u/zeldagay

Hi everyone.

I’m a Christian woman, and my boyfriend and I are trying to honor God in our relationship. We love each other, we want to get married in the future, and we genuinely want to wait until marriage for sex.
The problem is that physical attraction between us is very strong. Sometimes we end up getting carried away with kissing, touching, or spending too much time in situations where temptation becomes really difficult to resist. We haven’t had sex, but we’ve crossed boundaries that later made us feel guilty and convicted.
We always talk about it afterward, pray together, and try to set better boundaries. We truly want to obey God, but sometimes it feels like we’re fighting the same battle over and over again.
I guess my question is: is this something many Christian dating couples struggle with?
If you’ve been through something similar, what practical boundaries helped you? How did you deal with guilt without giving up? And if you’re now married, do you feel that waiting was worth it?
I’m looking for honest advice and encouragement, not judgment. Thank you for reading.

Hi everyone.

I’m a Christian woman, and my boyfriend and I are trying to honor God in our relationship. We love each other, we want to get married in the future, and we genuinely want to wait until marriage for sex.

The problem is that physical attraction between us is very strong. Sometimes we end up getting carried away with kissing, touching, or spending too much time in situations where temptation becomes really difficult to resist. We haven’t had sex, but we’ve crossed boundaries that later made us feel guilty and convicted.
We always talk about it afterward, pray together, and try to set better boundaries. We truly want to obey God, but sometimes it feels like we’re fighting the same battle over and over again.

I guess my question is: is this something many Christian dating couples struggle with?
If you’ve been through something similar, what practical boundaries helped you? How did you deal with guilt without giving up? And if you’re now married, do you feel that waiting was worth it?

I’m looking for honest advice and encouragement, not judgment. Thank you for reading.

Hi everyone.

I’m not a parent yet, but this is something I’ve been thinking about a lot.

My boyfriend and I may need to use a sperm donor in the future if we want to have children together. We both really want a family, and this is one of the options we’re considering.

One of my biggest worries isn’t the treatment itself—it’s the future. I’m afraid of how our future child might react when they learn that my partner isn’t their biological father.

If you’ve been in this situation, how did you tell your child? At what age did you start talking about it?
Did they accept it well? Did they ever reject their social father or say they wished they had a biological relationship with him instead? Did they become very interested in the donor?
I’d especially love to hear from families where the father has been present, loving, and involved since birth. How is your relationship now?

I know every child is different, but hearing real experiences would help me a lot. Thank you for sharing.

Hi everyone.

I’m looking for honest advice because I’m very emotionally involved in this situation, and I feel like I can’t think completely objectively anymore.
I’ve been dating an amazing man for a while now. He’s kind, supportive, loving, and I genuinely see a future with him. I can honestly picture building a life together.
The problem is that, due to a medical condition, it’s very unlikely that we’ll be able to have biological children together. If we decide to have kids, the most realistic option would be using donor sperm.

This is where I’m struggling.
Ever since I was little, I imagined having children who were biologically mine and my husband’s. At the same time, the thought of ending such a loving and healthy relationship over something he never chose and can’t control feels heartbreaking.

I don’t think I would love a donor-conceived child any less. My fear isn’t about loving the child. My fear is that 10, 20, or 30 years from now, I might realize I deeply miss the fact that my husband isn’t biologically related to our children, and regret staying because I underestimated how important that would be to me.
On the other hand, I’m also afraid of the opposite. What if I leave someone I truly love and never find another relationship that’s as healthy and fulfilling? Or what if I meet someone I could have biological children with, but who isn’t nearly as good of a partner?
Another important part of this is that I’m Christian. I’ve been praying a lot and asking God for wisdom. I don’t want to make a decision based only on fear or anxiety. I want to make the right decision, whatever that may be.
I’d especially appreciate hearing from people who have experienced male infertility, donor conception, or had to make a similar life decision.

If you stayed, do you regret it?
If you left, do you regret that?
How did you know what was right for you?

Please be kind. I’m genuinely trying to understand myself and make the best decision I can.

**TL;DR:** I’m in a loving, healthy relationship with a man who likely can’t have biological children due to a medical condition. We would probably need to use donor sperm. I love him deeply, but I’m afraid I might regret giving up the dream of having children who are biologically both mine and my husband’s. Has anyone been through something similar, and how did you know what was the right decision?

Hi everyone.

I’m looking for honest advice because I’m very emotionally involved in this situation, and I feel like I can’t think completely objectively anymore.
I’ve been dating an amazing man for a while now. He’s kind, supportive, loving, and I genuinely see a future with him. I can honestly picture building a life together.
The problem is that, due to a medical condition, it’s very unlikely that we’ll be able to have biological children together. If we decide to have kids, the most realistic option would be using donor sperm.

This is where I’m struggling.
Ever since I was little, I imagined having children who were biologically mine and my husband’s. At the same time, the thought of ending such a loving and healthy relationship over something he never chose and can’t control feels heartbreaking.

I don’t think I would love a donor-conceived child any less. My fear isn’t about loving the child. My fear is that 10, 20, or 30 years from now, I might realize I deeply miss the fact that my husband isn’t biologically related to our children, and regret staying because I underestimated how important that would be to me.
On the other hand, I’m also afraid of the opposite. What if I leave someone I truly love and never find another relationship that’s as healthy and fulfilling? Or what if I meet someone I could have biological children with, but who isn’t nearly as good of a partner?
Another important part of this is that I’m Christian. I’ve been praying a lot and asking God for wisdom. I don’t want to make a decision based only on fear or anxiety. I want to make the right decision, whatever that may be.
I’d especially appreciate hearing from people who have experienced male infertility, donor conception, or had to make a similar life decision.

If you stayed, do you regret it?
If you left, do you regret that?
How did you know what was right for you?

Please be kind. I’m genuinely trying to understand myself and make the best decision I can.

**TL;DR:** I’m in a loving, healthy relationship with a man who likely can’t have biological children due to a medical condition. We would probably need to use donor sperm. I love him deeply, but I’m afraid I might regret giving up the dream of having children who are biologically both mine and my husband’s. Has anyone been through something similar, and how did you know what was the right decision?