietary laws are no longer binding for Christians, so I couldn’t imagine raising children with two completely different messages about what God expects from them.
I kept imagining our child asking, “Why does mom eat pork but dad doesn’t?” His answer would essentially be that I was disobeying God. Even if he didn’t mean to judge me personally, I don’t think that’s a healthy foundation for raising children together. I didn’t want my kids growing up believing that one of their parents was going against God’s will.
For me, this wasn’t just a small disagreement about food. It reflected a much deeper difference in how we understand Scripture, grace, and the Christian life.
When I ended the relationship, something he said really hurt me. He told me that he had already been questioning whether he still loved me because, in his words, I was “creating a problem where there wasn’t one.”
That made me wonder if he truly understood how important this issue was to me. To him, it seemed like I was overreacting. To me, it was about the foundation of marriage and how we would raise a family.
Has anyone else ended a relationship over theological differences like this? Do you think I overreacted, or is this the kind of issue that is better addressed before marriage rather than after?

My ex-boyfriend identifies as a Messianic Jew. He believes that Old Testament dietary laws are still binding, so he doesn’t eat pork and believes that eating it is disobeying God.
The biggest issue wasn’t that he chose not to eat pork himself. It was that he wanted to teach our future children that eating pork is against God’s law. I believe those dietary laws are no longer binding for Christians, so I couldn’t imagine raising children with two completely different messages about what God expects from them.
I kept imagining our child asking, “Why does mom eat pork but dad doesn’t?” His answer would essentially be that I was disobeying God. Even if he didn’t mean to judge me personally, I don’t think that’s a healthy foundation for raising children together. I didn’t want my kids growing up believing that one of their parents was going against God’s will.
For me, this wasn’t just a small disagreement about food. It reflected a much deeper difference in how we understand Scripture, grace, and the Christian life.
When I ended the relationship, something he said really hurt me. He told me that he had already been questioning whether he still loved me because, in his words, I was “creating a problem where there wasn’t one.”
That made me wonder if he truly understood how important this issue was to me. To him, it seemed like I was overreacting. To me, it was about the foundation of marriage and how we would raise a family.
Has anyone else ended a relationship over theological differences like this? Do you think I overreacted, or is this the kind of issue that is better addressed before marriage rather than after?

Hi everyone.

I’m a Christian woman, and my boyfriend and I are trying to honor God in our relationship. We love each other, we want to get married in the future, and we genuinely want to wait until marriage for sex.
The problem is that physical attraction between us is very strong. Sometimes we end up getting carried away with kissing, touching, or spending too much time in situations where temptation becomes really difficult to resist. We haven’t had sex, but we’ve crossed boundaries that later made us feel guilty and convicted.
We always talk about it afterward, pray together, and try to set better boundaries. We truly want to obey God, but sometimes it feels like we’re fighting the same battle over and over again.
I guess my question is: is this something many Christian dating couples struggle with?
If you’ve been through something similar, what practical boundaries helped you? How did you deal with guilt without giving up? And if you’re now married, do you feel that waiting was worth it?
I’m looking for honest advice and encouragement, not judgment. Thank you for reading.

Hi everyone.

I’m a Christian woman, and my boyfriend and I are trying to honor God in our relationship. We love each other, we want to get married in the future, and we genuinely want to wait until marriage for sex.

The problem is that physical attraction between us is very strong. Sometimes we end up getting carried away with kissing, touching, or spending too much time in situations where temptation becomes really difficult to resist. We haven’t had sex, but we’ve crossed boundaries that later made us feel guilty and convicted.
We always talk about it afterward, pray together, and try to set better boundaries. We truly want to obey God, but sometimes it feels like we’re fighting the same battle over and over again.

I guess my question is: is this something many Christian dating couples struggle with?
If you’ve been through something similar, what practical boundaries helped you? How did you deal with guilt without giving up? And if you’re now married, do you feel that waiting was worth it?

I’m looking for honest advice and encouragement, not judgment. Thank you for reading.

Hi everyone.

I’m not a parent yet, but this is something I’ve been thinking about a lot.

My boyfriend and I may need to use a sperm donor in the future if we want to have children together. We both really want a family, and this is one of the options we’re considering.

One of my biggest worries isn’t the treatment itself—it’s the future. I’m afraid of how our future child might react when they learn that my partner isn’t their biological father.

If you’ve been in this situation, how did you tell your child? At what age did you start talking about it?
Did they accept it well? Did they ever reject their social father or say they wished they had a biological relationship with him instead? Did they become very interested in the donor?
I’d especially love to hear from families where the father has been present, loving, and involved since birth. How is your relationship now?

I know every child is different, but hearing real experiences would help me a lot. Thank you for sharing.

Hi everyone.

I’m looking for honest advice because I’m very emotionally involved in this situation, and I feel like I can’t think completely objectively anymore.
I’ve been dating an amazing man for a while now. He’s kind, supportive, loving, and I genuinely see a future with him. I can honestly picture building a life together.
The problem is that, due to a medical condition, it’s very unlikely that we’ll be able to have biological children together. If we decide to have kids, the most realistic option would be using donor sperm.

This is where I’m struggling.
Ever since I was little, I imagined having children who were biologically mine and my husband’s. At the same time, the thought of ending such a loving and healthy relationship over something he never chose and can’t control feels heartbreaking.

I don’t think I would love a donor-conceived child any less. My fear isn’t about loving the child. My fear is that 10, 20, or 30 years from now, I might realize I deeply miss the fact that my husband isn’t biologically related to our children, and regret staying because I underestimated how important that would be to me.
On the other hand, I’m also afraid of the opposite. What if I leave someone I truly love and never find another relationship that’s as healthy and fulfilling? Or what if I meet someone I could have biological children with, but who isn’t nearly as good of a partner?
Another important part of this is that I’m Christian. I’ve been praying a lot and asking God for wisdom. I don’t want to make a decision based only on fear or anxiety. I want to make the right decision, whatever that may be.
I’d especially appreciate hearing from people who have experienced male infertility, donor conception, or had to make a similar life decision.

If you stayed, do you regret it?
If you left, do you regret that?
How did you know what was right for you?

Please be kind. I’m genuinely trying to understand myself and make the best decision I can.

**TL;DR:** I’m in a loving, healthy relationship with a man who likely can’t have biological children due to a medical condition. We would probably need to use donor sperm. I love him deeply, but I’m afraid I might regret giving up the dream of having children who are biologically both mine and my husband’s. Has anyone been through something similar, and how did you know what was the right decision?

Hi everyone.

I’m looking for honest advice because I’m very emotionally involved in this situation, and I feel like I can’t think completely objectively anymore.
I’ve been dating an amazing man for a while now. He’s kind, supportive, loving, and I genuinely see a future with him. I can honestly picture building a life together.
The problem is that, due to a medical condition, it’s very unlikely that we’ll be able to have biological children together. If we decide to have kids, the most realistic option would be using donor sperm.

This is where I’m struggling.
Ever since I was little, I imagined having children who were biologically mine and my husband’s. At the same time, the thought of ending such a loving and healthy relationship over something he never chose and can’t control feels heartbreaking.

I don’t think I would love a donor-conceived child any less. My fear isn’t about loving the child. My fear is that 10, 20, or 30 years from now, I might realize I deeply miss the fact that my husband isn’t biologically related to our children, and regret staying because I underestimated how important that would be to me.
On the other hand, I’m also afraid of the opposite. What if I leave someone I truly love and never find another relationship that’s as healthy and fulfilling? Or what if I meet someone I could have biological children with, but who isn’t nearly as good of a partner?
Another important part of this is that I’m Christian. I’ve been praying a lot and asking God for wisdom. I don’t want to make a decision based only on fear or anxiety. I want to make the right decision, whatever that may be.
I’d especially appreciate hearing from people who have experienced male infertility, donor conception, or had to make a similar life decision.

If you stayed, do you regret it?
If you left, do you regret that?
How did you know what was right for you?

Please be kind. I’m genuinely trying to understand myself and make the best decision I can.

**TL;DR:** I’m in a loving, healthy relationship with a man who likely can’t have biological children due to a medical condition. We would probably need to use donor sperm. I love him deeply, but I’m afraid I might regret giving up the dream of having children who are biologically both mine and my husband’s. Has anyone been through something similar, and how did you know what was the right decision?